| Jan 11, 2008 @ 6:08 PM |
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NORTHOF50
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I am a nice guy and have tried to find nice woman though these on line services but they show know interest. Maybe it is the profile I show but am new at this.
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| Jan 13, 2008 @ 3:41 AM |
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Wanna49
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I don't know what the problem is. I am looking for a nice guy but I don't have any nice guys messaging me. In order to have anyone interested, sometimes you have to show an interest. No matter how much interest I show in a person, no one even responds to my messages. Good women are hard to find because you don't look for them or you are too picky looking for a super model to fall in love with you. Super models don't need to come to places like this because there are enough idiots chasing them when they walk down the street. Sometimes you have to try to get to know someone who you are actually compaitable with and not all woman can ever look like a super model. They are just average looking and average looking woman may as well be invisible because no man will notice a woman unless they look, dress and act like a slut. This society is only good for people who think the only thing to do with another person is have sex with them. If you aren't interested in casual sex, you are wasting your time, because any other kind of life isn't acceptable in this world if you want to have any friends.
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| Jan 21, 2008 @ 3:44 PM |
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sillygirl60
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post a picture
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| Jan 22, 2008 @ 9:55 PM |
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Wanna49
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Even the ugliest guys on the planet are disquested with my picture and I don't think I look any different than anyone else. If I post a picture I only attract the married guys because they think I am desparate enough to have something to do with them because no one else would want to have anything to do with me.
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| Jan 26, 2008 @ 11:38 AM |
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Shedevil_60
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It very well could be because you are a smoker..Whether yuou want to hear it or not many of us women dont want to be around smoke with the dangerous consequences...Good Luck...
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| Jan 26, 2008 @ 3:31 PM |
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Legzzz
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everyone has set in their mind what thier *perfect* match should be. never give up the faith, i firmly believe there is someone for everyone, just have to be patient. its going to take a pretty special guy to win my heart. he doesnt have to be handsome or have lots of money, he does however have to enjoy the same things in life as i do and willing to have a loyal committment.
im most likely going to be single for a long time and im comfortable with that, cuz i will not settle for anything less.
P.S.
Wanna..try not being so hard on yourself..the ones that only want sex...totally not worth it. *Hugz*
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| Apr 19, 2008 @ 8:13 AM |
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Sposato
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Well that might be true! but unfortunately the physical thing is REALITY! People want to be HAPPY! and the fact that one does not meet another person's expectations should not depress one! Hell! I've had a woman tell me I was fat,ugly and at 56 should act "My Age!" because I was seeking a woman online  so one has to REALLY grow a thick skin in order to succeeed in the quest for that special person! 
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| Apr 22, 2008 @ 12:41 PM |
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MahonMacRi
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no man will notice a woman unless they look, dress and act like a slut Wanna49, I've commented on your negative attitude before; first, you slam ALL men, constantly lumping us all into the same negative category, then you have the gall to wonder, "Why aren't men interested in you?" I wouldn't be at all surprised if the latter had a LOT to do with the former, and that your constant negative attitude/hateful comments are precisely why men aren't interested in you! In short, that lack of interest probably stems from your constant, non-stop attacks on ALL men, all of which begs the question; "Why on Earth would you even want a man if you hate us all so much?" That just doesn't make ANY sense!
There are tons of guys out there who REALLY don't deserve the non-stop bashing and disrespect you dish out, guys who date women for their personality rather than their looks, guys who are inherently faithful and who have no trouble being true to their lady or following through on their commitments. So where the Hell do you get off bashing ALL of us when you don't seem to have Clue One that there's more than one kind of man in the world?
Personally, I would never even DREAM of dating you, nor would I ever date anyone like you; furthermore, that has nothing to do with what you look like (don't know, don't care!) and everything to do with your negative attitude and constantly lumping us good guys in with the bad! In other words, your bad attitude is SUCH a total turn-off that I wouldn't give you the time of day, and neither would any other nice guy out there, all because of how you keep attacking ALL of us without realising just how wrong you really are, or how seriously off-putting your constant negativity is.
