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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 11:47 AM |
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southernlady2622
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I met this guy back in October and we pretty much clicked right away. I am not one to have sex before marriage because of religious beliefs BUT at that time in my life I had strayed away from God for awhile. I did make the mistake of having sex with him on the 3rd date and giving him oral and he got upset because I withdrew it as he was c***ing but I didn't know he was upset about this until the next day, I just knew something had changed and I asked him what was wrong so he told me he wanted to c*m in my mouth and that he also wanted anal which I absolutely don't do and informed him of that. I saw him a couple times after that but didn't allow it to happen again . I was very much convicted because I allowed this to happen and told him I could only continue seeing him but there would be no sex. He says there can be no relationship without sex or (making love, he calls it)...I informed him that I would not be having sex with him or anyone else before marriage ever again and he continues to call me and try and change my beliefs in saying that it is ok to make love when 2 people love each other and are planning to be together BUT I know better.
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 11:50 AM |
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chinabull2000
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This is simple, IMO. You have told him of your convictions, and he is not respecting them and is not respecting you. Drop him.
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 11:53 AM |
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Spider374
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If he did "love" you he wouldn't be trying to convince you that it's ok to have sex with him after you've already told him your feelings on the issue. And what's with him getting upset about not cumming in your mouth and getting anal? Yeah, drop him.
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 12:00 PM |
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julia143
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He got angry because he couldn't cum in your mouth? 
I think he was clearly using you, and continues to do so.
This man should be happy to get sex anyway he can...if he is going to complain about how he's getting it...it's time to drop him....let him find someone else to cum on. Go find a man that is happy just to be with you...not complain about sex all day...geez.. 
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 12:06 PM |
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graywolf
Posts: 44,535
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drop him like a hot potato!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 12:31 PM |
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definitelydi
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This opinion will be unpopular but you can't unphuck this guy! You can't give it to him (sex in general) and then decide, "Oh...no! I'm too moral to have sex with you again!" This reeks of a mind game to me. You need to be consistant with your values and you can't be surprised that he'd like for you to change your mind. After all...you gave in to him before.
However, I completely agree that this guy is a total jackass in throwing a fit about not being allowed to cum in your mouth. As already mentioned, he used you and obviously wants to re-use you. You should simply not accept anymore phone calls from him. He should get the hint soon enough.
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 12:49 PM |
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razzired
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The only thing I would disagree with is that he "used" this girl. It doesn't sound like he forced her to do anything; it sounds like she gave him oral sex because she wanted to. If so, he didn't "use" her for anything. They were just having sex, consensual sex.
I also don't have a problem with him being upset at the time that she ruined his happy ending. Before she began her meal, she should have told him she didn't want dessert. That's only fair. That he told her the "next day" says to me that he accepted it at the time.
If you don't want to have sex, don't. If you don't want to see him again, don't accept his calls. But, frankly your high moral ground reason is a little swampy now. If you've changed your mind, just say so as-is, without the sermonizing.
MJ
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 1:55 PM |
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IceDog
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Sounds like a real jerk acting and talking that way to you. I'd drop him if he acts like that now you never know how he will act in later situations.
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 1:59 PM |
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Thor1960303
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I don't think he used this {email address removed} one poster said,you can't unphuck the guy and take it back.This guy is being a jackass because he feels he's being strung along with a silly female head game.You just need to be upfront and explicit with the guy.If you want to stick to your religious beliefs and not waver again,then fine,but don't date guys who don't share your beliefs.
Go back to church and get yourself a nice guy who believes the same way you do.
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 2:53 PM |
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southernlady2622
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This is an email that I sent to him after many phone calls from him that I would not answer because we had been over and over the sex issue many times and ended up in a yelling match.
