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| Jan 27, 2007 @ 1:17 PM |
Exhibitionism: A Turn-on or Turn-off?
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sciurusniger
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Would you want to be with someone (permanently) who talks about their sexual proclivities in public? And by talk, I don't mean just things like, "Yeah, sex is great," or "My opinion as to when to have sex for the first time with a new person is blah, blah, blah." I mean they talk about every little detail of what turns them on, turns them off, how many people they've done things with, how many places they've done it, and so on and on and on....
Such talk in a public forum is a form of exhibitionism. Just so there's no misunderstanding:
Main Entry: ex·hi·bi·tion·ism
Pronunciation: -'bi-sh&-"ni-z&m
Function: noun
1 a : a perversion in which sexual gratification is obtained from the indecent exposure of one's genitals (as to a stranger) b : an act of such exposure
2 : the act or practice of behaving so as to attract attention to oneself
My answer: neither type of person (pervert or attention whore) is someone with whom I'd want to be intimately involved.
So in the words of that popular old television show, "Survey says...???"
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| Jan 27, 2007 @ 1:26 PM |
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Loreli
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2 : the act or practice of behaving so as to attract attention to oneself
Well, that could certainly knock a great number of people out! 
I don't mind self-confident people that do a LITTLE flirting. But, as with anything, it depends on the dose and the dispenser. To do anything continuously to not just get attention yourself, but interrupt interaction between others around is out of MY line. IMVHO
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| Jan 27, 2007 @ 1:26 PM |
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nightrider3281
Posts: 752
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turn off
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| Jan 27, 2007 @ 1:31 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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it depends exactly on what was being done in public.
i don't mind making out in public, but also it depends on the setting.
i remember when i was like 11...my mother, my sister, my friend jessica and i went to the beach for a weekend and we parked next to this car and this gorgeous looking couple pretty much started to have sex (not literally, but close to it) on the hood as soon as they saw us. they continued this on the beach in front of everybody, and then again in the car.
that sort of thing would definitely be a turn off.
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| Jan 27, 2007 @ 1:35 PM |
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luvshorses644
Posts: 1,571
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...turn off... -- BIG TIME!!!
There is only one place I want my future best friend/lover/confidant to be an exhibitionist .. alone with me.
If he has to flirt to attract attention to himself.. then time to say ... buuuubyyyyeee and show him politely to the door. Open up a bottle of awesome zin.. put on some great music and dance my arse off.. knowing "I saw the light" ..
After all, I want to experience all those private nuances with HIM.. not share with everyone!!!
Just my two cents worth in a hundred dollar world.
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| Jan 27, 2007 @ 1:59 PM |
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callmemax
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always believed that those who showed / talked it, were showing / talking, cause they couldn't do it. a person with confidence doesn't have to toot his / her horn about anything. think their is an old saying--- self-praise stinks.
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| Jan 27, 2007 @ 2:02 PM |
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budo13
Posts: 3,609
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turn on won't make judgements on others to each thier own 
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| Jan 31, 2007 @ 1:20 AM |
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tatiana329
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Its a turn off. I know one guy like this and some of his ( girlfriends and ex girlfriends) these women tell me he can't even perform sexually. I noticed he blinks too much and have wondered if he's bi because he has so many traits I consider as a prissy female would.
yuck.
no wonder he can't keep a woman
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| Jan 31, 2007 @ 1:38 PM |
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painter007
Posts: 17,853
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Not here to judge.......what people wish to say is their business. When you come to a open online dating site you will read everything..or you can choose to overlook it. We read about people heartbreaks...watch people chase each other around...hear about their disappointments......and are taught grammar lessons....
Its all really very interesting. jmo
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| Jan 31, 2007 @ 8:14 PM |
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sciurusniger
Posts: 2,958
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Not here to judge.......what people wish to say is their business. Certainly. But the question was would YOU want to be with someone who aired the details of their sex life in public?
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| Jan 31, 2007 @ 8:20 PM |
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daisy315
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big turn off.. my mom always told me that those that talk the most, do/get the least. I have found that so true..lol..
I get embarrassed when I hear people talk like that, whether I know them or not.
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| Jan 31, 2007 @ 11:40 PM |
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raykl
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Vocal exhibitionism, where it is alowed to be heard by other strangers, would lead more to an embarrassing situation. If it was discrete, used as a form of foreplay, then it could possibly be a turn-on. It would have to be very tantalizing for it to work.
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| Feb 1, 2007 @ 10:00 PM |
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willsmalto
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Such talk in a public forum is a form of exhibitionism.
