| May 1, 2006 @ 12:36 AM |
Have you ever seen it "come around"?
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HarleysB_WV
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A lot of people say and believe that "what goes around, comes around." I'm a firm believer in it 100%. I think that everything you do good or bad will come back around to you. If it was bad though, I think it comes back worse.
My ex husband used to cheat on me constantly. Our marriage ended up in a very bitter, nasty, and cruel divorce. He actually married the woman he was cheating on me with. Well this woman and I actually got along pretty well and often talked on the phone, usually regarding my daughter. Well, one day she calls me and says to me "Out of all the people I could have called to tell this to, you were the first person that crossed my mind. We just came from the doctors and found out that ***** has testicle cancer. They're going to have to do surgery. They're going to insert an air tube (her words) and he'll have to use a pump to get an erection." Did I laugh?? Um....Yes. I did. The very first thought that came to mind was "what goes around comes around and thank God I lived long enough to see it happen!" I always wanted to chop off his nuts for cheating on me, but never did. Perhaps God is a just and fair God after all. For the record, I never laughed directly in front of him and NEVER have I EVER mentioned any of this to my daughter. She loves her father and was worried about him. But in my heart I was thinking he got exactly what he deserved (even though cancer would never have been my wish on him), and his wife told me that she now KNOWS he'll never cheat on her, cause she holds the PUMP!!!! 
Soooooooo........has anyone else ever seen it "come back around"??
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| May 1, 2006 @ 4:20 AM |
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TangledUpinBlues
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Only partially, as it seems some are still out there thinking they are getting away with what they do, But as my Mom used to say, "There is a time and place for everything". I totally agree with you about how you feel on your ex, he is getting his just dessert! Unfortunately not enough do. I have been through what you have been as well and had all those thoughts too. I must say, the now wife is getting a taste of her part in the cheating game as well. As they say, you play you pay. You know what though, she may cheat on him now, as you never know. In the end they both cheated on themselves in life and you are the better person and I do believe God took part in this and as you said he is just and Fair. Keep on smiling like you do.
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| May 1, 2006 @ 7:51 AM |
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one_dimple
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Well Harley, we have something in common. My ex cheated on me on and off throughout our marriage. For years I was blind to it, he acted so damn normal! But once discovered, I called him on it...somewhere in the deep recesses of HIS mind, he thought it was okay. As weird as it may sound, we maintained a normal homefront atmosphere...I did it for the sake of the kids and my desire to see them go to college. Two weeks after asking for a divorce, he moved in with a lady whom he said was just a 'friend' helping him out. Yeah right! Within a year he bought a house for himself and said lady and not long after bought a restaurant for her to run and manage (she was a waitress). He fell ill with an infection that attacked his whole body, went to his 'spine', he nearly died. She stayed with him throughout. But eventually it all became too much for her and one day she pulled up a moving van to his back door and loaded it up with nearly every single thing in the house. His stuff and hers..and left with it all. He's not been the same since, neither physically or mentally. A shell of the person he used to be. He's a man who can't survive without a woman, last fall he took her back. She couldn't survive financially on her own and found that out the hard way. I often wonder how much 'trust' is present in their relationship now or if they exist together because neither trusts the other?....
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| May 1, 2006 @ 7:54 AM |
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nightrider3281
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i have never seen it but heard of what goes around comes around. Probably wouldn't know it if i saw it lol.
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| May 1, 2006 @ 9:30 AM |
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SylvanDreams
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My ex and I broke up for other reasons than infidelity--the main ones being money and control--he felt he had to have both, entirely. He was military and would leave for months at a time, and I would work and take care of the four kids and the house, finances, etc. I paid all the bills on time, the kids were fine, the house was well kept, never had a problem. Once he came home, though, I was incompetent (in his mind) and he would immediately take the check book and the credit card from me.
He was also verbally abusive to me and then to the kids, which got worse year by year until I could not expose the kids to that anymore. The only problem he had with getting a divorce was paying child support. Over the years, he has lied about his income and cheated me and the kids every chance he could, especially once he got out of the military.
Well, this man who did not want to support his own children, and could not be bothered to spend any time with them (no visitation, though he lived less than 5 miles away) moved a woman with four kids into his house. When she moved out, he moved in one with two kids. This is where the "comes around" comes in....after a year or so, he tried to force her to move out, and she turned around and had him evicted from his own house (which used to be our house, by the way--he got everything in the divorce settlement but my half of the furniture, which was the children's furniture, and I even got the credit card bill, which was in my name, and to which he had charged $1,000 of his lawyer's fees!--I just wanted me and the kids out of the marriage).
It took him about 8 months to get his house back, and when he did, it was totally trashed--holes in walls and doors, windows broken, walls messed up, etc. It cost him a lot of money to repair everything....a very fitting "comes around" for a person who worships money more than he cares for his kids, I think.
That happened 3-4 years ago, and he hasn't moved anyone in since...gee, I wonder why??? 
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| May 1, 2006 @ 9:35 AM |
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paperchase417
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I've seen it come back around at people so bad that some times I wonder if they really deserved it, then i think, oh well, thats karma.
