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Jankia
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Skip the honesty, loyalty and sex,we all want that.
What I'm asking is what are the things that are so hard to find that your not finding it?
Mine would be to find the same unsacrificed kind of love that I have for my children and a lady content with life in the country, away from the fast paced-gotta do it now trends of modern society.
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| Apr 2, 2006 @ 7:51 PM |
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chinabull2000
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IT's the whole package that is so hard to find. Not only do I need a woman that makes me happy, but she also needs to be the type of woman that I feel will be the right role model for my daughter, and the problem with this is that I have to make a quick judgement on this, because I am not prepared to date her for 6 months and then decide she isn't the right role model for my daughter.
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| Apr 2, 2006 @ 7:51 PM |
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holding4u
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What I really want in a relationship is real love - the kind that makes you comfortable with each and makes just want to be together. 
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| Apr 2, 2006 @ 8:03 PM |
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Atone74
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A woman who wants to love and be loved, to share goals, ambitions and dreams with.. Wait.. That's in my profile....
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| Apr 2, 2006 @ 8:05 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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companionship..love..just someone to live the simple life with...
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| Apr 2, 2006 @ 8:10 PM |
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grumblebear
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I look at my parents, my paternal grandparents, and my siblings...
a stepford wife would bore me to tears...
I want and need a challenge, a strong intellectual woman, a sarcastic sense of humor...
All of the women in my family are strong successful, independant women... and measuring up is very hard...
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| Apr 2, 2006 @ 8:31 PM |
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sunchaser59
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Wow, great question, Jankia.  .
Hmmmm, A guy that realizes there's no such thing as perfect and is good with that and loves me in spite of my faults and cosmetic imperfections.
Yeah, part of what you said... the unconditional love one has for their kids, would be nice.
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| Apr 2, 2006 @ 8:36 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Uh oh...Grumble, this is almost what I was gonna type:
I want and need a challenge, a strong intellectual woman, a sarcastic sense of humor...
Except I was gonna say I need a man who'll challenge me and need a man who also likes to be challenged...every time I read a post saying that 'women need men to be in touch with them emotionally', or some such, all I keep thinking is that would be my worst nightmare. I really want someone who'll understand that it's a partnership, not a contest. There's no winning and losing except for both of us. And we lose the most by not challenging each other to be the best we can possibly be...while providing the support and encouragement to help us both meet those challenges.
P.S. Except of course, I'm not sarcastic... 
[Edited on 4/2/2006 8:49 PM]
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| Apr 2, 2006 @ 8:46 PM |
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mailorderannie
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Heaven and Grumble...funny, when I read that I thought "there's several women like that right here in the forums."
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| Apr 2, 2006 @ 8:48 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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"there's several women like that right here in the forums."
Yes there are...
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| Apr 2, 2006 @ 8:52 PM |
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HarleysB_WV
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I'd love to find a man that understands that life isn't always a bowl of cherries....and that sometimes the pitts are easier if we share them. Someone who believes that the "adult" way to handle things isn't by calling names and pointing out the faults of the other person. Someone who understands that their partner is just as human as they are and that communication is crucial to ALL relationships...........(sigh)
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| Apr 2, 2006 @ 8:58 PM |
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Jankia
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Thanks for all of your replys.I didnt know if it was another one of those stupid forum questions.
ps-I'll share cherry pitts with any of you ladies. 
Mouth to mouth that is!
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| Apr 2, 2006 @ 9:00 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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ps-I'll share cherry pitts with any of you ladies.
Mouth to mouth that is!
 
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| Apr 2, 2006 @ 9:00 PM |
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sunchaser59
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I'd love to find a man that understands that life isn't always a bowl of cherries....and that sometimes the pitts are easier if we share them. Someone who believes that the "adult" way to handle things isn't by calling names and pointing out the faults of the other person. Someone who understands that their partner is just as human as they are and that communication is crucial to ALL relationships...........(sigh)
Yeah, and what you said HarleysB!
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| Apr 2, 2006 @ 9:07 PM |
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HarleysB_WV
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I'm getting out the cherries as we speak!!!! (actually I do have them out draining........time to make the chocolate covered cherries for Easter)
Back on topic...........how about someone who knows how to prioritize a relationship??? Like the TV and the CAR and the DOGS(see other thread) and the BOOZE and the BARS DO NOT COME FIRST!!!!!!!
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| Apr 2, 2006 @ 9:09 PM |
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mailorderannie
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I've hesitated answering this because I'm not sure I can word it exactly, but am going to try.
I want someone that can take my hand and lead me on somedays, and other days, I might be teaching him something new, or on another day, I might just be the cheerleader on the sidelines waving him on.  And right now I'm independent because I have to be, but there are days I just want to say "here...handle it!"to someone else...but of course, they would have to "handle it" MY way! 
And for me, to be KNOWN is almost as important as being loved.
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| Apr 2, 2006 @ 9:11 PM |
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dixiepixie
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For me it's all about finding someone whose idea as to what they want in a relationship is similiar to mine. In order to express what it is I'm looking for I have to speak of those things that are important. Kindness, maturity, mutual communication, family oriented. Someone with whom to share similar interests. Though we don't each have to enjoy all the same things, just enough that we can spend time together participating in activities that are fun for both. Someone who is serious at the appropriate time but also has a fun side. Physical attraction or chemistry is important. Someone who together with me can embrace our similarities and respect our differences.
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| Apr 2, 2006 @ 9:20 PM |
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sleeping_beauty
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someone to hold my hand when it gets terribly cold...literally and idiomatically. someone to cheer me up when i'm sad. and ocassionally, someone who doesn't mind massaging my tired feet. 
regards,
Sleeping_Beauty
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| Apr 2, 2006 @ 9:29 PM |
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sciurusniger
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All of the women in my family are strong successful, independant women... and measuring up is very hard...
That's exactly what my brother said a few years back when asked why he hadn't yet settled down.
And being one of those women, I dare say it's not easy to find an equal. But they are out there. Just takes time.
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| Apr 2, 2006 @ 11:00 PM |
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altogirl67
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I want someone who loves me unconditionally. Whether I gain or lose 10 lbs should never matter.
I want someone who actually enjoys doing nice things for me simply because they know these things will make me smile while wanting nothing in return (not that it wouldn't automatically come back to him tenfold anyway).
I want someone who wants to share everything they are with me and learn about everything that I am.
I want someone I can respect and who can and will respect me, especially my strength and indepence.
I want someone who I can at least occasionally catch watching me just because he can't take his eyes off of me.
I want someone who has similar interests or who is at least open-minded enough to branch out and try some new things to SEE if he likes them... such as art galleries/shows, musicals, concerts, travel, books, etc.
I want someone who's willing to share their interests with me as well...
I want someone who I can talk to so easily that we lose track of all time.
I want someone with whom I have a natural connection and chemistry.
I want someone who takes at least a mild interest in knowing and being kind to my family and friends.
At 39, I'm beginning to think I want the impossible... but there it is...
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