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| Jul 1, 2007 @ 3:00 AM |
A very difficult situation, please help
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sgrant25
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Ok, so I am a first user on these forums and actually the first time I felt that I need some outside advice. The situation i am to describe is confusing the hell out of me... and I do not know if anyone can provide advice on this. appologies for the long post...nway
First off the girl (28) is 3 years older than me and the sexual tension is definitely there... now we have known each other for quite some time now so talking has never been a problem. However the other night we hopped on the good foot and did the bad thing... afterwards (yesterday morning) she was hesistant to let me leave, I stayed a while longer. Normally in situations like this I dont have a problem in leaving or whatever, but now for some reason I cant stop thinking about this girl. But here is the problem...
She always says (with exception of that morning) that love is always gone in the morning (whether this is a question of statement I dont know). I think she has some trouble letting go of her first long term relationship (8 years ago). It seems that because of this she goes for one night stands and not dating. Now, how can i show her that love could be there in the morning? That love exists? That her past is in the past? Problem is that if I do she might not feel comfortable because I am giving her a different perspective to life?
I have been in one similar situation once and I failed (although this girl was much younger). Do I just leave it be? Do I need to show her I that I am different than she is used to? WHAT SHOULD I DO?
Thanks guys, any advice will be appreciated...
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| Jul 1, 2007 @ 9:03 AM |
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willsmalto
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no hard feelings but why do I sudddenly have the feeling that you're being used for a dildo?
run dude, more than your legs could carry you. well except you wanna have some more 
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| Jul 1, 2007 @ 9:30 AM |
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Loreli
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The only thing you can do...talk to her. Tell her your feelings and ask for hers better explained.
[Edited on 7/1/2007 9:38 AM]
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| Jul 1, 2007 @ 9:35 AM |
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heo56
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You said she didn't want you to leave. Maybe you already are the exception, as she has known you for awhile. Talk to her. Communication. Why is it that people can't talk truthfully to one another?
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| Jul 1, 2007 @ 9:41 AM |
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Pete73052
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She's confused. Confused women are only good for sex. Enjoy yourself... 
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| Jul 1, 2007 @ 10:24 AM |
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Angel178
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I agree with most everyone. Talk to her. She obvously feels differently dowards you, safe. You seem to also. Maybe it will work out, you already have an advantage....you knew each other awhile.
Pete - that is an awful thing to say. People get hurt, sometimes so badly that they find it hard to trust again. If he uses her, she will never feel that trust again, just more reinforcement that men can be dogs. Is that what you want to portray? 
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| Jul 1, 2007 @ 10:26 AM |
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Pete73052
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My comment was... um... tongue-in-cheek...
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| Jul 1, 2007 @ 10:30 AM |
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Angel178
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Try giving someone serious advise just once, people on here sometimes would like some honest help. That is the point of all of this, fun and friendship.
(  sorry, i was up late and i'm a little cranky)
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| Jul 1, 2007 @ 10:32 AM |
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MotownManiax
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My comment was... um... tongue-in-cheek...
Maybe more like tongue "in" cheek? 
 Just kiddin', of course
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| Jul 1, 2007 @ 10:33 AM |
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Angel178
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Mornin Mo
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| Jul 1, 2007 @ 10:41 AM |
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Pete73052
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OK, I will... but we get so many first-post posters here with these types of issues. But just for you Angel, I'll take this one seriously...
SGrant, you have something very special here - you have a woman who you can communicate with. That's the key in all this - being able to communicate openly and honestly is one element many if not most relationships don't have. So you're way ahead of the game here. Take that communication to her and talk out exactly what she feels about you. Also, make sure about your feelings for her. You are overwhelmed right now - something exciting has happened - a friend has taken your relationship farther than you thought it could go. That could be a good thing if you handle it well, or it could be a disaster for your relationship/friendship if you blow it.
You're already different than she is used to - you're her friend. That's the key here. If you're close to her, and she came to you for more than friendship, that means she feels something in you that is missing in other men. Again, this works to your advantage. First, get your feelings clear in your head, and then work SLOWLY with her to make her feel comfortable. You're not showing her something "different" - you are showing her the validity of a deep close personal and now sexual relationship. That's a very good thing...
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| Jul 1, 2007 @ 10:44 AM |
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Angel178
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Good boy...see i knew you could do it
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| Jul 1, 2007 @ 10:49 AM |
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Pete73052
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You bring out the best in me Angel
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| Jul 1, 2007 @ 10:54 AM |
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Angel178
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that is what my goal is, to keep even the fiestiest of people calm i do it on a daily basis with a class of 2 year olds, you are a piece of cake
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| Jul 1, 2007 @ 11:11 AM |
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Pete73052
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Thanks Angel... for calming me down... 
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| Jul 1, 2007 @ 11:29 AM |
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MotownManiax
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Hya Angel Hun.....could I have a piece of your "angel" cake, too?
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| Jul 1, 2007 @ 12:38 PM |
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Angel178
Posts: 22,953
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Any time Mo  
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| Jul 1, 2007 @ 1:22 PM |
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theobono
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I don't understand the problem.... You got laid right...??? I hate when people describe sex in stupid ways...."However the other night we hopped on the good foot and did the bad thing..." ... Why is it described as a bad thing... and why was she hessitant to let you leave? And if she's still holding onto a relationship that ended 8 years ago are you sure this is what you want....She does display some psycho tendancies which is good for a sex partner to have but not neccessarily for a girlfriend to have... you also say....." It seems that because of this she goes for one night stands and not dating." what's her number My BIG question to you is what do you want from this girl? You're kinda unclear....once you figure out that then the what should I do thing will come easy...If it gets to the point that she is so hesitant to let you go that she duct tapes you and locks you in the basement....then HOUSTON ...we have a problem....Until then ...like Pete said Have fun...
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| Jul 1, 2007 @ 1:25 PM |
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Angel178
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Where is the guy who started this thread? I guess pete was right
People ask for help then never check back  I guess i had more hope for new people 
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| Jul 1, 2007 @ 1:28 PM |
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Pete73052
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I'm always right... 
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