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| Jul 28, 2006 @ 5:15 PM |
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wawasweetie
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How many of you think it is misleading to french kiss someone that you have no intentions on being any more than friends?I'm going through this now!I really like this guy and he knows it.After pursuing me for over a year and hanging out a few times he wants to be intimate in this way.He told me the last time he was here that he doesn't want or need a girlfriend,but wants to know where he stands with me.Why woud he say that?The things he tells me is like a rollar coaster ride.He says he doesn't want to get closer but than says other things that totally mean opposite.I'm confused!Than he wants me to sit next to him and cuddle n next thing you know he pulls me into a passionate french kiss.What does this all mean?He says sonething and does another.He knows how i feel about him n he's known for a long time.So why play games n why be afraid?I need alotof male thoughts on this one!! And when he left he gave me a couple of soft gentle pecks n hugged me so tight n told me he didn't want to leave.The way he looks at me tells me he feels something too!Could he be just afraid to let his guard down?Or is it just quilt because he can't offer what I want n need from him??
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| Jul 28, 2006 @ 5:28 PM |
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jeanc200358
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It means he's horny.
For me, if you French kiss someone they're more than just a friend. Not that that means anything will come of it, long-term, but if tongues are exchanged that kinda blows the platonic thing clear out of the water.
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| Jul 28, 2006 @ 5:34 PM |
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willsmalto
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First of all, hes afraid of commitment and second of all, he needs and wants some sex...maybe from you. Just know the way you play your cards with him. A french kiss doesn't mean a lot so long as I'm concerned. I could french kiss a one-nighter or someone I'm not really into just for the sake of great sex. that's it.
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| Jul 28, 2006 @ 5:36 PM |
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tahoma
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Hon, DON'T keep setting yourself up for this kind of behavior from men. Back off a little and make them behave like gentleman. I know it's easy to fall into, but you have to be strong.
Having said that, I was kissed passionately by a friend of mine and let me tell you... sparks were flying!!!!!!!! We sat back and looked at each other like WTF just happened? It never happened again and we remained friends, but that is one kiss I will remember a lifetime
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| Jul 28, 2006 @ 5:38 PM |
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wawasweetie
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We didn't have sex,he seems to be afraid of it.He just got out of a bad relationship!But for some odd reason he don't want me to be out of his life.I could push him away,I don't want to.He's cute,a good kisser and I want him to feel safe with me.I just wish he would come around more.But I guess he needs his space to recover.So,I guess since we exchanged tongues that I have a good chance,huh?It's not the first time we exchanged tongues n nothing more.But I must say,I do make him rise to the occasion.I wish he woudn't waste it.But I guess he respects me enough to not let it get that far unless we have a committed relationship!I guess he's not a bad guy after all or I just don't turn him on enough to go there.
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| Jul 28, 2006 @ 5:39 PM |
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jamminjerry
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i only have 2 friends and one is a redhead (ass whooping) and the other is black as in negroid. i have way too much respect to kiss either, now, as for hugging, i do it to aggravate them! LOL
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| Jul 28, 2006 @ 5:41 PM |
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jamminjerry
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oops, is this another one of them drama threads? pardon the intrusion! 
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| Jul 28, 2006 @ 5:49 PM |
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willsmalto
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ok I now get it , he needs a shoulder to cry on or someone who can console him with an intimate kiss and sex later on.....no offense meant. good kisser? good but you gotta keep it at that point for awhile before taking it to the next level.....but you sound like you'll get laid tonight, huh?
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| Jul 28, 2006 @ 6:12 PM |
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wawasweetie
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No,he is unpredictable n I don't know when we r going to hang out again.Last time we hung out was july 5th after he attempted to hang out with me the night before.I didn't answer the door.He wants to keep a distance n doesn't want me to be pushy.He's got alot of shit on his plate right now that he's trying to deal with.His ex won't leave him alone,he works alot n he's searching for a new house.He doesn't have alot of time for me,but atleast he's honest!He'll be around but as long as he doesn't need a g/f,than he can't expect me to wait around for him.I guess he likes the thought that I might be there for him when he needs me n believe me there is a part of me that wishes sex was the reason,but I guess he doesn't need a f**K buddy either.I wish I could understand him n hear from men that did the same kind of things to a woman that he does to me.Men r such confusing creatures n a majority of them r afraid of commitment!!Am I right??