So the way I see it, you have two choices; you can "poop" or you can "get off the pot." By that, I mean that you can immediately stow your bad attitude and cease and desist your constant, negative (and ultimately self-defeating) attacks on ALL men, or you can forget about EVER attracting a good man, because the two are mutually exclusive! They just don't mix, in other words, and they never will! Unless he's a total masochist and a glutton for punishment, no good man would EVER want to be with a woman who thinks so poorly of ALL MEN that she has to constantly spew such hateful, self-defeating and venomous crap as, "ALL men are this," and "ALL men are that!"
Or maybe I've got it all wrong, and that's exactly the kind of guy you want, some total "Wilbur Milquetoast" who will grovel worshipfully at your feet, who will happily consume all the crap you dish out and even ask for seconds/thirds, who is perfectly happy to be mistreated, abused and walked all over by you...and who obviously never grew anything remotely resembling a backbone? If that's the kind of "man" you want, don't hold your breath, because snivelling little mama's boys like that are VERY few and far between, and most of those have already been snatched up by one nasty, awful domineering she-beast or another.
So what's it going to be, Wanna49? Poop, or get off the damned pot already? I am thoroughly sick and tired of your constant whinging, crying, pissing and moaning about how "men're all bad," and "men're all scum," putting us ALL down (like you have ANY business doing that when you haven't met more than the TINIEST FRACTION of the 3.25 BILLION men in this world!) and I'm sure I'm far from the only one who's sick and tired of your constant, non-stop, abusive (and let's not forget self-defeating) man-hating crap!
I could (IF I were of a mind to, which I'm NOT!) go on a whinging and crying jag about how, "ALL women are scum because they've abused me all my life, starting with my deranged mother who tried to kill me (at least!) three times," and how "none of you are worth the sweat off my bollocks because of that,"...but I don't do that, not at ALL! As a matter of fact (and probably BECAUSE I don't do that!) I've made some truly wonderful lady friends over the years, wonderful, proud and beautiful women (in spirit, and sometimes otherwise, too) who have proven beyond the shadow of a doubt that "not ALL women are evil just because SOME have treated me very badly," who have given VERY freely of their hearts and souls out of friendship, mutual respect and admiration, and who have given me hope for our whole darned species just because they're such good people.
And now, thanks in very large part to those same wonderful ladyfriends, I have some small hope of maybe one day finding the right woman to spend the rest of my life with. It wouldn't be possible without some truly wonderful women (and ladies, you know who you are!) who have shown me that most women really are GOOD! I'm still only looking for friendship for the time being, but somewhere down the road there will be time for love again, and that wouldn't have been possible without the contributions of my fantastic lady friends.
Just my .02's worth, sincerely,  "Mac"
PS Even the most beautiful women can have a hard time finding a decent man who'll treat them right.
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| Apr 25, 2008 @ 11:23 AM |
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TomG
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That is indeed the bottom line ... we've all been through the wringer several times in our pasts, I'm sure, but the key is not letting bad past experiences destroy the present. As you pointed out, there are good men and women in the world. Let's find them.
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| May 11, 2008 @ 5:16 PM |
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EvolvednReal
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North, many women of our generation expect the man to make the first move ( silly but a fact of life ) so have you tried sending winks or mail to women whose profiles interested you? And have you tried to incorporate their interests or remarks into your communication with them? Nothing turns a woman off like a man who hasn't even read their profile; shows that he isn't interested and/or can't be bothered.
Just get going into the forums and before you know it, people will get to know you by your words and start talking to you off the boards as well.
Mahon, you made me laugh out loud with "nasty, awful domineering she-beast or another."
