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| Aug 1, 2006 @ 2:59 PM |
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Thor1960303
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Probably dropping another Jean bomb here, but here goes.If I posted this a few months ago and this is a repeat,just have the mods delete it.Just another blond moment from me....
This term always brought up strange visuals for me.I imagine "casual vs. formal",does it mean the difference of showing up at your date's house in jeans or a tux?
Some people get really passionate about casual sex being wrong or imoral.They talk of spiritual bonding and self value.All well and good I suppose,but there are some folks who just aren't cut out for relationships,there are people in between relationships and they want a break.They still have needs/wants/desires.Is celibacy their only "moral" option?Why or why not?
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| Aug 1, 2006 @ 3:12 PM |
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GildedLion
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I think it is immoral to have casual sex between relationships because it diminishes one's respect for the purpose of sex within a relationship. One can't understand that sex is the closest one can be physically with another person, and doing it casually makes it something trivial.
Those who are not cut out for relationships bed those who are, and the other person ends up hurt.
Sex isn't a need technically, but everyone has desires. I might want to drink a thousand pina coladas, but it would not make for a sagacious choice. Of course, drinking is not immoral.
I also believe it's not moral to ever be 'not cut out for a relationship' because ultimately everything becomes selfish and superficial. One's motifations in life are based on self-gratification over trying to become a better person through a relationship.
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| Aug 1, 2006 @ 3:27 PM |
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sissycat411
Posts: 1,248
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YOU SAID IT QUITE WELL LION..... 
The high of SEX can become quite addictive.....and some need that high ....at the expense of others ...........just my opinion...
Do I love intimacy.....you betcha......do I use good moral judgements in my behavior....I try to......but sometimes I find myself...believing...lies others tell ....to feed their addictive needs......shame on me......but more shame on them.....they obtained what they got through lies....
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| Aug 1, 2006 @ 3:36 PM |
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guiltless
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I would respectfully disagree, with Guilded. Causal sex has a place, but I would hope that both participants are aware that the relationship is not a serious, "we gotta get married" type of deal. So long as both are fully aware, and the sex is consentual, why does it require a "label?"
Does each and every relationship, pretaining to sexual congress HAVE to be based on someone's pre ordained idea of morality? Who are they to judge?
In my distant past I had a very close friend. We were intimate on ocassion. It never led to more but we both were satisfied with the outcome, and each enjoyed the experience.
Clearly you could point out that this is not a "biblical" type relationship. Thats really none of your business, we each made an adult decision, and enjoyed the pleasures that resulted.
Thats not your cup of tea? No problem, the 700 Club comes on in about an hour. Enjoy.
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| Aug 1, 2006 @ 3:53 PM |
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jeanc200358
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Just had to include that snotty ass comment, didn't you, Thor?
I don't have any problem with people having "casual" sex and I sure as hell don't need to be in love with a man in order to have sex with him.
But, the consequences of having casual sex are well documented. So what objections I have to it would be based not upon the act itself, but upon what consequences may result.
I have absolutely NOTHING against sex. In fact, I'm all for it. Because I TRY to use logic and common sense when faced with certain issues doesn't make me some kind of a prude. I haven't always made the wisest decisions and I've suffered for it.
Now, as I've matured, I've come to realize that I don't HAVE to go along with the popular consensus that just because it feels good, that you should go ahead and "do it." That lack of judgment doesn't just end up giving you a bad reputation these days; it could cost you your very life.
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| Aug 1, 2006 @ 4:21 PM |
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kinglouis2005
Posts: 856
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IMO there is nothing wrong with casual sex as long as BOTH parties understand the terms.
It is very shady to decieve in order to get sex.
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| Aug 1, 2006 @ 4:40 PM |
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jeanc200358
Posts: 934
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Guiltless, you should listen to Gilded Lion ..he knows of what he speaks.
Why is it anytime someone makes a sound judgment and reasonable comment with regard to sex you "Heath-rens" all come out of the woodwork screaming about judgment and making fun of religion and so forth and so on?
What do you think morality is based on anyway?
Without the Bible, without God, the consequences of "sin" are still the same. THAT is the purpose for having moral laws, THAT is the purpose for having a lawful society.
Now, I don't agree with all of the laws of the land, no. But I know that I'm bound to follow them.
I don't always agree with all the "laws" of morality, either, but I'm prepared to face the consequences of my actions and I don't start bellyaching about how someone is trying to go all "Jesus" on me, and I don't make smart-aleck comments about how they should go watch the 700 Club.
It seems that the more of a whore one is (male or female) the more popular and accepted they are. I'm not sure why this is, except that it feeds people's narcissistic and shallow attitudes and thinking that "me me me" comes first above everything else.
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| Aug 1, 2006 @ 4:54 PM |
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guiltless
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Your right Jean, I shouldn't have added the comment. Doesn't change my opinion. I love the few who act as the Moral compass for the rest. You have your beliefs, I have mine. Thats make us individuals, and hopefully, allow for an interchange of ideas. I would hope that each is still allowed to think for themselves, Not blindly follow. What a boring world it would be if we all held exactly the same prospective.
