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| Sep 30, 2006 @ 5:08 PM |
Women’s Advantage in the Mating Dance ;-)
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MotownManiax
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Last night I went to see The Who at a place called the Palace (Detroit Pistons play there, NBA team) and observed firsthand, yet again, how much sexual power women have over men ~ grin.
 Btw, great concert, but I was alone….(sigh) the lonely life of a bachelor ~ sniffles.
Anywho, first interesting incident was when I was standing in the indoor bar/club within the Palace, waiting during the intermission between the warm up band and The Who, trying to catch some of the Detroit Tiger/Kansas City Royals game on the TV’s surrounding the bar. I struck up a conversation with a woman my age while she waited in line to get a drink, and she told me a 29-yr-old guy just tried to pick her up…lol. She said she did nothing to get his attention, it was all from him.
Second incident happened right in front of me. Once seated for the concert, I was sitting directly behind a woman, again about my age, accompanied apparently by her teenage son, and two loud, boisterous, middle-aged men arrived late and sat in the open seats to her left. The guy sitting right beside her was obviously smitten and, seeing she was evidently alone, started up a very animated conversation. He practically fell over himself in his quest to impress and ingratiate her, and if body language was any indication, she returned the ministrations equally. I’m not sure if she was divorced, or married and hubby was out doing something else, but her overtly friendly manner suggested she was single. (I'm sure the son was protective of mom and wasn't too thrilled by this guy's antics...lol)
They had a grand old time the whole concert, but I think she realized by his fourth beer that he was getting a little obnoxious, so by the end of the show she left kind of abruptly. However, I’m pretty sure earlier I overheard them agree to exchange phone numbers, so not sure if it was followed up on.
These women did absolutely nothing to initiate interest, just sat or stood there and it just occurred. I didn’t see one instance where the reverse happened.
 Just another reminder that validates my view that women have it much easier when it comes to dating…lol.
 Any thoughts or stories of your own you’d like to share?
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| Sep 30, 2006 @ 7:41 PM |
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candylily
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Once, when Dad and I were in a store buying a blouse for my mom. The pretty saleslady came up all smiles and flirtatious, like women always were around him, and asked what size he was looking for, completely ignoring me. He told her Mom was about her size. She told him she was a 36C. I was around 11 and thought I was really putting her in her place, when I informed her that my mom was a 38D. 
I think as a general rule, women get hit on much more than men do, but there are exceptions to every rule.
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| Sep 30, 2006 @ 7:44 PM |
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MotownManiax
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Sounds like a friendly saleslady...what store was this again? 
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| Sep 30, 2006 @ 8:00 PM |
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candylily
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That saleslady would be too old for you if she's still alive. 
Mom always told my dad when "discussing" all the women who flirted with him, that if he wanted hamburger when he had steak at home, to go for it.
(I don't think she meant she was willing to share either.)
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| Oct 1, 2006 @ 7:06 PM |
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razzired
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I am going to stubbornly stand by my previously stated position that it has nothing to do with gender, it has to do with attitude.
That's my story, and I'm sticking to it.
MJ - 
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| Oct 1, 2006 @ 7:15 PM |
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SunBabe
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hehehe...and I'll be first in line to hit on a guy (ok, well just "flirt") if HE projects that "attitude" 
(Actually, Razzi's absolutely right...my own "attitude" has had its ups and downs a lot over the last two years -- and when it's not there, I'm as invisible and unapproachable as a piece of furniture)
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| Oct 1, 2006 @ 7:27 PM |
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DoorWatcher
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Often, and I mean often, we women don't have the advantage, so to speak. We are just the victims of men who have no idea how obnoxious or obtrusive they are. I know if I were in a room full of men, the biggest Loser would be hitting on me. I guess I have that look..... 
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| Oct 1, 2006 @ 7:44 PM |
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luvshorses644
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If you have been watching "Dancing With the Stars" .. you would know the woman's advantage in the mating dance (me thinks it's called the Salsa.. *winkey, winkey) .. it is getting to dance close enough to her partner to melt the lines of where each begins.. (btw.. I love this year's line up.. Emmit Smith is sooooo debonair .. Joey Lawrence.. now, ladies even with that bad boy bald head..he is yummylicious [ I know he is a youngen, but damn my eyes can watch the candy as long as my lips don't touch it] and Mario Lopez.. those dimples, you could get lost in -- Vivica Fox is one hot mama.. Melinda (forget her last name) can shake that booty.. Sarah Evans - damn those long legs are movin' and groovin')..
OK, ok, we are talking about the mating game between strangers.. I agree it comes from the attitude projected by the one being chased and the aggressor... and there are times as Door said when a woman's own sexy confidence are not an invitation to those that are inobtrusive and rude to hit on her because of it.. in the end, I think things sorta equal out.. there have been times, I have seen someone that has caught my eye and have made that initial flirt beginning by smiling and holding my heart .. or breathing in deeply through clenched teeth and slightly parted lips while doing that low gutteral.. hmmmmm , hmmmmmm, hmmmm
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| Oct 1, 2006 @ 8:51 PM |
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Aries361
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I go to a lot of concerts alone too. I am usually the only one by himself. I did see one woman by herself at two of these concerts and the second time I saw her I started up a conversation. She has got to be at least 15 years younger than me, so I did not bother trying to pursue anything. She was very attractive and must have dozens of guys ask her out every day anyway.
