| Apr 15, 2006 @ 4:33 PM |
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ontariogirl13
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I hvae talked to so many men on this thing and seems like none of them can be honest with once i show them my pic. When i show then what i look like they say oh yeah your cute and then they become the type were they play games. Can you tell me why men are such bone heads and why I can't find one who wants me for me.
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| Apr 15, 2006 @ 5:27 PM |
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sh4d0w
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not all men are like that. there are a few of us who can go beyond the outside and see what's inside. best of luck in your search, and i'm sure you'll find the guy for you.
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| Apr 22, 2006 @ 10:44 AM |
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missmolly1795
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hey your right girl men are liars and it seems like when they meet you then your not there type,i meet a couple and there user online ,they are only after one thing most of them .hope you like my storey
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| Apr 24, 2006 @ 4:25 PM |
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WickedWench
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If you think that bashing men is going to make it better then you might want to reconsider.
Just as many women on these sites play games as well.
It takes time and you can't expect to find "love" in just a few chats.
Good luck
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| Apr 25, 2006 @ 12:57 PM |
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mqwerty
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It's so funny that we have all experienced what your going through now.
Funny thing is that even those of us who start with a picture presented get asked for more pictures... to that question i usually ask why...do they think its not me int he picture are the determining how good i look on a regular bases i don't know.
The best is when you think you have a connection finally exchange numbers talk for a bit then call one random day and they answer the phone ...so honey are you in town...
oh yeah wonderful creatures men are
keep the faith thought there may be a good one left ...somewhere
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| Apr 25, 2006 @ 2:46 PM |
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boytoy2plsu
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I feel that some honesty needs to be injected into this thread as the slander men are taking isn't just. I thank wench for shedding light on both sides of the spectrum though, it isn't testosterone that makes us jerks.
With your situation, when you don't have a profile pic up, you're a wild card. Anything can lurk behind that profile. We'll send msg's in an attempt to make a good first impression with an optimistic outlook on what may be to come. When you do get around to sending them a pic, they may say you're cute, beautiful, whichever direction they'd like to go with it, but I think you'd be hard pressed to find a guy who'd reply with "Not what I'm looking for, sorry.". You may rather appreciate the honesty in hindsight, but at the time, how would you feel about yourself? Inadequete? They are simply being polite, and I will be the first to admit I've dropped girls without warning because I simply haven't known how to say 'no'. Maybe even one or two that may read this. Come to think of it, could make for an interesting thread if they reply! We know what it's like to feel rejection, all of us, and we don't want to bestow that feeling upon someone, so, we'll let them figure it out for themselves through our silence. Sometimes that's a better realization, as immature as it may be in the moment. This isn't to say you're the ugly duckling, not in the slightest, but like Wench said, you need to look through profiles, have some chats, scratch the surface. Without a doubt you'll find what you're looking for, it just takes patience and time. People can be awfully brave (and cruel) on a computer, so take that into account when they cower away from a situation. It's tough in the middle of a date to turn and run, but it's easy to delete messages and ignore attempts to contact you.
I'm a little off track now, but please, don't paint an entire gender with one brush. We are products of our environment, and everything around us is what accounts for our persona. We are all unique. Hope this helps to explain "why we do the things we do".
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| Apr 25, 2006 @ 11:13 PM |
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stelstargirl
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I've never replied to these forums, so here goes nuthin'.
I've had my share of 'hit n' runs' on the internet and otherwise. Bottom line - women do this too. Heck! I've done it! Can every woman on here honestly say that she hasn't just up and ditched a guy because either the chemistry or the personality, or even the intelligence levels weren't grooving with hers? If you all say 'no', someone is definitely lying. lol It isn't a nice thing to do, granted. And, to be honest, as I've gotten older, I've really taken made an effort to keep an 'honesty policy' when it comes to things like this, but it ain't easy in the least. Honesty takes balls... or guts... or gumption..... any one of those and more.
