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| May 13, 2007 @ 4:41 AM |
Are white lies harmless?
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willsmalto
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Have you ever told a white lie to someone you were dating? Is it ok to fudge the truth about weight, income, age or past sexual history?
This is especially common in modern internet dating
just wondering what your opinions might be
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| May 13, 2007 @ 4:52 AM |
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willsmalto
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I reckon sometimes, you have to lie( not about most everything) cos it feels right. while I certainly believe that there should be some mystery while dating, I don't think it's a good idea to be in a relationship based on lies.
some lies can be very very dangerous though esp. when it comes to sexual history like telling your partner you've recently tested -ve for STDs whereas the answer is quite the opposite...just my $0.02
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| May 13, 2007 @ 12:00 PM |
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blueyes101
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There are a wide varieties of white lies.......Like if you run into an old girlfriend/boyfriend at a friends house, you have no feelings for them, but you know they are a sore spot for your new partner. If you bring them up, it will only create some sort of fight.....So you with hold that piece of info..........Only because the drama is unnecessary. So I guess, a good white lie is based on your intent........Holding back important info, is plain ol lying.....Here is another example, the phone rings, with 2 minutes to go in a close game, you let the machine answer, and call her back as soon as the game ends........and you say, you must have been outside.... No real harm there, but you don't want her to think the game is more important, your intent is to have both, without distraction.......Ok maybe bad examples.........but you get the idea.
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| May 13, 2007 @ 12:06 PM |
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RainSongSpirit
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maybe LITTLE white lies are harmless.. however,.my last relationship the guy told me he was separated....and come to find out...HIS definition and mine of that word were different......he meant living in different bedrooms in the same house....(i always thought it meant ......different locations, ie town /state/ country) my badness! lol 
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| May 13, 2007 @ 1:09 PM |
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willsmalto
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I couldn't agree more Blu...yeah sometimes we need to lie to save a situation but some people are born liars. I mean it's like a gene or something. They lie unnecessarily. Most everything that comes outta their mouth has nothing to do with the truth. That, I don't condone
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| May 13, 2007 @ 3:44 PM |
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NatGoat
Posts: 4,213
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...You mean : . . ' A FEW extra Pounds ' . . ??
' Curvy ' . . ? {12}
' Average ' . . ?
' High Sex-drive ' . . ??
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| May 13, 2007 @ 3:46 PM |
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ThangelM8
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Wills..............honesty is always the best policy! That is just my opinion. If you are totally honest, then you don't have to worry about what happens down the road.....so to speak! 
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| May 13, 2007 @ 7:16 PM |
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HiddenIdentity
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In my opinion, it's never okay to lie in a relationship of any sort, whether it be online or not. Most people take lying for granted; once they start, they can't stop. You lie once, then you have to lie again to cover up that other lie. It doesn't sound very enjoyable to me.
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| May 13, 2007 @ 7:44 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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i've lied about my sexual history, but it wasn't like i lied and said i've done more than i've actually done...i lied and said that i've done LESS than i've actually done, because i'm a bit ashamed of some of the things i've done.
i don't know if that's okay...as far as i'm concerned, my sexual history isn't my current partner's business.
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| May 13, 2007 @ 10:06 PM |
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Spirit76
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just wondering what your opinions might be
By their very definition, a lie is harmful in any form...
The truth will set you free...
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| May 13, 2007 @ 10:07 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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why does your current sexual partner need to know what you did with your last sexual partner(s)? will a lie like that impact your relationship in any way?
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| May 13, 2007 @ 10:16 PM |
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HiddenIdentity
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They may get jealous because you're more experienced than them? Oh, who knows. People are weird.
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| May 13, 2007 @ 11:31 PM |
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Spirit76
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why does your current sexual partner need to know what you did with your last sexual partner(s)? will a lie like that impact your relationship in any way?
Only if asked... I'd rather have my lady tell me the truth to a question I asked and vice-versa.
If you are asked about it, then tell the truth. If your relationship can't handle talking about such things, then perhaps the relationship has deeper issues that may need examination and correcting.
Jon
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| May 13, 2007 @ 11:32 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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I reserve the right to lie about whatever issues I personally do not want to discuss with someone I'm not sure is going to remain in my life permanently.
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| May 13, 2007 @ 11:41 PM |
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Spirit76
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I reserve the right to lie about whatever issues I personally do not want to discuss with someone I'm not sure is going to remain in my life permanently.
That is your prerogative and I wish you well in this regard...
However, I would note that tracking and keeping your facts straight on lies told can be challenging and ultimately will find you explaining yourself at some point in the future when the lie is inevitably found out... My ex-wife white-lied her way right out of a marriage and I found that she had piled one lie on top of another and so on until I realized I did not know whom I married...
Like I said. The truth will set you free...
Jon
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| May 13, 2007 @ 11:53 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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I dunno...
The only white lie I've ever told is that I was a virgin. Because I didn't want to talk about my "first time".
Same if you're going to say you had 3 partners instead of 5. Don't really need to keep any facts straight for those lies.
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| May 13, 2007 @ 11:57 PM |
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Spirit76
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LGQ,
Did it ever strike you to tell them it was none of their business? Just because someone asks does not mean you *have* to tell them. This way you don't lie and yet you've drawn a line in the sand that informs the other person that this is a closed subject...
That is called "personal power" - and it works.
Jon
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| May 14, 2007 @ 12:04 AM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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oh, of course that occurred to me, but i don't see why saying i was a virgin really hurt anybody.
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| May 14, 2007 @ 12:12 AM |
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Pete73052
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Actually, eating a jar of pickles restores virginity... in case anyone is interested... 
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| May 14, 2007 @ 12:12 AM |
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Spirit76
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Actually, two people are hurt in that lie... You and the person you told that white lie to. And that is the tragic part of it all. Lies eat at the soul. Even little white lies.
The notion of telling someone you are a virgin and then for them to sleep with you and find out you are not (yes, guys can tell) is hurtful and also places your partner in the position of not believing anything you have to say...
Jon
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