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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 9:26 PM |
Confidence Is Sexy!
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Empath
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Nowhere is this more important than on the dating scene. I am who I am. I do what I do. I like what I like. I don't like what I don't like. If you like it, fabulous. If you don't, that's okay, because there will be others who do.
All too often people plot and scheme and wonder and ask their friends...."How do I attract so and so?"
Well....let's see. If they aren't looking already, then chances are you are not their type. If you are not their type, you are gonna have to put on a 'mask' to be what they like. Now, I know that can be fun for a little while sometimes, but really...why would you want to go to all that effort to be someone you're not? Eventually you'll be found out....then someone is going to be hurt.
Any thoughts on this?
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 9:28 PM |
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tyrannyforyou
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then again, masks can hide your true self when you are like me. you don't want to be me.
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 9:31 PM |
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luvshorses644
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I know confidence is sexy.. I like to see both men and women know they are of value and if one potential partner does not see or realize their value.. this is not an end of the world situation. No one should ever try to become someone they are not for the sake of a partner, if you are not true to yourself and your likes and dislikes, your component parts that make you the unique individual you are.. then how can you ever be any of those attributes to a potential partner... and the better question is why would you want to change for someone else????
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 9:45 PM |
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Silvertongue62
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Sometimes too much confidence can get you in trouble as well. There are more than a few confident people here. Even though they are loud and brash it comes accross as confident. I am one who is accused of being arogant on a daily basis. But arogant isnt what i am. Sure it what i am. Confident comes from a sense of knowing and everything else is just plain gambling on faith. So confidence may be sexy to some but for me it takes alot more than that. (JMO)
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 9:45 PM |
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Empath
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Exactly Luvs!
One area of dating...or relationships....that confidence shines the brightest in is the bedroom....or stairwell, or campground....or wherever.
If you like yourself, and are comfortable with your body, your focus will be on pleasuring your partner and yourself (either order). You can then put everything you have into enjoying the encounter. No matter what you look like, if your partner enjoys being with you and you make them feel good, they'll keep coming back.
However, if you are not comfortable with your own body, it lessens the enjoyment for both partners. You are so worried about what they think, that you miss out on a great deal of the pleasure you could have been having. If your partner senses that you are not really 'there', that detracts from their enjoyment, and things begin to go downhill from there.
Confidence is so important on so many levels, yet all around me I see people who don't like themselves......and don't even know it!
I don't know if I am saying this well, but atleast I am trying....so there... 
Silver...you snuck in there on me.....but in quick response......is over confidence really true confidence.......or is it a mask for a low self esteem? True confidence is not cockiness, or loud, or 'in yer face'. It just is.
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 9:50 PM |
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spongebob777
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I'm a coward 
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 9:53 PM |
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johnw_6
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ok it depends on what your looking for doesn't it? I mean if your a guy perhaps as long as the mask works the required time  the goal is met.
if it's long term then I'm not sure. perhaps you just want them to like you, to not think ill of you or something and before you know it your hole is too deep to get out off.
Confidence is sexy but only if it's true confidence!
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 9:57 PM |
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Silvertongue62
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Silver...you snuck in there on me.....but in quick response......is over confidence really true confidence.......or is it a mask for a low self esteem? True confidence is not cockiness, or loud, or 'in yer face'. It just is.
I think you are missing what i am trying to say. i am not talking about over confident. I am talking about a perception of confidence.
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 10:04 PM |
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Empath
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Silver.....I may have because you posted while I was 'formulating'.
Perception of confidence as in from others? Others who, perhaps are not confident and criticize yours because they are jealous? Is that more in line with what you mean?
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 10:08 PM |
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Lee_Danger
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There is nothing that turns me on more than a self-confident (with reason) man.
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 10:08 PM |
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Silvertongue62
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Confidence is sexy but only if it's true confidence!  
And if it is true confidence it will truly show in who and what you are. I can act as though I am confident in the bed but I may not be confident enough to find a job. So is it true confidence?
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 10:12 PM |
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Classy_Blonde
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Empath,
I have to agree with you on all points. You too, luvs.
It appears each of us has a somewhat ambiguous definition of what confidence truly is. Interesting.
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 10:13 PM |
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johnw_6
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g*d i got bored and nearly went into the computer section (no one would have ever spoken to me again for that one) -- it's 3.15am here and i haven't found anyone to play with:-( and it seems I'm talking to myself so I'm off to bed.
OT:Silver, I was refering to the mask
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 10:16 PM |
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spongebob777
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I only become confident with women once the knots are tied the duct tape is on and the trunk is locked. 
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 10:19 PM |
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luvshorses644
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Sponge I am confused.. are you the one in the trunk all duct taped up or are you the duct taper????? And if you are the duct taper, after you and she are locked in the trunk.. isn't it a bit crowded and confining???? 
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 10:20 PM |
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Silvertongue62
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Even a mask is not true confidence and it will show.
Confidence is merely courage. To stand your ground in the face of adversity when you KNOW you are correct. whether you are in the board room or the bedroom your personality does not change. Unless you are only confident in times of convience.
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 10:21 PM |
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spongebob777
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If I'm locked in the trunk than confidence isn't required.
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 10:22 PM |
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Silvertongue62
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I only become confident with women once the knots are tied the duct tape is on and the trunk is locked.
Lmao........
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 10:41 PM |
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Empath
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That's why those big old cars were so nice.....maybe even room for....oh nevermind....
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| Sep 16, 2006 @ 10:42 PM |
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spongebob777
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As the old country song said. "I've got an 8 foot bed that never needs to be made"
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