Wanna, hang in there. I know there are a lot of jerks out there and some men may not realize how other men treat women because that behavior is hidden from them. For example I knew a man who lived off two girlfriends while acting like a bigshot with his friends who had no clue. But anyway, there are decent ones out there too. Don't give up. Have you tried working on your appearance? I have noticed that if a woman has a nice hairstyle, teeth, clothing and stays at least relatively fit, no matter how average-looking she is, she usually finds a man. Just my observation. Yes, it would be great if appearance wasn't important but the reality is that it is. The smart woman faces it and does what she can to work with it. That's not to say that your inner being is irrelevant though because I have found that many men are indeed interested in the person you are as well as the package you come in.
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| May 11, 2008 @ 10:09 PM |
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MahonMacRi
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Evolvednreal;
Mahon, you made me laugh out loud with "nasty, awful domineering she-beast or another." "A laugh a day keeps the therapist away!" "I finally woke up and realised that a script as bad as this world could only be dignified by playing it for laughs!"  
Just my .02's worth, sincerely, "Mac"
PS As I'm sure you're already aware, Ottawa isn't nearly as boring as people like to think it is, despite being home to our wonderful and dearly-loved federal government, as well as its various and sundry clerical workers, its powerful and unaccountable (and slightly deranged) bureaucrats, those being the people who brought us first the "loonie," then the "twoonie," (despite the fact that "doub-loonie" has a much nicer ring to it, and would have made much more "cents!") and especially our wonderful-and-greatly-under-appreciated (and, let's not forget, "under-worked and over-paid") "snivel servants," not to mention the (justifiably) notorious and infamous "Canadian National Lunatic Asylum," much better known as "the House of Commoners," and so on, and so forth, et cetera, et cetera, ad infinitum, ad nauseam!
No, Ottawa's only boring 'till sundown rolls around, and all the government zombies head home to their ticky-tacky boxes out in the suburbs, after which all us freaks, musicians and other assorted night-crawlers take over the streets, and the REAL party (as opposed to the Liberal Party, the Conservative Party, the New Democr...Hell, you get the idea) can finally get started! 
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| May 29, 2008 @ 10:33 PM |
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aerialcapn21
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I'm just here to offer my two cents. I'm not claiming myself to be an expert on these matters. I don't visit these sites very often myself. Here's why:
What am I doing when I'm searching for personal ads? I'm searching for the perfect woman according what I'm looking for. In other words, I'm shopping for the "perfect" mate. When I'm looking at it this way, the perfect mate will not be found. Unfortunately looks are usually a prerequisite when it comes to searching (for most guys and I'll admit usually for myself as well).
Now also I have in mind that I just don't want to stop at looks because I have no idea where that other person has been. At some point you gotta open the door and just ask innocent questions without expecting a certain answer. Doesn't matter how good they look. They are not a god/goddess to be worshipped (if so, maybe you got lust on your mind). You have to like someone first before it turns into love. If you're not doing that you're heading towards pure lust. (ok I'm not sure if this can be said about everyone).
At this point I feel that some lust is ok within a marital commitment. This is probably the reason for marriage in the first place. If you're not going to be a priest then the next best thing would be to marry someone you care about. You probably didn't know that the book does allow priests to marry however the conditions are very strict. The free world probably just wouldn't understand.
Anyway sorry I'm going off on a tangent.
For the lady without a picture (the first replier), I do hear what you are saying. One thing I can say is that most women can do a little something with their looks, doesn't matter (unless an environmental disaster occured). Weight can be controlled to an extend, your body can be cleaned, you can learn how to carry yourself a little better, you can learn to be a little more outgoing and talkative if you're introverted and shy. These small things really can help. If they don't do anything, then it is something else. There is something wrong with the crowd you're looking at, or...
I can say that in my high school alot of students who I didn't even want to look at for that purpose have found themselves much happier lives than I could have hoped for at the time.
Look all I'm trying to say in all this is one simple thing.
These type of sites "encourage" others to shop around for that "perfect" someone.
