| Jan 21, 2007 @ 7:05 PM |
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signme
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I agree with Toucherinsparks..if you both care enough you can work out a compromise. After all, isn't most everything in life a compromise? I've been on pain meds and antidepressants and know how they can lower your sex drive. But it can be overcome. I would think 20 times a day is a bit much however. I owuld think that would get in the way of jobs and everyday life. But then again, just my opinion. 
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| Feb 5, 2007 @ 5:21 AM |
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leggyfilly
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at least twice a day is nice,not always practible thought
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| Feb 5, 2007 @ 11:45 PM |
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SpiritOrnery
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Somehow or other I get the impression he ASKED 20 times a day and most likely did not receive it so kept asking. I may be wrong but that was just what it sounded like.
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| Feb 6, 2007 @ 12:53 AM |
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pebbleoconfusion
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Seems to me there'd have to be compromises on both sides I know if I didn't want sex - a thing I can't imagine - it wold be for serious reasons like major illness, death of family members or being way way too tired Long term lack is nothing I ever experienced but if I didn't want to, I would still want them to be happy so that would balance it for me right there.
no oral (me giving) because I have to really want to do that or it's just gross but definite intercourse or if it's a matter of pain down there then vice versa. There's always something you can do! Isn't there??
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| Feb 6, 2007 @ 12:59 AM |
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pebbleoconfusion
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i have too be honest here, i love sex, and can't get enough, hey 17 times a day is good enough for me. but for me too be able too want sex that much, she has too rally turn me on
That sounds dangerous baby How does a woman turn you back off again when she can't take it anymore? I'm thinking you might send her to the hospital with that sort of action!
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| Feb 6, 2007 @ 1:03 AM |
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pebbleoconfusion
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What if her sex drive was never high, and the guy knew that from the start, but still asks for sex like 20 times a day?
Then he's disrespectful and hounding a woman is more likely to make her not want to do it!
But the woman should still get checked out by a doctor or maybe even a therapist because most people who aren't traumatized or ill in some way want to have sex fairly often even if they don't ever get to it because of responsibilities
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| Feb 9, 2007 @ 8:54 PM |
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I12B810
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Can never have too much sex.
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| Feb 14, 2007 @ 12:35 AM |
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Bagherra
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Yea... Its been my experience that when a relationship is going well. The sex is not big an issue. It may be great sex, it may not but the capacity to work with where it is - is ever present.
When the relationship is not so smooth, the opposite tends to be the case. Even then, sometimes the relationship is so-so but the awkward thing is that the sex is Soooo good! The thing is thought, that it has to be.
On the other hand, I've never been in a functional relationship which did not feature some sexual activity at least a couple of times / week. On reflection, this may be a psycho-physical minimum - in the long term. Conversely, I quite happilly nursed a partner who survived several compound fractures of one leg & a complete knee reconstruction. This required 6+ months in a wheelchair. We got by.
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| Feb 14, 2007 @ 12:49 AM |
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SpiritOrnery
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Hey, did yall figure out that sex temporarily makes pain go away?  
Hah! One time when I was working construction I stepped on a 16 penny nail. Damn that hurt. Slipped on mud and landed on the nail. Boyfriend wanted to come over and see me and I kept whining how bad it hurt. Well he convinced me to let him come over!  Pain went right away! Til afterwards...  
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| Feb 14, 2007 @ 10:27 AM |
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Laidback742
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Sex is supposed to help get rid of headaches .... guess that excuse can go out the window.
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| Feb 14, 2007 @ 6:47 PM |
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SpiritOrnery
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Nothing like a gentle neck massage to get the headachey one in the mood! Once in the mood...headache out da window!
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| Feb 14, 2007 @ 9:09 PM |
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candylily
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Sex drives may not be the most important thing in a relationship, but to me, it would be near the top. Being ignored or worse, turned down sexually, by someone who supposedly loves you hurts very badly. I've been on both sides of that equation and it didn't work either time. Sex drives go up and down, but when the urge doesn't return, something is very wrong with the relationship assuming there's not a physical problem.
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| Feb 14, 2007 @ 10:55 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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So if the problem is not physical, it immediately becomes about the partner?
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| Feb 14, 2007 @ 11:23 PM |
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emperorguy
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how much is appropriate-- um-- more, more, more--- 
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| Feb 14, 2007 @ 11:23 PM |
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SpiritOrnery
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It could be emotional. EFT can help. Also it could be the prescriptions that are being taken. It could be past life, inner child, lots of things. For that matter, could be his block as well. Most of that except the drug reaction can usually be cleared if the person that is not feeling sexual gives a flip one way or the other.
Could also be he is not the right one.
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| Feb 15, 2007 @ 1:28 AM |
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SunBabe
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Sex is supposed to help get rid of headaches .... guess that excuse can go out the window.
It DOES! 
And the endorophines are just mahvelous for a whole list of ailments
"Playing Doctor" takes on a whole new meaning 
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| Feb 15, 2007 @ 1:32 AM |
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SunBabe
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So if the problem is not physical, it immediately becomes about the partner?
It's a TWO partner "issue"...two right-for-each-other partners, LG
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| Feb 15, 2007 @ 3:26 AM |
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SpiritOrnery
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Good for the skin too, Sun. Don't forget that. Oh, and a friend of mine hooked up with this lady that had fibromyalgia and he said her fibro improved! She had lots more get up and go, too!
 Is that why I don't have that get up and go anymore?
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| Feb 15, 2007 @ 4:27 AM |
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synfllyswt
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I think sex is fantastic. I love sex with the right partner. Someone who turns me on mentally as well as physically. Maybe the compromise can be other intimate activities. If you love him you compromise by having sex once maybe twice a week and he compromises and you give each other massages one night. The next night you cuddle up and watch a movie together. Maybe you could help him one night by ...um...having his release. There are all sorts of ways to be intimate with your partner.
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| Feb 15, 2007 @ 4:30 AM |
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MusicMonster
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Any more than say an average of 4 times a day can dramatically interfere with one's daily schedule. Especially if it is a lengthy process taking over an hour per incident. And too, the locations must be considered. So convenience enters in as well.
I think 3-4 times per day is probably a good average to shoot for, all other things considered. That is, for the average couple.
However as previously stated, libido levels is important to consider in selection of a partner. Because if there is a major imbalance, it's sure to become a problem at some point. Sure either can go off and take care of business occasionally.. But over the long haul that isn't usually a good solution to an imbalance.
-MM
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