I wish people could be more honest with each other, in general... I've seen nearly as many women toy with men and leave their hearts and/or egos bruised and bleeding on the cement. Trust me, it's not pretty! ...In fact, in some ways it can be worse for guys because they don't vent their emotions as much a women..so it all sits inside and festers... and many men do not bounce back from rejection at all -- (again, seen it - not pretty).
So, let's just all try to be nicer and more honest with one another, shall we? Ok... group hug. =D
P.S. Ty... you ever do that to me if we should chance to meet, and you seriously will get run over. ;)
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| Apr 27, 2006 @ 7:29 PM |
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school2
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They play the same way in the states. I does take time to get to know someone ,but it never hurts to be extra nice at first. 
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| Apr 28, 2006 @ 2:34 PM |
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hugga_monkey
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I think not posting your pic is just a gamble...you should post one...even if it's the best you ever looked at one point in your life...that way you know the person is somwewhat attracted to you ...cuz let's face it...on here you need some sort of attraction...and as shallow as it sounds you meet someone cuz they look like someone you would want to get to know...I have dated some men that were not so hot in general.,....but personality wise they were the most amazing men you would ever wanna know...but I think there is a time when your gonna show someone your pic and they are gonna think "hey...she's cute" and then there is gonna be times when someoen looks at it and says "WTF" but I am sure you would rather a "your kinda cute" and then have them back off without hurting you...we have all had it..but I think just to be fair you should post 1 pic...maybe you won't run into this anymore...could be worse...you could have no one interested...been there done that....lmao...
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| Apr 29, 2006 @ 3:53 PM |
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adam1965
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Firstly...before you start to degrade the entire gender by writing negative comments about men in general...proof read your spelling because it certainly speaks volumes about intelligence. Secondly, learn not to generalize and insult the entire gender because not ALL men are the same. There are women that are unfaithful, liars, deceptive, etc...but to classify that ALL women are horrible...would not be a fair statement to make.
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| May 1, 2006 @ 6:18 AM |
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Ladylighting
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First off Ontariogirl....Not all men are pigs...or dogs....But when you come here looking for a man..you have to expect just about everything....Unfortunaly it's the way love sites work...I've been threw my share of "Morons" but I also understand what most here want...When the time is ready you will find the right one....I promise you that...I have...well I hope I have anyways....And yes I did meet him here....But it took a lot of talking and tursting....Now we are good friends....And will be meeting soon....
Anyways don't give up....Your ture love will come weather it's here or else where....Try going out looking for men....Don't just use the computer...After all...Everyone can lie...It's the typical sterotype......
Hope that helps....  ...Good luck
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| May 5, 2006 @ 8:22 AM |
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underherfeet
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Ladylightning, that was so quick, last email to me, April 29th, you had nobody, May 1st had found someone and now meeting?, wish i could move that fast, lol
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| May 11, 2006 @ 12:56 AM |
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honesty2laughter
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 Hi O/G sorry 2 hear u havent met anyone u want 2 hook up with.But hold on girlfriend it doesnt work like that  OK Its kinda like going to RENO i go not expecting to win .But if it happens I never went a loser in the frist place.All the best hope it happens soon ,,,bon
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| May 16, 2006 @ 12:39 PM |
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MahonMacRi
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You know, it really burns my butt  when someone thinks they can just label an entire gender as "rotten" or "bad" like that, because when you get right down to it, we are all INDIVIDUALS! That means that each and every person out there is totally and completely unique and, in their own way, totally unlike every other person in the world, regardless of gender or ethnicity or religion. You just can't label ANY one gender or group or ethnicity as being "all bad." Even the most thoroughgoing cad or heartless vamp has to have some good qualities, believe it or not. 
Not posting pictures will lead some people to think you have something to hide, or that you're ashamed of your looks  ...bad way to start off, wouldn't you say? I don't think I'm particularly good looking...in fact, I always reckoned I was somewhat homely, although I do play a mean guitar  ...but my ladylove thinks I'm nothing short of beautiful, and she just adores me and dotes on me no end. As individuals, we all have different likes and dislikes, so there must be someone out there who is going to like who you are and what you look like. You just have to be patient and hang in there.
