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| Feb 19, 2007 @ 3:06 PM |
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amicishirl
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Is this a common thing or am I just meeting weird guys who seem to think: 1st date - lunch, 2nd date - dinner and a movie, 3rd date - time for sex!!????? (And I don't agree and generally decide that I don't want to see them again after that!!!) To me it depends on if you think there is enough there for a relationship - not the amount of dates!
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| Feb 19, 2007 @ 3:39 PM |
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candylily
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Well at least that's better than all the ones I've met who try to convince me the first date really should include sex. On the second date, they think it's cruel and unusual punishment to have to wait for a third date.
You know who you are and why you're having a problem getting that 2nd date. 
Explain your logic on here. I started a thread about it also, but I will never tell who you are.  You can pretend to be a disinterested third party on any thread you choose to answer on.
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| Feb 19, 2007 @ 5:25 PM |
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ISSUESWOPTIONS
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But what about the Virtual dates? Ya know, like meet me in the chat room, Yahoo me(until 6am or later), 5 hr phone convo that last until you fall asleep and only remember a gnite luv in your ear? What about them?Aren't they dates also? they may be non spendature dates but damn....uh no ....wait....here is the double standrd....It is ok though if the person has to travel HoRuS or take a flight to get to you. then it's ok....huh? and then it IS before the second date or even the first....  
So....please....tell me NOW of this third date thing....and who it really applies to...because obviously....you want the person that is closer....but will quicker "DO" the farther one.... WTH!!! interesting logic there...... 
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| Feb 19, 2007 @ 5:34 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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Sadian yer right it DOES seem if you have to FLY to meet someone the chances of hopping stright into the sack are greater maybe JUST to get your $$ worth?? not that I have done anythignlike that 
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| Feb 19, 2007 @ 5:50 PM |
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starchild888
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Well, I'll just have to make sure that I don't shave my legs when the third date pops around!
And....a real date is one on one.....in person....not on line--just my opinion.
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| Feb 19, 2007 @ 6:02 PM |
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ISSUESWOPTIONS
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Becky it is apparant to me that the adage is true:people are stupid and need guidance. Just when you thought that religion was suppose to cure that.....
Ok...about the topic...
the closer you are the more a woman will use you for her own pleasure then cry hurt right after giving any up. this is funny as hell because the contary cry is "I miss my heart" if the person just traveled back over two hours or more to get back home.... WTH????
i guess the objective of every guy should be to find the one who lives in the mid distance between the closest lady and fartherst. not only will he constantly get some, but she'll love and miss him also...."GOOD GOD"
(as strange as it seems, that just makes perfect sense to alot of readers)
for the close guy who wants some ( within a 50 mile radius, dont asky why just accept the stature of limitations) be willing to fork out ALOT of cash, time, and frustrations before the "WOOO HOOO " day. WHY? Because estrogen figures that if you work for it, you really want it, totally forgetting that there are women who fly ALSO, and that BS game of "YOU're Gonna wait for this will hold; all this while knowing that Hans from the other side of the country is flying in to see her and his only price to pay is that he better be cute in life as in the pic. Why fellas? because he bought the ticket to get the prize.... 
Ok oK Okkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkay!!! Here is the killer....for every girl that gives it up because the guy flew in to see her......"Does he have a family member or friend that works for the air line? WHY? Because the flight was free....and so was everything else....
The Kicker for the ladies.............
Guys LIKE flight attendents........
(ok....the hate mail may now commense)
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| Feb 19, 2007 @ 6:15 PM |
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fayblack
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There are too many factors to be taken into consideration ... it is not just about money spent, number of face to face dates or "playing" (on either side). It should be about the individual's value system, how they feel about their body, if there is physical attraction and what they want and expect from the relationship. Indeed, if there are wants and expectations at all.
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| Feb 19, 2007 @ 6:22 PM |
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starchild888
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I don't know -- spending a lot of money to buy an airline ticket just to get laid ? HMMMM  If I wanted to do that I could just walk into any hot nightclub here in town and start advertisin' if that's what I wanted. Someone is always bound to answer. I think if you were willing to make the plans, spend the money, take time off from work --this is a HUGE risk-- on both sides. To me there would be a lot more going on than just getting banged ---bangity bang
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| Feb 19, 2007 @ 6:32 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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2 years=time to think about having sex.
allows us to get to know each other intimately and perhaps be intimate in other ways before deciding we want to go that far and make that much of a commitment.
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| Feb 19, 2007 @ 6:44 PM |
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ISSUESWOPTIONS
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There are too many factors to be taken into consideration ... it is not just about money spent, number of face to face dates or "playing" (on either side). It should be about the individual's value system, how they feel about their body, if there is physical attraction and what they want and expect from the relationship. Indeed, if there are wants and expectations at all.