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| Jul 28, 2006 @ 6:17 PM |
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tahoma
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Men r such confusing creatures n a majority of them r afraid of commitment!!Am I right??
Depends on the man. From what I have been able to understand about men in my experience is that men are afraid of commitment with the wrong person. Which will in turn keep them from committing.
 Confusing I know... but the rewards will be there if you just give them their space and show them that you're not willing to just jump in the sack with them. Believe me, men DO want to get laid, but if you jump into bed with them right away, so long Joe... sage advise given to me last night by a VERY kind, gentleman, who, if I would have been willing he would have taken me to bed, but that would have been the last I heard from him and that is not what I want and not what he wanted either
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| Jul 28, 2006 @ 6:24 PM |
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Jankia
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From what I have been able to understand about men in my experience is that men are afraid of commitment with the wrong person. Which will in turn keep them from committing.
That would intend to include everyone,wouldnt it?
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| Jul 28, 2006 @ 6:27 PM |
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tahoma
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As a matter of fact it would.. which is precisely why most of us are still here and single
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| Jul 28, 2006 @ 6:28 PM |
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willsmalto
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Depends on the man. From what I have been able to understand about men in my experience is that men are afraid of commitment with the wrong person. Which will in turn keep them from committing.
well put tahoma 
I'm by no means trying to say your guy's a player or whatever but,like I said before, you just gotta be careful. he might be a decent guy but you don't have to trust him to the point of believing all he tells you. ok how do you know he wasn't come over to your place that night to try things out?
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| Jul 28, 2006 @ 6:46 PM |
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wawasweetie
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Because he claims he just came here to talk to me n nothing more n than when I told him what I was going through in the 5 mths we didn't talk,than he wanted to get closer to me.I hope this is not a quilt thing with him,cause I don't want to win him over that way.I haven't pursued hm or try to contact him in the time we didn't speak,but what really hurts the most is that he still claims that he doesn't want a relationship.I mean,why bother contacting me again if he knows I want more than he can give?It doesn't make sense!!
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| Jul 28, 2006 @ 6:59 PM |
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tahoma
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Make it clear the next time he contacts you that you want more than friendship from him and if/until he is ready to move forward, please respect YOUR space
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| Jul 28, 2006 @ 7:18 PM |
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NeverB4Alone
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He just got out of a bad relationship
He's got alot of shit on his plate right now that he's trying to deal with.His ex won't leave him alone,he works alot n he's searching for a new house.He doesn't have alot of time for me,but atleast he's honest!
Sounds like he is dealing with a lot, and is just not ready to move on, but feels that you are someone he is intersted in, but will not commit to anything with you until he has dealt with the issues he is facing. You said he is honest. Talk to him, and ask him if these are the reasons he is holdng back. It could be he is being more honest with you than you realize he is. Try being that friend that evryone needs, when they are facing an ordeal, and it coud just accomplish more than all of the kneckig, and petting has done. There re times when a person just needs to talk, and have someone there just to listn, and be understanding.
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| Jul 28, 2006 @ 7:19 PM |
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Loreli
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It does not appear that he is serious about you at all. If you're ok with that, kiss him all you want.
You're the only one that can make that call.
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| Jul 28, 2006 @ 7:33 PM |
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NeverB4Alone
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[/QUOTE] he claims he just came here to talk to me n nothing more [QUOTE]
Did you give that a chance??? A lot of men will never admit it, but there are men that need someone to talk to, just like women do when they are going through ordeals, and facing issues, they have never had to deal with before. Maybe he is hoping for that from you. If he is, then you could do a lot to help build a relationship with him, and the two of you would be closer because of it.
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| Jul 28, 2006 @ 7:47 PM |
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wawasweetie
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Yes,definetly I listen to him n I don't put him down jus ttry to give him good advice without thinking of my own needs from him.I think that I give him alot to think about.We do communicate so well n understand each other as friends.But the last thing I want to do is pressure him into something he is not ready for.He did back off when I asked him too for several mths n he has almost got his issues straightened out.He thought I gave up on him.Could he possibly just want to see if I'll be there for him when he is ready to get closer to give him something to look forward to?
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| Jul 28, 2006 @ 8:06 PM |
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NeverB4Alone
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we are all wanting that one that will be there for us. That's what realionship is all about.
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