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katydid438
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Oh Painter! If it could be that simple 
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| Feb 8 @ 4:32 PM |
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onoudn
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 Ono..... 
I'll try to do better.... 
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| Feb 8 @ 6:59 PM |
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painter007
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Katy it is that simple.....its called acceptance..as we are.... 
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| Feb 8 @ 8:07 PM |
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jamminjerry
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very cool! there is a holy roller song that starts out with "just as i am..."
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| Feb 9 @ 8:03 AM |
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sweetsongs17
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Okay, I ll admit it. What does it to you men and ladies "if he's not broken why fix him anyway?" I have heard that saying but never heard a man say exactly what it meant to him.
What or is there a difference between "trying to fix a man" (or a woman) and learning, being supportive and growing with that person? My ex of 20 years never said I was trying to "fix" him, but will say that I helped him be the man that he is today. He also was supportive of me and also "corrected" me or showed me when I was off track. That doesn't seem to be fixing, but a friend or lover guiding.
So guys what does it mean to "fix"?
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| Feb 9 @ 12:04 PM |
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jamminjerry
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being two seperate entities, we continue to try to fix each other. the wise ones simply live their own lives. the fools continue to try to fix that which is not broken. she ain't broke either. LOL the hurdle is as always compromise. why can you not simply share! if he or she does not wish to share, why do you endure? i endured because of a simple word of honor. that honor was returned 8 years ago. why do you still endure? if you don't endure, i figure ya like me, the next one will hopefully allow me to live my own life. and of course share. when we get past the pulling the left or right handle, then we shall know that we are that closer to the kingdom of God. selah
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| Feb 9 @ 12:22 PM |
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Kenn159
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Okay, I ll admit it. What does it to you men and ladies "if he's not broken why fix him anyway?" I have heard that saying but never heard a man say exactly what it meant to him.
What or is there a difference between "trying to fix a man" (or a woman) and learning, being supportive and growing with that person? My ex of 20 years never said I was trying to "fix" him, but will say that I helped him be the man that he is today. He also was supportive of me and also "corrected" me or showed me when I was off track. That doesn't seem to be fixing, but a friend or lover guiding.
So guys what does it mean to "fix"?
I think spiritual growth is a normal part of the life cycle, so Ideally each one of us is changing and growing over time in or out of a relationship.
If you care and love your mate in a relationship, both of you will just naturally rub off and influence each another in who each of you become.
Hopefully the two of you are compatible enough and share enough common belief that you grow in the same direction.
I think problems arise when your core beliefs are very different and as you grow, you grow apart.
I also think that "you always want to fix me " and "you helped me change for the better" are usually talking about the same things, but one is showing a willingness to change and the other is resisting it.
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| Feb 9 @ 5:52 PM |
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painter007
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The key is to find someone who is willing to share their life with you, and not always go in a different direction.....Its then when they may be going in that other direction we try to fix them....him/her but once your on a path to sharing you have to realize they are their own person and accept them as they are...I know, easier said than done..but do people really try to change someone? I would want someone to like me for me...and him for him, and find the path together....thats when its cool......
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| Feb 10 @ 3:19 PM |
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onoudn
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I agree with all of that Paint. I've also found that in order to have a healthy relationship with someone else, you have to have a healthy relationship with "me" first. You can't love someone else until you love yourself. Sound like a cliche' but its true.
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| Feb 10 @ 5:11 PM |
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sweetsongs17
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I also think that "you always want to fix me " and "you helped me change for the better" are usually talking about the same things, but one is showing a willingness to change and the other is resisting it.
I think got it right on that one!! Thanks,
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| Feb 12 @ 4:21 PM |
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onoudn
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I know this is kind off topic. Has anyone else ever had such a strong connection with someone that you could feel it when ever they close by ? It sounds strange I know, but I seem to have that when I'm emotionally involed with a lady. I know of one case when I woke up with a feeling that I was going to see an ex. It turned out that I saw two of my ex's within a span of about two hours. It was trippy. I have the same kind of connection with my mom, my bother, and my sisters too. Also, when I'm about to meet someone special.
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| Mar 22 @ 9:06 PM |
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thedarkmechanic
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I don't think that's too strange.
What I've noticed about myself during my last few relationships is that I seem to wake up at around the same time that she does.
I don't have to go to work until 9am, therefore I roll outta bed around 8:30. One gf was in the habbit of getting up at 5, another gets up around 7. And another girl I hung out with for a while got up around 6:30.
But for the last few months, while I'm concentrating on school and have put dating on the backburner, I haven't waken up till my alarm rings.
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| Mar 22 @ 9:39 PM |
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onoudn
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Interesting.....I was just thinking about this thread...and went looking for it but couldn't find it....now here it is.......it had to do with these three busy bodies trying to project their inner conflict on me......what so sad is it was all so obvious......anyway......
I was talking more like the time I was coming down the stairs where I used to live and I suddenly got this strange sensation that a girl friend was around. Then when I got to the bottom floor she was right in front of me. I told my mom about it and she said women always put themselves in a position that allows their guy to see them....
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| Mar 23 @ 2:58 PM |
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painter007
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So many fall for "the potential" they see in a man. I hear my woman friends talk about this. I just laugh, and tell them the man in front of them, as he is , is wonderful. Why cant they just love him as he is? I am far from perfect, but I like me. I am willing to compromise if it makes my sweetie feel better...but have learned at my age, the only thing that matters is that he has a gentle heart. Anything else that he brings to the relationship is the whip cream  jmo
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| Mar 24 @ 12:14 AM |
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onoudn
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| Mar 28 @ 5:52 PM |
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thedarkmechanic
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Something I often say 'bout myself... "I'm not a COMPLETE idiot..."
"... some parts are missing."
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| Apr 20 @ 3:22 PM |
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onoudn
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I've reached that stag in a relationship that I always hate. It's the "fix" him stage where I'm under not so subtle pressure to conform to the religious, political, and other social norms. 
I took her to a Buddhist meeting last night. She claims that it helps her understand me more. But she also thinks she would like me better as a Christian. Boy is she in for a surprise if she keeps down that road.
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| Apr 20 @ 4:59 PM |
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painter007
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I am very accepting of pe ple.......If I am attracted to someone its because of what he has shown me......not what I think he will be. I will dig him just as he is.
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| Apr 20 @ 5:10 PM |
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onoudn
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Yeah.....good thing I can at least remind her that we agreed not to get too serious and stay friends for a while. 
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| Apr 29 @ 10:33 AM |
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dallas1995
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The key is to find someone who is willing to share their life with you, and not always go in a different direction....
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