....ok.......so now we add confusion to the third date..........interesting.
Self expression is the grandest thing because when inabitions are released you'll be faced with the absolute truth.
Sex is not rocket science folks. The real core of the question is:
How do you forge a real relationship, or is sex the pennultimate in the deciding of a relationship?
When you start designating a quota for sex then your relationship is only about sex. Establishing quota's state that you are only waiting for the relations to end. and if a woman holds out sex then she has won....THAT IS BULLSHIT!!! You automatically lose when you establish a quota. Why? Because the interest is really no longer for a relationship, but if you are good enough in bed to keep him vs....."the others" For all who wonder where mind games come from.....Here is their origin.
Every lady wants a relationship that lasts. The mold now is to hold out, then slowly release your skill over time so he is left in amazement, then what after he know all of your tricks and skills??????
If you really take a look ladies, YOU WERE BEING DISHONEST FROM THE START!!!!! (welcome to the area of break up and divorce)
So....How do you establish a lasting relationship that is not based on sex in which the man will NEVER cheat?
Understand the above in detail....
end of lesson
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| Feb 19, 2007 @ 6:51 PM |
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fayblack
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LOL
so now we add confusion to the third date
I think in a strange kind of way we are on the same page here. My initial thoughts were not about adding confusion but rather saying that 3rd date or 1st date or 10th date, there are many factors that matter in a relationship. And it would seem to me that sex is a factor in healthy, adult relationsips.
There really is no magic formula other than what "works" for the couple involved.
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| Feb 19, 2007 @ 6:53 PM |
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ToucherinSparks
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I ain't givin it up until she has spent AT LEAST $500 on me.
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| Feb 19, 2007 @ 7:15 PM |
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candylily
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Sadian, I think you're probably correct about sex being more likely if there's long distances involved. It is much more expensive to travel to meet someone and most men are not going to do that unless they have also invested a lot of time getting to know a woman first. No one will spend months (sometimes almost a year) and talk for hundreds? of hours unless the attraction is very strong. After talking that many hours with someone, you get to know them very well on many different levels. Once you finally meet in person, you usually have an entire weekend or more to spend together with no other distractions. Before the end of the trip you've spent all day long together for several days in a row. If there's a physical attraction to go along with the emotional attachment you've formed with the other person, it's very likely you may end up in bed before the weekend is over, but you've crammed 7 or 8 dates into 1 very long date after months of talking.
There's no reason to spend months before meeting someone nearby when you can just hop in your car and see if you like each other in person. If you meet someone for dinner after talking to them a couple times on the phone, there's not nearly as much time invested in the relationship and also no rush. You can see each other again next weekend or whenever you choose to.
No one drives or flies hundreds of miles out of their way just for sex with a stranger. Sex is readily available much closer for most of us. The very fact that a man is willing to spend that much time (and money) getting to know a woman takes it out of the casual sex classification. That man is seriously interested in the woman for more than just sex and the woman knows it.
[Edited on 2/19/2007 7:22 PM]
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| Feb 19, 2007 @ 7:33 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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I ain't givin it up until she has spent AT LEAST $500 on me.
Touch, I'm shocked...you'd sell yourself that cheaply???????
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| Feb 19, 2007 @ 7:36 PM |
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JayBird747
Posts: 728
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I got just one answer...
YA DAMN RIGHT!!!!!!!
If there ain't none comin out by date #3, there damn shore ain't gonna be no date #4. I only gonna spend so long waterin a dead tree, ya know.
The only thing worse is if I been pickin up the tab each time. I don't get no cozy time by date three, and I been buyin, I am liable to present a bill for expenses and wasted time.
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| Feb 19, 2007 @ 7:36 PM |
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Aries361
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The 3 date rule seems to be the way it works these days. I would never do it that way. I would have to know someone for a few months. The 3 month rule for me.
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| Feb 19, 2007 @ 7:40 PM |
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JayBird747
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That's fine as long as yer footin the bill. Otherwise, better take it somewhere's else, Toots.
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| Feb 19, 2007 @ 7:49 PM |
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beckyiv42000
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Im thinking it might depend on the perosn and WHAT kind of realtionship they are looking for with some they might only want SEX or a animal lusty thing going .. others might be looking for something more... it all depends on the individual situations and partners..
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| Feb 19, 2007 @ 7:58 PM |
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ramsfan1970
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Could it also depend on how long you've gone without?
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| Feb 19, 2007 @ 8:07 PM |
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lynnielou
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where did all of these rules come from?
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