| Nov 12, 2005 @ 5:34 PM |
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corvette_racing
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Many women expect their partner to immediately trust them 100%...
In my opinion, trust has to be earned over time. It will slowly grow over the years.. How can you immediately trust someone 100% if you only know them for a short period of time?
What do you all think about that subject?
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| Nov 12, 2005 @ 5:44 PM |
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freestylegreek
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I know some girls who started dating a guy after like 2 weeks and they expect the guy to tell them the truth. Later on they got cheated on.
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| Nov 12, 2005 @ 6:29 PM |
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chinabull2000
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Of course they expect the guy to tell them the truth! What a very strange comment!
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| Nov 12, 2005 @ 6:57 PM |
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corvette_racing
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my post was not about telling the girl the truth, it's about trust. If a woman consistently lies, it will be difficult to trust her and if she is consistently telling the truth, trust in her will increase consistently..
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| Nov 12, 2005 @ 7:30 PM |
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spongebob777
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Ive learned that a woman who will screw around with me behind her boyfriends back will very likely do the same to me.
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| Nov 12, 2005 @ 8:23 PM |
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exiled131
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Ionly trust myself 85% so anyone that wants me to trust them 100% is s.o.l. in my world.
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| Nov 12, 2005 @ 8:31 PM |
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summersquall
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I understand and agree with what you're saying Corvette. Trust is built on experiences with your partner. The more experiences you have together, the more you can predict how your partner will act or react. The level of trust is in fact built up over time. The more experiences you have together, the deeper the level of trust becomes.
I think there does need to be a distinction between trust and taking someone at their word though. I expect to be able to speak openly and honestly with someone I am in a relationship with. I expect them to tell me the truth just as they would expect the truth from me.
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| Nov 13, 2005 @ 10:30 AM |
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medusa642
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You cannot trust anyone immediately. It does take time. For me if I cannot trust someone and they lie to me once, they will do it over and over, there is no need to lie, what is the point? I am just wondering why women are not responding to this forum? Although I do not believe it is a woman issue, it is a people issue. Maybe background has something to do with it. How people were raised, if their parents raised them with morals?
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| Nov 13, 2005 @ 10:51 AM |
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corvette_racing
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You cannot trust anyone immediately. It does take time. For me if I cannot trust someone and they lie to me once, they will do it over and over, there is no need to lie, what is the point? I am just wondering why women are not responding to this forum? Although I do not believe it is a woman issue, it is a people issue. Maybe background has something to do with it. How people were raised, if their parents raised them with morals?
Don't know if background and how how they were raised has anything to do with it.. Probably in some cases.. I personally know people that didn't grow up in a good family environment and they turned out great, honest human beings...
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| Nov 13, 2005 @ 12:11 PM |
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definitelydi
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I do believe that trust must be earned. Until I feel I can trust someone, they receive the benefit of the doubt. The decisions and choices they make within the relationship determine when or if the benefit of the doubt turns into full fledged trust. For me, the benefit of the doubt is a fragile state. If this basic courtesy is taken advantage of, then the potential for anything real is dissolved.
Exiled has brought up a valid point, even if he didn't mean to! Trust in yourself is a huge factor in how you will trust others. If you feel uncertainty within yourself, you could either throw all of your trust into another person, or be utterly unable to trust at all. It's similar to loving yourself. You must love and trust yourself before you can truly do the same to another.
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| Nov 13, 2005 @ 12:17 PM |
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altogirl67
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I think a combination of things transpire in relationships regarding trust... at least the way I think about it. First of all, I trust people to a very high degree (maybe not quite 100%) in the early stages. Then, as they give me reasons NOT to trust them, they're just making withdrawals from the account. Likewise, as they prove that they ARE worthy of my trust, then the account will grow.
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| Nov 13, 2005 @ 12:19 PM |
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chinabull2000
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sorry corvette, my earlier comment was in reply to freestyle's respsonse, not your original post.
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| Nov 13, 2005 @ 2:14 PM |
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corvette_racing
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sorry corvette, my earlier comment was in reply to freestyle's respsonse, not your original post.
My reply was also a response to his post! 
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| Nov 13, 2005 @ 3:27 PM |
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chinabull2000
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oh. LOL
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| Nov 13, 2005 @ 3:30 PM |
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corvette_racing
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oh. LOL
The forum should have the function to quote the persons post that you are replying to.. I manually copy and paste other peoples responses and quote them..
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| Nov 13, 2005 @ 3:39 PM |
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chinabull2000
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The forum should have the function to quote the persons post that you are replying to.. I manually copy and paste other peoples responses and quote them..
yeppers, I agree..
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| Nov 16, 2005 @ 1:27 AM |
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meltwithU
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If I don't feel trust for someone then I am not going to get into a relationship with them. Trust comes first for me and then a relationship. 
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| Nov 21, 2005 @ 2:56 AM |
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conny90045
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If that person is honest up fron then you know you can trust that person. I don't feel it should be "earned". Most of the time you can tell but then again I have been wrong 
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| Nov 21, 2005 @ 10:40 AM |
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Sabrina806
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This is all very well but when we talk about trust what are we talking about?
Not trusting someone to:
1. Turn off the oven
2. Do something we wouldn't like them to do
3. Cheat
There are many levels of trust, also ever heard of the 'double bluff' - used by some very clever people who make out you can trust them implicitly as it gives them leeway to do what they like.
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| Nov 21, 2005 @ 3:52 PM |
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xxsuperfreak13xx
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I believe that trust does have to be earned. I have a hard time trusting people in general just because I have been burned so many times, but when I trust someone, I trust them completely.
I think if a guy trusted me 100% right off the bat I might lose interest. I think earning each others trust is a big part of a relationship and if it is given to one another without earning it, I think it loses value.
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