I don't take that as a turn off here cos as you said, its the forum. some people on here..me included... just like to get silly sometimes. this doesn't mean thats what we are or how we act...just trying to have a ball or something. Most everybody on here say things contrary to what they do in real life( actors/actresses)...I seldom take SOME forum posts serious.
generally speaking, exhibitionism in public is a real turn off...just my opinion but to each their own.
But the question was would YOU want to be with someone who aired the details of their sex life in public?
hell no.... but as ray earlier mentioned, in the bedroom, its no problem(turn on)
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| Feb 3, 2007 @ 9:39 PM |
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sensualrenegade
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TURN ON
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| Feb 3, 2007 @ 10:16 PM |
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MusicMonster
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Would you want to be with someone (permanently) who talks about their sexual proclivities in public? And by talk, I don't mean just things like, "Yeah, sex is great," or "My opinion as to when to have sex for the first time with a new person is blah, blah, blah." I mean they talk about every little detail of what turns them on, turns them off, how many people they've done things with, how many places they've done it, and so on and on and on....
No (as stated) I would not. It would be an embarrassment for one thing, and personally? A big turn-off. Certain things should be kept between the two parties except perhaps in great moderation, and in jest. And usually promoting one's personal prowess in a crowd, is not well received by very many people..
-MM
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| Feb 10, 2007 @ 3:14 PM |
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Iakaraokeman
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This one time at band camp Oh never mind Sorry I forgot where I was at
Can you tell its way to cold here Bring on Summer 
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| Feb 10, 2007 @ 6:11 PM |
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IndigoRose
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So if a man walks around naked in front of windows waist high but wears a belt...is he an exhibitionist?
It's my opinion that those that talk the most about "It" are getting the least of "it"
talk all you want I normally stay outta the naughty threads but sometimes I gets the devil in me and geez I just say stuff  as long as I don't embarress myself it's all good! 
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| Feb 10, 2007 @ 6:31 PM |
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ToucherinSparks
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I noticed he blinks too much and have wondered if he's bi because he has so many traits I consider as a prissy female would.
Blinking too much is a prissy female trait? Maybe the dude has dry eyes. I know that when I spend a lot of time in the machine room at work, I blink a lot because my eyes dry out. And I've never been accused of having any prissy female traits.
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| Feb 10, 2007 @ 7:32 PM |
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SunBabe
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goofin' around (kinda like Indie said) is one thing (I don't view that as personal details -- more like "exhibitionism of a mind", not a bod)
And I don't consider serious discussions "exhibitionism", even if they may reveal a few "details"...like the damaged nerve that affected my pelvic region once upon a time, or the fact that even horney young women may need the benefit of K-Y some of the time.
But I feel that what is left unsaid can be more of a turn on that knowing everything -- and knowing everyone ELSE knows the same thing, too. Then again, sometimes it helps -- knowing in advance that someone would be a turn-off because we don't share the same "proclivities".
I recall both a special gentleman and I being a bit naughty publicly, individually, when we weren't looking at each other. I can't say it was a "turn on", but when we finally did get together, we were both aware in advance that we weren't shy about discussing sex and sexual matters...with each other, even, which was especialy nice, "relationship communication-wise". But no one ever heard us post any REAL sexual details about ourselves or each other after that  That'd have been like we had an audience in the room...nope, we didn't want to share that aspect of our relationship with the whole world, lol. (OK, admitting we always shared the shower and cooked nekkid doesn't count  ...that was just an indication of how utterly comfortable we were with each other  )
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Eye blinking??  That's a new one on me, hehehe.
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| Feb 11, 2007 @ 8:32 PM |
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SpiritOrnery
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I am getting mixed signals here. You state sexual talk publicly then you tack on the definition: 2 : the act or practice of behaving so as to attract attention to oneself. Personally I do not care for people that are 'invisible'. I do not care for people that are sexual extroverts and exhibitionists that way.
I do like strong personalities. I have to have someone that can deal with my strong personality. I think all personalities are perfect for someone, even the sexual extrovert. Just not for me.
I try not to be judgemental. Everyone has the right to have the personality that most makes them feel good. I just hope they are all able to find those people they most connect with. More power to them.
Anyone that is connected to me is hopefully someone that can share, take turns, be supportive of my needs and of COURSE, I will be the perfect audience for them as well. I do like attention but I love to GIVE attention. Someone that wants all the attention 24/7? No, no way. Gotta be my turn sometime.
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