Wouldn't it be a B---h, to finally arrive in the afterlife and find out that the Hokey-Pokey really IS what it's all about? "You put your left foot in..." 
You only get one ride on this merry go round, make it an E-Ticket ride while you can!
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| Aug 1, 2006 @ 5:13 PM |
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GildedLion
Posts: 119
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To me, sleeping with one person who I love is infinitely more profound and preferable to a life in which I bed women expecting nothing but casual pleasure. It's all about whether you see sex as something that transcends physical pleasure and means something more emotional and tender. If I went into the afterlife knowing hokey pokey was what is was all about, I still wouldn't go there, I'd rather have known I had savored the closeness of sex rather than it's pleasure.
And there are so many consequences, even if it doesn't effect you emotionallly, which it should.
And I don't like the casual sex beliefs also because they permeate our culture and make people who want to be intimate with one person in a relationship or marriage think that they have to go there to secure a relationship. And that hurts people.
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| Aug 1, 2006 @ 5:29 PM |
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Loreli
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That lack of judgment doesn't just end up giving you a bad reputation these days; it could cost you your very life
Now I have to add a BUT:
what difference does it make it it's casual sex, but using proper protection, or just showing people your stuff for money, and NOT having sex, or having sex with protection.
I don't want to get into a great debate here, also, but just what are the laws of morality if they are not equally and consistently applied to the act?
Oh-and my opinion is, I see no redeeming value to casual sex FOR ME at this point in my life. Could I change my mind? Of course. But it is not what I choose as a goal FOR ME.
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| Aug 1, 2006 @ 5:33 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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Aaron 
I have always had a problem with casual sex. I don't have a problem with people that do it, but I do feel that sex is something to be shared with someone you love. I don't agree with giving into your every desire, I kind of look at it as weakness, to be honest. If we all gave into our every desire, we'd all be fat, drunk, and poor.
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| Aug 1, 2006 @ 6:07 PM |
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kinglouis2005
Posts: 856
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I have a question...
Can anyone here name ONE pleasurable act or action that is NOT significantly better with someone you love..
movies?
Dinner?
walking on the beach?
A game of 2 hand touch football?
Checkers?
anything?
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| Aug 1, 2006 @ 6:24 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
Posts: 9,745
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1. Watching porn (i like to do this by myself or with my friends)
2. Going to Wal Mart and laughing at people (yes, i do this)
3. Hanging out, eating too much food, and laughing at shit that's on tv
4. Staying up until 4 in the morning talking about how we should have our own reality show
5. making out
6. putting makeup on each other (i wouldn't mind doing this with a male counterpart though)
7. trying on dresses
there's more, don't want to bore you.
but sex is a lot more heavy and important than those activities, wouldn't you think?
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| Aug 1, 2006 @ 6:27 PM |
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kinglouis2005
Posts: 856
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Lip that depends....
my point is that EVERYTHING fun is better with your love....sex is no different..now of course most of us are much more selective in who we sleep with and so if you go to Wal mart with a friend no one is gonna say.........OOOOOOOOO Lip was at Wal Mart with her friend, wait till I tell so and so..
anyway sex means differnt things to diffent ppl for different reasons...me I like casual sex and do not need to feel love to have sex nor do I feel having sex means I am in love.
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| Aug 1, 2006 @ 6:50 PM |
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GildedLion
Posts: 119
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by LipGloss
making out
I've kissed some girls casually before, and I felt guilty afterwards. I think kissing is an emotional experience by itself.
King, have you ever been in love?
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| Aug 1, 2006 @ 6:56 PM |
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IndigoRose
Posts: 1,194
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I don't do casual never have ....I enjoy the big buildup...  the getting to know you phase.
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| Aug 1, 2006 @ 6:56 PM |
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kinglouis2005
Posts: 856
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Yes I have.
I just dont associate sex with love.
I can have sex with someone I dont love . Obviously I had sex with the woman I loved.
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| Aug 1, 2006 @ 6:59 PM |
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jamminjerry
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i didn't read any of the other posts!  so, i figure thats like casually brushing your teeth, casually taking a bath, casually eating, etc. casual anything is like taking a dump, its just someeethin ya gotta to do. if ya don't beleive me just ask some 18 y/o kid if hes just gotta have some poon! no thank you, i tried it, i couldn't maintain "attention" i figured out i was different a very long time ago. i quit arguing with life, its just humans and simians i argue with now! LOL
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| Aug 1, 2006 @ 7:01 PM |
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kinglouis2005
Posts: 856
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Question...
In your opinion ..is having sex with anyone you are NOT in love with casual sex?
(that one is for you Lion)
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| Aug 1, 2006 @ 7:09 PM |
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GildedLion
Posts: 119
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I just can't imagine that you've had sex with countless women, probably women whose names you didn't know, and then you have sex with the woman you "love", and it's all great. I mean, did it ever occur to you that you were having sex with her and it's supposed to mean something? Love is supposed to be innocent and exciting, and character driven.
I see love as something I'm obligated to live up to, with sex, with the way I treat the other person, the way I sacrifice etc.
And I do see sex with someone you're not in love with as casual.
[Edited on 8/1/2006 7:10 PM]
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