| May 19, 2006 @ 9:07 PM |
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luvshorses644
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Ok gang... now let's say you are at this singles mixer. You are basically talking to some people and having a decent night and managing to tell a few jokes and talk abit with some interesting people. When all of a sudden, you are standing and laughing with a few friends and you stop .. that one person across the room that made you stop in mid sentence. You watch as they walk over to a few friends and sit down with a drink. About 15 minutes go by and you notice that you have glanced over more than a few times to check out this person. You notice their smile and think .. man that would light up any corner... you listen to their laughter and find yourself smiling without even knowing what they are laughing about, you watch as they run their hands thru their hair.. now, there is the start of some small butterfly in your chest and you are drawn to this individual, that little voice inside is saying.. "hey, we want to meet that one".. Tell us exactly what is your approach and what would be your introductory opening....(please keep this as sincere as possible.. if you really want to joke, and I am so OK with that and find that it makes us all smile from time to time.. well, most of us anyway... post that funny line after your sincere one.. please????  )
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| May 19, 2006 @ 9:12 PM |
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Jankia
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Your quite the good lookin dame!
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| May 19, 2006 @ 9:20 PM |
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silknpearls
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"hey, we want to meet that one".
Is your real name Sybil? 
Or is this the Royal "We"?
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| May 19, 2006 @ 9:36 PM |
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jim9562
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this has never happened to me,,,,i don't get all fluttery just by seeing someone from across the room,,,for all i know no matter how good looking they are,,they could be complete jerks so i never judge a book by it's cover,,,,,,,if i was at a mixer,,i would attempt to introduce myself to someone who seemed like they may have something interesting to say. then i would see if we had anything in common and a good long conversation would be adequate for a first meeting.,,,, ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, but this is just the way i see it,,,,shiny teeth , dazzling smile,and a terrific tan are easy to do if you possess good dental work and a tanning booth  but being intelligent involves long hours of reading and study and to me is ultimately more interesting 
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| May 19, 2006 @ 10:04 PM |
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Always_Striving
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It's love at first something.
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| May 19, 2006 @ 10:07 PM |
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luvshorses644
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I knew I shouldn'ta done this when I hit the button.. thanks for all the sincereity and love.. 
And by no means did I mean that you fell in love with the persons looks.. but the personality they gave off.. never even stated that they were good looking, just that you noticed them.. their aura, their presence..
I am backing out slowly .. just me.. and I was only paraphrasing what the little voice might be saying. The name is not Sybil, nor Eve.. just plain ole me... sheesh... chill people.. and go in peace.. with all the coolness and reverence that can be given to you.  I apologize for the interuption and I am off to my friend, Betty's house, to play some scrabble with friends.. good luck and good looking to all...
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| May 19, 2006 @ 10:18 PM |
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Jankia
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I was only quoting Babe Ruth...really
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| May 19, 2006 @ 10:24 PM |
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TiNkErGrRrRrR
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I`ve never approached a guy before...but maybe I`d use the trick they use to get attention..buy him a drink and see if he does the polite thing and comes over to thank me..then take it from there...well..thats probably what I`d do...I`m too shy for anything else..
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| May 19, 2006 @ 10:39 PM |
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silknpearls
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I am backing out slowly .. just me.. and I was only paraphrasing what the little voice might be saying. The name is not Sybil, nor Eve.. just plain ole me... sheesh... chill people.. and go in peace.. with all the coolness and reverence that can be given to you.
Hi Luvs, was only playing! Figured this was for the guys anyway. Have a great evening!
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| May 19, 2006 @ 10:40 PM |
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willsmalto
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Hi, I'm blah blah blah....I couldn't help but realize how distracted I was by your beauty and sense of humor. wow! you're glowing....I..I...er I mean you're phenomenal.
ok if I wanna crack some jokes or even scare her off, I might say sth like this:
Hi, I'm ........you look great. you see this shirt? my ex girlfriend bought it for me. wanna have dinner sometime? lol
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| May 19, 2006 @ 10:42 PM |
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Jankia
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Yea,dont back out Luvs,this is a interesting thread that I didnt even have a answer for.
