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| Feb 27, 2007 @ 9:05 PM |
My observations on today's singles' bar scene
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Thor1960303
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I'm not really into bars as they have little to offer me.I rarely drink and I hate loud,noisy,smoky environments (I'm also a non smoker) and I have no tolerance for loud,obnoxious drunks.Occasionally I'll tolerate a bar if there's a band playing there I like or I'm there with someone else who actually enjoys these places and I'm dragged there.I went more back in the 80's when I was single and once I learned the stupid "game",I did pretty well with meeting women,although more often than not,I preffered meeting women in other places.That was back in the 80's and what was really fun about that decade was that for a short time,the health clubs and gyms were competing with meat market type bars as a meeting place for singles.That rocked!You met your prospective date in good light(as opposed to a dark club),unmade,at their worst (as opposed to having painted on fake beauty which can be cause for shock in the morning,think wolf syndrome)and sober(as opposed to being buzzed,when everyone looks better).In many ways I miss the '80's.
Like I said,I did OK then.Then I got married and 12 years later,divorced.Single again,yay..yeah right.Went to a few meat market type bars and what I found was scary.The music(I use that term very loosely) is about 100 times louder for one thing(we liked it loud in my day too,but I distinctly remember being able to have a conversation)and people now have copped this hostility vibe.It's as if every woman has taken an indifference/hostility bytch pill and every guy has taken an azzhole pill.In looking around at some of the city's singles hot spots,it was even hard to find people that even looked like they were having a good time.Have people become so bitter and jaded by past relationships,they look at every potential encounter with the opposite sex as a potential to be hurt or be hurt?I've noticed,too,that the gyms and health clubs are no longer possible places to meet dates,at least not like they were in the 80's.People at the gym now are either in their small workout "packs" or they're alone with headphones and into their own worlds.
I'm not whining or complaining as this nightmare is over for me.I'm married and I met my wife on the internet.In looking at today's singles' scene it's easy to see why many folks are choosing the internet as a place to meet potential partners.I really feel sorry for young folks in their 20's just starting this madness.Does anyone else see the same thing or is it just me,am I just out of touch?
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| Feb 28, 2007 @ 12:19 AM |
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ToucherinSparks
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My observation of singles bars? That loud ass music makes my head hurt, and everybody is at least 20 years younger than me.
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| Feb 28, 2007 @ 12:21 AM |
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emptypages
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they're tacky horrible places.
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| Feb 28, 2007 @ 11:05 AM |
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Loreli
Posts: 20,311
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Last time I went to a bar to see a good band, the sound was cranked so high my head pounded when I left. Which wasn't too long after.
Give me an outdoors blues fest anytime...
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| Mar 1, 2007 @ 9:25 AM |
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Thor1960303
Posts: 1,876
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everybody is at least 20 years younger than me.
Not in many of the bars in my town.There is a definite demographic of the 35 plus crowd.Usually jaded divorcees.
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| Mar 5, 2007 @ 3:26 AM |
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Spirit76
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I'm not whining or complaining as this nightmare is over for me.I'm married and I met my wife on the internet.In looking at today's singles' scene it's easy to see why many folks are choosing the internet as a place to meet potential partners.I really feel sorry for young folks in their 20's just starting this madness.Does anyone else see the same thing or is it just me,am I just out of touch?
Try being back on the market again after a divorce - LOL - It is freaking weird out there anymore... 
I gave up on the meat market a long time ago - the bars were full of guys with too much testosterone and attitudes and women whose manners were beyond boorish in my opinion... I dropped in at one to see my aunt, who wanted some protection and was challenged by two guys who were looking for a fight - just for walking up to her and giving my own aunt a hug! It was actually funny to watch their faces when they found out it was my aunt (who looks 15 years younger than she is!) Still... this sort of thing is why I categorically hate bars and the bar scene.
I found that the supermarket is good, MatchDoctor flat rocks and a close second is Learning Exchange (similar to Learning Annex)... Any situation where it is more "natural" and where the pressure isn't "on" - not like in a highly charged environment that is more akin to swimming with sharks than bringing people together (the bar scene)...
Spirit
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| Mar 5, 2007 @ 7:30 PM |
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JesterDrawers
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I used to frequent this place after work on Fridays. It was funny watching the transformation. You get there for happy hour, walk in, and find a bunch of people just off work, all of them in their 40's, 50's & 60's. There was a single vocalist singing in the background - great tunes that everyone loves, and the volume was low enough that you could still carry on a conversation without straining yourself. It was great.
The vocalist would quit at 8:00. Then, between 8:30 and 9:30, you could not only feel, but actually SEE the makeup of the place changing. By 9:30, there was a guy spinning discs at about twice the volume, roughly, of a sonic boom, and the average age in the place had dropped to about 22! What was a nice, relaxing place to stop by after work and shoot the breeze with the regulars turned into a HUGE meat market!
Once we saw that happening, the friends I used to meet there - and I'd do the same - we'd all stand up about 8:00 or so and start shaking hands and saying goodbye to one another....trying to make our exit BEFORE the kids showed up!
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| Mar 5, 2007 @ 8:01 PM |
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wiccked
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i was a bartender in Atlanta for 15 years- i could tell you stories........  and i don't drink !!!!! 
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| Mar 6, 2007 @ 10:06 PM |
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LibidinistLady
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Several of us will go in a group to the local bars. The big clubs/bars are strange. About 1 am the feeding frenzy starts, you know the one... OMG I better find someone/something to leave with. We travel to those in a pack for protection from stray monsters. The smaller local bars (ya gotta remember I live out in the country) everyone knows everyone so you "can't" leave with someone there because it'll be all over town the next day that the 2 of you are having an affair.