Looks and personality are both important in determining how attracted we are to somebody; to some people, looks are everything  ...I know, it's sad, but some people really are that shallow  ...and to others, personality plays a much more important part in choosing a partner. I always figured you'd better have something more than just good looks going for you, because those good looks will fade over time, and if you don't have anything else there to build on, you're going to end up old, alone and sad. 
There was a time, and not too long ago at that, when I had long since given up any hope of finding love and happiness in this lifetime. The only reason I came online was to chat with friends and make new friends; being disabled I don't get out much, so if I wanted to have anything remotely resembling a "social life" it had to be online. Back on AS (before they started charging just for chat) I made a lot of nice friends after giving up on Yahoo chat because of all the rude people and game players there. One of those friends became much more than just a friend, and after a few get-togethers and dates we ended up being together ever since. Come this June 13, we'll have been together for three years, and it's been the happiest and most wonderful time I've ever known. Pretty amazing, considering all I was really looking for was some nice people to talk with.
We started off slow, being open and honest right from the start but taking our time and not rushing into things too fast. That honesty has really paid off for both of us, and now we're very happy together. We're building a life and a future together, and all because I decided to take a chance on someone even though they could have been lying to me, could have been mean and cruel, but who was instead being truthful and kind to me. I guess the moral of the story is "take your time, get to really know someone before you give away your heart."
And please don't tar all men with the same brush; some of us are both honest and kind. Of course they usually tend to be old farts  like me simply because we were raised in a time when manners and decency were the rule, not the exception.
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| May 18, 2006 @ 10:08 PM |
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Female_Pothead
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This is NOT true... Some men are honest, just like alot of women are dishonest 
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| May 20, 2006 @ 3:43 AM |
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Y932638
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Hi
I am going to answer your question. I hope!
Male Truthfulness is very much tied to age and self esteem. Young men lie regularly to make themselves and their conquest look more impressive to other men.
Older men who do not think much of themselves lie to make themselves feel better.
Truthfully young men are ostracized as not being successful.
Only older males who are very sure of themselves do not lie.
Still women want to here lies.
I have never heard of a woman that wants to hear what she really looks like in the morning. An intelligent man tells them they are lovely. This explains why I am single. I do not lie well.
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| May 20, 2006 @ 5:45 AM |
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konban
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could it possibly be that the replies you are getting is not what you really want to hear?
Remember not everyone we are interested in would reciprocate likewise. Don't blame or label all men for the behavior of a few.
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| Jul 11, 2006 @ 11:39 PM |
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hardcore13
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See I know I am late reading this but it kind of makes me laugh. Saying that men are dishonest and judgemental and so on and so forth. I have never had a problem with me n being "bone heads" as you said. If they don't want to message you back who cares, you never really can take anything that people say on here to heart. If I did damn I would have been "in love" a long time ago.
By not putting your picture out there for men to see you are taking a risky choice, because they are going to think and get this impression that you are someone that you aren't. Because do you really want that gorgeous hot guy messaging you and he has no idea what you look like? Do you really think that is going to happen?
We all do it we are all dishonest and un trustworthy to some extent. But think of it this way, hey if he never messages you back after he has seen your picture than just say to yourself well he is the one that is missing out not me. Put yourself in a positive mindset. Mr. Right is out there maybe you are just looking at the wrong faces.
Good Luck in your future endeavours!!!!!
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| Aug 16, 2006 @ 9:29 AM |
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southernheat
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lets face it, we are all animals and first attractions are looks. but we do fall in love with a personality. we all have issues to deal with and honesty has always gotten people in trouble!!! 
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| Aug 30, 2006 @ 1:45 PM |
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guyman
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I am a man and I take offence to your general statement about the honesty of men. You are confusing yourself. There are men and there are boys. you have not met any men on this site as yet. when you meet a man you will know.
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