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| May 1, 2006 @ 9:59 AM |
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mangolover60
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Hmm, I can't think of anything anybody has ever did to me that would cause or caused them to "get theirs" as a result.
Anytime I've been dumped or left a relationship it was because of my own stupid a$$ or just something mutual.
But then again, I've never been married. 
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| May 1, 2006 @ 12:51 PM |
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kattsmeow
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I was told this from the time I was born. It finally came to me one year why you should try to do good things.
One year I had some extra money around Thanksgiving and Christmas, so I decided to start giving to some charitys.
The first one was to the Salvation Army in my county, then turned around and gave to my sons charity, The National Wildlife fund.
The after consideration, gave to the Veterans in my state.
Ok, This was done right before Thanksgiving,,,,hm,,then around the first of December I got a check in the mail, for 1500.00 dollars!!!!
The reason for the check? My kids father was behind on child support and the state decided to garnish his wages for it. His wife,,,said, no, lets get a loan and just pay it off.
Yep,,we had a very Merry Christmas that year.
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| May 1, 2006 @ 1:43 PM |
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holding4u
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Yes, Harley, I have lived long enough to see it come around. There was a stunningly beautiful girl I went to high school with, but she went way out of her way to be rude and ugly to everyone. I saw her about a year ago and I would guess about 300 pounds.
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| May 1, 2006 @ 5:11 PM |
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Greystone1
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I've seen it come around without going around, and I've seen it go around without coming around.
Kinda makes me think that chit just happens. Sometimes it's good chit and sometimes it's bad chit. 
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| May 1, 2006 @ 7:38 PM |
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spongebob777
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I was a jerk to my girlfriend when I was a teenager but it came around when I married my ex.
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| May 1, 2006 @ 7:44 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Yeah, sometimes bad things happen to good people, sometimes bad things happen to bad people. The usual difference that I've seen is that the bad ones seem to bring it on themselves.
My cousin Susan was one of the most beautiful people I've ever known, inside and out. She was getting ready to go on vacation with her husband and preteen daughters when a guy driving in the other direction had an epileptic seizure and they were both killed instantly.
On the other hand, a guy who thought he'd gotten away with rape ended up losing his job, his pension, his wife, and two subsequent fiancees with no intervention by anyone...just his own actions.
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| May 1, 2006 @ 9:29 PM |
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poniepower
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I believe in what comes around, goes around. I also believe every action has a reaction.
I'm just trying to figure out what I've done to deserve to lose my son?!?!
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| May 1, 2006 @ 10:36 PM |
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sjpinatl
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No. Bad and good happens. No karma, except that we punish ourselves sometimes. If karma was at play, then kids who get cancer would have deserved it, or people who are laid off and go homeless would deserve it. Chit happens, is right...
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| May 1, 2006 @ 10:45 PM |
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HarleysB_WV
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I'm just trying to figure out what I've done to deserve to lose my son?!?!
I believe that when God takes a child it is because that child is so wonderfully special that He feels they belong in Heaven with Him. If I had to pick another parent for my son, God would be the one. And maybe it is your son who will now guide you through the rest of your days. My prayers are with you ponie!
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| May 1, 2006 @ 11:04 PM |
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nah12
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I'm just trying to figure out what I've done to deserve to lose my son?!?! Jini it 's not that you did anything to deserve that.......God only loans us our children .....some are for long term and some or for short term.....
God's Lent Child
"I'll lend you for a little while a child of mine," God said....
For you to love the while he lives,
And mourn for when he's dead.
It may be six or seven years or forty-two or three;
But will you, till I call him back,
Take care of him for me?
He'll bring his charms to gladden you and (should his stay be brief,)...
You'll have his lovely memories
As a solace for your grief
I cannot promise he will stay,
Since all from earth return;
But there are lessons taught below
I want this child to learn.
I've looked the whole world over
In my search for teachers true;
And from the things that crowd life's lane
I have chosen you
Now will you give him all your love
Nor think the labor vain?
Nor hate me when I come to take
This lent child back again?
I fancied that I heard you say...
"Dear Lord Thy will be done
For all the joys thy child will bring
The risk of grief we'll run
We will shelter him while we may...
And for the happiness we've known
Forever grateful stay."
Author: Unknown
Remember, God does not punish us we punish ourselves....and yes often times it's unjustified......
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| May 1, 2006 @ 11:12 PM |
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Jankia
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I never laughed directly in front of him and NEVER have I EVER mentioned any of this to my daughter.
I quoted this Harley just to remind you that whatever you post on these threads is available to anyone searching on Google.
Its just a reminder to watch what you say if you dont want the world or anyone in particular to find it out. 
I'm sure you wouldnt want anything to come back around to your daughter.
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| May 1, 2006 @ 11:21 PM |
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HarleysB_WV
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I appreciate the thought Jankia!! I wouldn't have posted it if I wasn't prepared to deal with the consequences.
Thanks!!!
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| May 1, 2006 @ 11:41 PM |
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vipervenom
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I helped rush the process a couple times, sometimes karma just works too slow.
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| May 1, 2006 @ 11:43 PM |
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HarleysB_WV
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viper!!!! That has been known to happen on occasion!! 
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