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| Mar 6, 2007 @ 10:27 PM |
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dowens
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Todays singles bars are the same as they were when I was 20........just the music has changed!...........OOOOOH!....and one other thing!.....it used to be just the male testosterone flying all around that caused all the probs, but now, you women have caught up with us in the stupid department!.......Hooray for equal rights!!!...... 
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| Mar 7, 2007 @ 10:11 AM |
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Thor1960303
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Well for those who want to get lucky with a drunk woman,here's a guide to the drinks you should buy her...
Drinks Show Your Personality
Before you order a drink in public, you should read this! Seven New York City bartenders were asked if they could 'nail' a woman's personality based on what she drinks. Though interviewed separately, they concurred on almost all counts. The results:
PART A: WOMEN-DRINKS, WHO THEY ARE, & YOU!
Drink: Beer
Personality: Causal, low-maintenance; down to earth.
Your Approach: Challenge her to a game of pool.
Drink: Blender Drinks
Personality: Flaky, whiny, annoying; a pain in the ass.
Your Approach: Avoid her, unless you want to be her cabana boy.
Drink: Mixed Drinks
Personality: Older, more refined, high maintenance, has very picky taste; knows EXACTLY what she wants.
Your Approach: You won't have to approach her. If she's interested, she'll send YOU a drink.................
Drink: Wine (does not include White Zinfandel)
Personality: Conservative and classy; sophisticated yet giggles.
Your Approach: Tell her you love to travel and spend quiet evenings with friends.
Drink: White Zinfandel
Personality: Easy; thinks she is classy and sophisticated, actually, she has NO clue.
Your Approach: Make her feel smarter than she is...this should be an easy target.
Drink: Shots
Personality: Likes to hang with frat-boy pals and looking to get totally drunk... and naked.
Your Approach: Easiest hit in the joint. You have been blessed. Nothing to do but wait, however, be careful not to make her mad!
Drink: Tequila
No explanations required - everyone just KNOWS what happens there.
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PART B: MAN-DRINKS & WHO THE MEN ARE!
THEN, there is the MALE addendum -- The deal with guys is, as always, very simple and clear cut:
Domestic Beer: He's poor and wants to get laid.
Imported Beer: He likes good beer and wants to get laid .
Wine:
He is hoping that the wine will give him a sophisticated image to help him get laid.
Whiskey: He doesn't give a damn about anything but getting laid.
Tequila: He is thinking he has a chance with the toothless waitress.
White Zinfandel: He's gay
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| Aug 14, 2007 @ 4:37 PM |
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Loreli
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Thor...
That's cute...
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| Aug 14, 2007 @ 4:54 PM |
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loisday
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I love to go to the open air events here in the summer.
The Holiday Deck has a different local band throughout the week. The deck overlooks the beautiful West Bay. There is usually people from all age groups.
My favorite is the Tiki Hut...again on West Bay. Only music is on Friday night. A single local singer. All age groups...............but, quite a few within 10 years on either side of me................. 
I go to have fun and dance with my friends............men and women. I think if I were just there to "find" someone I would be a very sad person.
So..........Perhaps the reason one goes could make the difference.
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| Aug 14, 2007 @ 7:41 PM |
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username57
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Then, between 8:30 and 9:30, you could not only feel, but actually SEE the makeup of the place changing.
I too used to frequent a place here for an after work, Happy Hour beer or several. Great bunch of guys and gals! We'd shoot pool and unwind and go home. Our motto was that when the beer got expensive (in AL, drink specials must end at 9 pm) and the music started sucking, it was time to go home.
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| Aug 14, 2007 @ 10:13 PM |
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Always_Striving
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health clubs and gyms were competing with meat market type bars as a meeting place for singles.
It's funny that you mentioned that because I had a contract to do some work at a health club recently and I overheard a conversation between some women about their plans to meet up for drinks at a bar with some other people after they leave the health club.
It's still going on. All those sexed up hard bodies need to show off to someone possibly interested ....so why not to a drunk flirter?
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| Aug 15, 2007 @ 8:57 AM |
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bunnybiz
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My observations of the bars/clubs is that the music is not usually dancing music. It is geared toward the 20s & 30s somethings. I did go out to them in 2004 when my sister was dying. I needed to get away and just relax. There were a few times the bands were kind of decent. I mean I could dance to the music. I did experience all types of guys hitting on me. I didn't drink much. 1 drink in 6 hours. I also like to dress up which made stick out but the most of younger generation choose to be casual.
We have sports bars all over our town. I am not that big a sports fans. Everything has changed. I would rather go to Greenville, SC than go out here because the are more things to do. I also could tell stories from being a cocktail waitress and bartender but won't.
I wish they would go back to bigger places and get away from sports bars (not all of them) I still like to dance but I can't to hard rock/metal music.
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| Aug 15, 2007 @ 9:10 AM |
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Loreli
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I was a cocktail waitress many years ago, too, Bunny! i bet I could guess some of the stories (Most are funny, but some are
That is one advantage of states that have more "summer season"- there is more to do outside, rather than being in a crowded, smoky bar with speakers pounding off the wall!
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| Aug 15, 2007 @ 6:02 PM |
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hotdognchilli
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Lori now don't move south on me 
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| Aug 15, 2007 @ 6:39 PM |
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Loreli
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Hmm, I thought South was a good thing!
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| Aug 15, 2007 @ 10:56 PM |
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bunnybiz
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I was a cocktail waitress many years ago, too, Bunny! i bet I could guess some of the stories (Most are funny, but some are
Lori, I am sure we could share some funny, interesting and stories. Yes, in the summer time the pool area was open and we had a back bar that was also open that let out a good bit of smoke.
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