I want to be with you and I loved making love to you but because of my relationship with God and his word I simply cannot do that anymore. I refuse to be just another hiprocrit that goes to church just to be going fully knowing that I am sinning. When I do that I can't have God's blessings in my life and only feel conviction. If it weren't for the sex issue I would be there with you taking time to make our relationship grow. I am looking for marriage, someone to spend the rest of my days with and if sex is given out so freely there most likely would never be marriage...as the old saying goes "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free"? I am not saying I am perfect, I am far from perfect but I try hard to live by the word and when I get outside the word I am brought to my knees to remind me that I cannot knowingly sin and get away with it. If you want to be with me and build a relationship that will hopefully lead to marriage I am all for that. You have already tested the milk and you already know you loved it and so did I so that is not an issue. Let me ask you this.....ok you say you care about me and I also care about you but I am staying away because of the sex issue...SO we both end up alone when in the end (sooner than we both might think) once we get to really know each other we could have it all, what I'm saying here is that I am looking for marriage and I know someday God will bless me with that so it is well worth the wait.
[Edited on 12/11/2006 3:37 PM]
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 2:58 PM |
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luvmycats
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BLOCK his number!
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 3:45 PM |
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southernlady2622
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Here is an email I got from him just recently
I never said I didn't want to get married again, I do. You say you care about me, well if you did you would make love to me instead of just hurting me. I don't even know if you like sex that much. We could get married and then you not want sex very much and that would only end in us splitting up because I won't live like that. We made love before and you have in the past, no disrespct but its me you have to live with and keep happy, not God. Times have changed and if you love someone it is not wrong to make love if you are really planning on being together in the future
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 3:52 PM |
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LovingRomantic
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He just wants his way...thats not good enough...drop him ...fine someone that is more understanding...  
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 4:20 PM |
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swingpup
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Any type of relationship should of course be a two way street filled with communication. You have your desires as well as your convictions and he has his. Unless this male is extremely sexually needy and knowing your position he should be moving on, not attempting to change your mind. If he can't figure it out maybe it's time you to "Bye Bye Now" the situation.
As far as cuming that should have been discussed prior to the event. Sounds like you had an amateur on your hands. Stick to your beliefs and convictions, what you are seeking in a relationship will eventual occur.
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 4:53 PM |
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definitelydi
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 She has to be related to WAWA somehow!!!
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 4:54 PM |
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julia143
Posts: 1,696
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D.U.M.P. H.I.M.
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 5:59 PM |
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countryboy69995
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reply to his email with a few of these: 
Then tell him that your in to the rouphest form of bondage "real whips and chains etc." and that the only time you let a guy cum in your mouth is when you see him bleeding from the whip marks first. Just tell him its just a sex addiction type of thing you have to do before you do other things during sex. Might as well have fun before you dump his ass. He is having fun playing with your head you might as well have fun too.
But no. Most decent guys out there respect the woman they love and there sexual yeses and nono's. If the only way he can cum is in the mouth I think he may need some sex counceling or something.
I would never have the guts to ask a girl if I could do that and I actually always warn her if she can't already tell that I am about to cum. If she likes it cool. If not thats cool too. 
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 6:06 PM |
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wiccked
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i agree with country boy!!!!!!!  except i would do a few "nasty" things to him!!!!!  i am a lady- you treat me like a lady or i will turn the "bitch" loose on you!!!!!!!  dont get me wrong- these nasty things would not be pleasurable!!!!!!!!! 
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 6:22 PM |
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Loreli
Posts: 25,418
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IMHO
you were willing to start something with him that you aren't wanting to finish.Like that.
You state that you realized you had "strayed" from God.
Not everyone can look at it that way-it used to be called teasing. If you went back to that behavior would the 2 of you want to marry one another? Better yet-do the 2 of you really want a lifelong commitment from each other if you don't?
Talk to him-not us...
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| Dec 11, 2006 @ 6:30 PM |
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ToucherinSparks
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Ok, here I go again.
If I were the guy that had sex with you, I'd think you were some kind of nutjob. You want to have sex, which is normal, then you want to never have it again because of God. That doesn't make a lot of sense to me. If you never wanted sex at all, fine, I'd move on and that would be it. But to do it once, and then go holy joe on me indcates crazy.
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