Truth is, is that no one is perfect. It is recognizing that we are all imperfect and working with each other and taking care of each other can we grow into a relationship which would be as close to perfect as you can ask for.
It's too bad people actually pay for prime listings on these type of sites. Almost every other site probably counts on these people to keep the site running. Ok, I don't know this for sure, it's just my best guess.
Anyway, I'll be quiet now. I've probably done enough pointless babbling.
I just have to realize that we are all people and everyone has their own wants or needs.
Thanks for reading.
Have a nice day everyone.
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| May 30, 2008 @ 12:20 PM |
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MahonMacRi
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Aerialcapn21 said; You probably didn't know that the book does allow priests to marry however the conditions are very strict.
The only MARRIED Catholic priest I've ever known was a previously ordained and married minister from another church, who then converted to Roman Catholicism and was (somehow) allowed to keep his wife.
General Weirdness is alive and well, and working for the Holy (?) Roman Catholic Church!
Just my .02's worth, sincerely, "Mac"
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| Jul 13, 2008 @ 8:33 PM |
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EvolvednReal
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You make some valid points ACap. I wonder what Wanna49 thinks of the advice we gave her. 
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| Jul 14, 2008 @ 8:18 AM |
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drydock
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I went to the doctors to inquire about a vasectomy he told me " with a face like that you don't need one" 
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| Aug 1, 2008 @ 11:27 AM |
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Secrets_Within
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Maybe us women aren't that hard to find, maybe we're just hiding in another province 
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| Aug 2, 2008 @ 10:17 AM |
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eyesofastranger
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MahonMacRi is a cool guy. if i was a woman or single i would show interest. sorry mac i'm a dude and married. ok i will tell you people what you don't wanna hear. you will find exactly what your willing to give. i found her and she was perfect, exactly the right one. small problems, she lived in china and was married to a local mobster who threatened to kill me if i came to see her. pfft if she's the one then i'll do it.
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| Sep 4, 2008 @ 9:32 AM |
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HighRaptor
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"no man will notice a woman unless they look, dress and act like a slut."
More generalized "men" horse manure. If a woman dresses, looks and acts like a slut that's how she will be treated. If your assertion has any validity explain the mountain of evidence to the contrary. Many, many, many, many women who neither look nor act like sluts, whatever that might mean, who are happily in long-term relationships.
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| Sep 5, 2008 @ 12:58 PM |
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MahonMacRi
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Yo, HighRaptor...pay no heed to "Wanna49"; she's forever going on and on and on, anon, endlessly running men down and saying, "all men are this," and, "all men are that," like she has even the first clue what "all men" are like!
As I've pointed out repeatedly, "Wanna49" hasn't met any more than the tiniest fraction of "all men," to date, which makes her entirely unqualified to tell anyone what "all men" are.
"Wanna49" has never engaged in a debate to defend her (entirely indefensible) views, probably because she knows full well that she'll be blown right out of the water (by both men and women alike, too) the first time she opens up with her patented man-hating nonsense.
One has to wonder, then, just what "Wanna49" is doing looking for a man on a dating site, if she really thinks that "all men are this," and "all men are that," and that, "no man will notice a woman unless they look, dress and act like a slut."
In other words, if she really believes all that utter tripe and nonsense she peddles, then why would she even want a man? Doesn't that strike anyone else as more than a little inconsistent?
Quite frankly, I suspect she only wants a man that she can walk all over, treat like utter garbage, and generally make pay for all the insults and abuse (real and/or imagined) she's received at the hands of "all men."
And if that's the case, I feel truly sorry for any man stupid enough to get involved with such a man-hating nut-job in the first place!
But that's just my .02's worth, sincerely, "Mac"
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| Sep 8, 2008 @ 6:11 PM |
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leogirl750
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Something that always amazing me is many heavy set men state in their profile they are only interested in slim women. What's that all about? Have they looked in the mirror lately? Have they even taken the time to get to know any women that aren't slim? You can't read a book by it's cover.
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