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| Feb 20, 2007 @ 12:58 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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We all need to wake up and realize that this could be the last time we EVER get the chance to have sex again for the rest of our lives!!!
I'd rather never have sex again than have it with someone I don't know (gone out with three times)/don't give a shit about
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| Feb 20, 2007 @ 2:19 PM |
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Thor1960303
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Gee,reading all of this crap makes me so glad this is all behind me.The last time I was with someone who played the "hold out game",it didn't take long to figure out what kind of immature,shallow woman she really was.Looking back,I'm glad the relationship never got to the intimacy/sex stage,I sure as hell wouldn't want the drama that goes with someone with an overinflated sense of self importance and the imaturity to play the date counting game to boot.
Sadian,sounds like you've been through a gamut of head cases and silly games.Been there,done that, you have my sympathies.Like I said,I'm glad it's over.
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| Feb 20, 2007 @ 2:29 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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someone with an overinflated sense of self importance
yeah, because if she doesn't want to have sex with you right away, that is what she must be, instead of scared, insecure, slow to trust, uneasy about the act of sex...
yeah, it must be that she just thinks she's hot shit and wants to play games with you.
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| Feb 20, 2007 @ 2:37 PM |
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Loreli
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sorry...but I only send those to ONE Angel (no not my mom) and she even gets long stem roses with them
Me? Is it me? 
lakaraokeman...
yes, it's the hat...
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| Feb 20, 2007 @ 3:26 PM |
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Angel178
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When I grew up, it was "wait until you're married" What a load of crap that is!!! It's way better before marriage than after marriage!! Oh, sorry, maybe that was just my marriage 
I still think that romance and forming an emotional closeness with the person before sex is important. You guys make it sound like if we don't sleep with you by the 3rd date than we are not worth getting to know better. If that is all you want with the woman, go to a club. Don't bother getting to know her, and don't waste your time or money on the 1st and 2nd date.
I think that it's kind of sleezy to say that if it dosen't happen by a certain date then you will take off. You might miss out on the women of your dreams! 
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| Feb 20, 2007 @ 6:10 PM |
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Thor1960303
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yeah, because if she doesn't want to have sex with you right away, that is what she must be, instead of scared, insecure, slow to trust, uneasy about the act of sex...
I generally stayed away from those types.It's not that I am being uncaring,it's that a person with those issues would clearly be incompatible with me.In my experience,if I had to play the cat and mouse game or the "get to first base on the second date" and them have to "work up to second base" or whatever,it usually meant there was more drama to the woman than was worth.I DON'T do drama and I DON'T play games.Didn't even play them much when I was younger,had better things to do.
I think that it's kind of sleezy to say that if it dosen't happen by a certain date then you will take off. Geez,hard to believe some guys still do that in this day and time,but I'm sure they do.I think the key is communication.There is a myth that people seem to hang on to that says if new couples talk about their passions BEFORE they get to these points,then the spontanaeity,intimacy and "sparks"get compromised.That's a load of crap.Common sense and communication can actually add to the passion because the burden of worrying about these issues has been lifted.
[Edited on 2/20/2007 6:20 PM]
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| Feb 20, 2007 @ 6:26 PM |
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lj450
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okay I thought about it ... LJ?? wanna
Better hurry......I already started without you.
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| Feb 20, 2007 @ 6:29 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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I generally stayed away from those types.It's not that I am being uncaring,it's that a person with those issues would clearly be incompatible with me.In my experience,if I had to play the cat and mouse game or the "get to first base on the second date" and them have to "work up to second base" or whatever,it usually meant there was more drama to the woman than was worth.I DON'T do drama and I DON'T play games.Didn't even play them much when I was younger,had better things to do.
I understand that you wouldn't want to be with someone like this, and everyone has different tastes...but what I am trying to say is that there are some women who are scared to be intimate and insecure about sexuality...and those women are not game players or malicious or devious at all in their intent and I think it's really quite ludicrous to label them as such.
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| Feb 20, 2007 @ 6:50 PM |
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shellsmack1
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if you think there is enough there for a relationship
I don't give in quickly and am very picky, I'm with you, it depends if you feel there's potential there for more.
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| Feb 20, 2007 @ 7:37 PM |
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Iakaraokeman
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I just wanna make out any of you Girls wanna make out I may try to feel you up too I will wear the hat if need be Loreli I glad you like it I see you are from Cedar Rapids also Do you ever go to Sammys or Chappys Safari ?
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| Feb 20, 2007 @ 7:45 PM |
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Loreli
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Ummm, I don't do the bar scene much, actually..but when I do it's Chappy's or Chrome Horse... 
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| Feb 20, 2007 @ 7:50 PM |
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Iakaraokeman
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I do the Karaoke shows at Chappys If you find yourself there on a Thursday come up and say Hi. I will buy you a drink
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| Feb 20, 2007 @ 8:52 PM |
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Loreli
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I didn't look at your age, but when was your last "makeout" session?