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| May 19, 2006 @ 10:57 PM |
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AngelLight
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I would wait for an opportune time to approach him individually. I would not approach if he was clearly engrossed in a conversation with his friends. I would wait until he got up and walked away from the group, for whatever reason.
I might approach him with a smile and a simple truth by saying "Hi there, my name is ______, what's yours? I honestly could not help but notice you from across the room......your laugh, your beautiful smile, your manner.....very engaging.......I was wondering if you would care to join me for a drink?, or do you need to get back to your friends?"...... (I'd give him an out if he felt he needed one)
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I think if you don't try you'll never know.......can't worry about rejection.....I'd take the risk.
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| May 19, 2006 @ 11:03 PM |
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soul_decisions
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I have approached men before and usually I open it with a compliment and hopefully he gets the hint I'm interested and if he doesn't, at least I said what I wanted to and I'm sure it does leave a lasting impression
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| May 19, 2006 @ 11:23 PM |
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AngelLight
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Well said Soul.....I don't hold back on compliments.....whether they are returned or not, so be it....I usually say what I am compelled to say....if the guy doesn't get the hint or clearly is not interested or whatever, he walks away with having been given a simple yet lovely gift from a stranger, and I walk away happy to have given it.
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| May 19, 2006 @ 11:26 PM |
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DwainP50
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A cold approach:
Hello my name is Dwain, I couldn’t help noticing you from across the room. I felt this connection and wanted to find out if it could be felt by you too?
A warm approach like she did some flirting or giving some sort of signal:
Hello my name is Dwain, I couldn’t help noticing you smiling at me, and felt there might be a connection. Have time to talk about this feeling? connection?
Country bar:
Hey you’re cute! Wanta dance?  (Texas Accent)
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| May 19, 2006 @ 11:30 PM |
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soul_decisions
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smiles back with a twinkle in her eye and says "well thank you, I would love to dance" 
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| May 19, 2006 @ 11:57 PM |
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nah12
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truth is Luvs it did happen to me years ago and later i found out the same happen to them.......long story short both from different worlds, i got bad news about my health, he couldn't handle it because he couldn't fix it and i was as strong and proud a woman as he was a man....we would touch base ever so often no matter where i ended up i would always get a call to say hello, how are you and finally after years and i mean years stopped the verbal contact......yes we went out a few times and talked and it was always the same....lost in time as time stood still .....we could be anywhere and no where and not have a clue to the surroundings in existence, we were in our world only....the once in a life time feeling that was always the same and never felt it with anyone else ever before or since and really never expect to again......but thankful i can say i did experience it ......
the simple beginning was: so in so this is so in so and we took it from there after we had saw each other for the 1st time that day from a distance and both stopped dead in our tracks speechless.....
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| May 20, 2006 @ 12:11 AM |
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dowens
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luvs,
Myself, I'm extremely intimidated by ALL women.......so . if you are interested in that guy across the room......chances are he would be floored if you took the initiative and approached him....on a few very lucky occasions this has happened to me and I was sooooo appreciative.
As far as the RIGHT way to do it????......there really isn't one. But as a general rule....I prefer the genuine, awkward approach.....the silver-tongue..."been, there-done that" line......well, that always sounds contrived..
hope this helped
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| May 20, 2006 @ 1:25 AM |
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uncrazy
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Luvs> Don't back out...
Without diverting my eyes...Hello, I'm Jim. I like what started happening inside of me when I saw you.
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| May 20, 2006 @ 8:21 AM |
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mailorderannie
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yeah Luvs -- this is NOT LAME!!! I read the thread when you first posted it and it made me think...when was the last time I actually had this happen and realized its been far tooooo long. I think most of us are here at our computers and forget how to meet someone face-to-face, or at least I have. So thanks for the subtle reminder that I need to get back out there and polish up my flirting skills!
There have been some very good comments here too guys
Hey you’re cute! Wanta dance? (Texas Accent)
to which I would reply "Weeeehaaaaa !!!"
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Hello, I'm Jim. I like what started happening inside of me when I saw you.
Which I think would leave me speechless.
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