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| Oct 1, 2006 @ 9:37 PM |
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sjpinatl
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MoTown, I see it as the opposite. If you are going to follow the traditional romantic roles, the women has to wait and see who picks her. The man can choose anyone he wants. Yes, he can get rejected, but it is often not as appropriate for women to make the first move, especially if you want it to lead into a real relationship. The man has the advantage. You just have to have the guts to use it.
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| Oct 2, 2006 @ 12:50 AM |
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SunBabe
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She was very attractive and must have dozens of guys ask her out every day anyway.
Aries!!! Please don't assume!!! Aiyeeee, you'd be amazed at how many attractive girls don't get asked out for one reason or another...  (Probably because too amny guys "assume"  )
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| Oct 2, 2006 @ 7:36 AM |
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MotownManiax
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Sun, I took a dancing class about four years ago and there was this knockout woman like that in the class. I was the new person, so I asked some of the "regulars" about her, and they said she was one of those cases where she apparently didn't consider herself drop-dead gorgeous and only dated losers. Maybe she had low self-esteem, not sure, but I actually felt sorry for her. Yes, it CAN happen.
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| Oct 2, 2006 @ 11:45 AM |
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Pete73052
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So you dated her Mo?
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| Oct 2, 2006 @ 11:56 AM |
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MotownManiax
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I said LOSERS, Pete, not complete basket cases like me. 
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| Oct 2, 2006 @ 12:00 PM |
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waiting41
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how much sexual power women have over men
You men just THINK it's only sexual power. The truth is that we have complete power over you and you have absolutely no clue about it...we just let you think you wear the pants...and THAT, my friend, is the true beauty of a woman. :)
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| Oct 2, 2006 @ 12:21 PM |
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lj450
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Yeah, apparently somewhere down the line, we messed up and let them start thinking that poontang was a more valuable commodity than root.........what a royal f*ck up that was!!!!
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| Oct 2, 2006 @ 7:49 PM |
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Aries361
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I see sjpinatl's point, but it is not really true. The woman doesn't really have to wait. All she has to do is smile at a man and that gives him the signal that she is interested. Then it is up to him if he is interested. He is the one who has to do the heavy lifting. I have only had one woman ask me out in my entire life.
I see that it is possible that a beautiful woman can be without a boyfriend. For about 5 minutes. I guess a guy has to take advantage of those 5 minutes. If I see that beautiful woman at another concert and she is alone I will talk to her again and ask her out. I am very curious about her.
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| Oct 2, 2006 @ 8:05 PM |
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razzired
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The woman doesn't really have to wait. All she has to do is smile at a man and that gives him the signal that she is interested. Then it is up to him if he is interested.
Does anyone have a tape recorder I can borrow? Do they even make tape recorders anymore? I feel like I'm saying the same thing, over and over.
You can reverse the genders in the sentences I singled out to quote and the sentiment works just as well.
SOMEONE has to take the initiative. SOMEONE has to do more than just smile. SOMEONE has to actually walk up, introduce him/her self, start a conversation, etc. Sitting there smiling all night will just make your jaw hurt.
Geez. It's really not so hard. It involves a little risk, and the willingness to accept gracefully a 'not interested' response, but it's not so hard. For the man making the first move OR the woman making the first move.
MJ
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| Oct 3, 2006 @ 5:04 PM |
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MotownManiax
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SOMEONE has to take the initiative. SOMEONE has to do more than just smile. SOMEONE has to actually walk up, introduce him/her self, start a conversation, etc. Sitting there smiling all night will just make your jaw hurt.
I'll be waiting for you, MJ.
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| Oct 3, 2006 @ 7:45 PM |
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Thor1960303
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SOMEONE has to take the initiative. SOMEONE has to do more than just smile. SOMEONE has to actually walk up, introduce him/her self, start a conversation, etc. Sitting there smiling all night will just make your jaw hurt. I've seen semi decent looking women just walk into a bar with a short skirt on and have at least 5 guys hitting on them.Never seen the situation gender reversed.
Geez. It's really not so hard. It involves a little risk, and the willingness to accept gracefully a 'not interested' response, but it's not so hard. For the man making the first move OR the woman making the first move.
No one is denying that,MJ.However,if you really analyzed it,you would see it's more than just conversation.The attraction factor is more complex for a woman than it is for a man.Men generally go for looks,and yes,if a woman is a complete zero on the personality scale,she may end up a wallflower regardless of how good she looks.She will no doubt lose out to the girls who have looks AND personality.
Men go after looks,that's all it takes for the initial attraction.Women,OTOH,must have more to become attracted.It's alot more work.A woman just has to be agreeable and responsive.It's the man who has to really have to play the ridiculous game and outwork his compettion.How many women have "wingmen"or other aids in the game?Maybe the fat,ugly one who has to sit at a table with her attractive friends,but that's about it.When was the last time you saw a book advertized to women on "How to pick up guys."?Yes,women compete too,but it's usually those who out "slut" their competition by being "easier".
Now I'm not talking about looking for the someone special or the long term thing,I'm talking about the singles' meat markets and recreational mating scene.
I don't know where you're looking, but it sure ain't the same scene I've seen.
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