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| Feb 20, 2007 @ 9:46 PM |
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ISSUESWOPTIONS
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Sadian,sounds like you've been through a gamut of head cases and silly games.Been there,done that, you have my sympathies.Like I said,I'm glad it's over.
Yep! No more religion bound chicks for me that only want the bad boy that their parents tell them to stay away from. Give me the Pagan/Pagen chick that knows it is not sex that makes the relationship but the interactions between the two parties on a regulat basis. The sex only gets better when they can OPENLY communicate without all the restrictive BS, as well as the relationship.
Ever notice how you have ALOT less seperated Pagans/Pagens looking for TRUE love?
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| Feb 20, 2007 @ 11:18 PM |
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koyen
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sex?? not likely.. sometimes.. it's ok to have wide passions driven sex.. but I do like the tease and long love making.. that's where it at.. If I can get a woman panting.. there's just a chance I may let her cool down again and then bring the temp up.. thats where the heat comes from..
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| Feb 21, 2007 @ 10:54 AM |
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shellsmack1
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This thread makes me think of something...I know...stop thinking.  
Anyway, you know how when you kiss someone it can get really heated and TOUCHER (heehee) feelie? So many guys have always said that a women is a tease because she doesn't go further after getting the hot on. But if she did then she'd be easy. Heck, can't we just enjoy each other, get all worked up and wallow in it with anticipation for one day doing the wild?
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| Feb 21, 2007 @ 10:58 AM |
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Thor1960303
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I am trying to say is that there are some women who are scared to be intimate and insecure about sexuality...and those women are not game players or malicious or devious at all in their intent and I think it's really quite ludicrous to label them as such.
Agreed and it wasn't my intent to label anyone,sorry if it came off like that.Sometimes I'm a little too blunt for some folks' taste,but that's just me.I've been around and with both types.The type that likes games and those usually got dumped right off the hop as well as the type you're speaking of to which I just said,"hey no offense,but this ain't gonna work,we just aren't compatible,best of luck.".In my previous thread,I was referring to specific woman I briefly dated a few years ago.I thought I made that clear,guess I didn't
I have had a policy that works for me and I tended to stick with it in spite of the fact that some look at is as narrow minded and cruel.I won't date anyone with what I consider a serious issue and that includes the intimacy issues you speak of .It's just the same as my policy of not dating anyone with a disorder like bipolar disorder,dysthymia,major depression or OCB.I just don't have the patience for it.My loss maybe,but after 12 years of living with someone with one of those issues,I just wasn't interested and didn't have the time or patience to deal with it.
Ever notice how you have ALOT less seperated Pagans/Pagens looking for TRUE love
I would be interested to know if there's been a study done of this,my own personal experience bears this out too.Pagans rock! I have some friends down near Tampa,the hubby is a Druidic Shaman and the wife is a Satanic priestess.They've been together over 20 years and their kids are some of the most well behaved,well adjusted kids you could meet.Contrast that to many of the more "mainstream" or "traditional" religious couples I know,their divorce rate is just as high as their counterparts who never darken the door of a church or synagogue.So much for "traditional values" I suppose.But like I said,I've never seen an empirical study.I personally think it may have something to do with the fact that Pagans,true practicing Pagans are very close to their natural instincts and animal drives,that is everything they do is designed to work WITH nature and not against it.Very astute observation,sir.
[Edited on 2/21/2007 11:13 AM]
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| Feb 21, 2007 @ 1:18 PM |
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Thor1960303
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But if she did then she'd be easy
What's wrong with that?I prefer things in life to be easy,I've had to work extremely hard for most everything I've gotten in life.Does it really HAVE to apply to everything?
But then I've never subscribed to the "nice girl/bad girl" school of thought.It's always been "nice girl" vs."Gooooooooood girl",with me preferring the latter.
I've always been out of sync with society's double standards and silly rules,who needs them?
Heck, can't we just enjoy each other, get all worked up and wallow in it with anticipation for one day doing the wild?
Then what happens if that anticipated day never rolls around?The guy just invested all of those frustrating hours of lead up and build up to nothing but blue balls.  Back to square one with nothing but wasted time to show for it.The difference between the genders here is we get pissed if the relationship fizzles out and there's no sex because we can at least look back and say,"Hey at least I got laid".You ladies get ticked if the sex did happen and the relationship didn't.Another of nature's cruel tricks played on humanity.
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| Feb 21, 2007 @ 5:28 PM |
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candylily
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I think what men fail to understand is that having sex just to be having sex with anyone is not that enjoyable for most women once they know themselves and what makes them happy. Our emotions and our bodies are connected if we're healthy emotionally. It's almost impossible for us to disconnect our hearts from our ******* and if we succeed, our body quits responding anyway. At least, that's what mine did when I was young and listening to the stupid women's lib crap about sexual freedom. I don't think I'm the only one who discovered that about myself, am I?
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| Feb 21, 2007 @ 5:36 PM |
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lynnielou
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If they really like u and want 2 get 2 know u, they will stick around after the 3rd date w/o sex and after. If they don't, they probably weren't worth it in the first place!
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