| Oct 16, 2007 @ 5:25 AM |
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capitalview
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LOL...it's good that our buddy pete knows what dictionary is about. When and if he learns how to actually use it, he might get definition of the word "friendship" there someday.
The point is - using the word "friend" as an euphemism for sex partner is a homosexual concept . Sorry , pal, straight folks don't use their friends for sex.
And, btw, pete, as for your question. Are you trying to say that you used to have MALE "WIFE" once? OMG  . I hate to disappoint you, but I don't think I'd ever find you attractive, so don't waste your time hitting on me ( no matter how much you think I remind you of your old flame  )
[Edited on 10/16/2007 5:54 AM]
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| Oct 16, 2007 @ 5:56 AM |
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EyesofBlue72660
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The point is - using the word "friend" as an euphemism for sex partner is a homosexual concept . Guess I can't even get a FWB relationship right, huh?!?!?!?!?  
Nope, pal, "friends with benefits" are hardly 50/50 relationship - for the simple reason that one "friend" has his PRIMARY need (sex) satisfied, while the other "friend" is having her PRIMARY need (love) ignored I agree , 100/100 relationship is an ultimate goal -it's when EACH partner gives what the other partner needs MOST ( love for females and sex for males ) ...and get their "secondary" needs ( sex for females and love for males ) satisfied in the process . Now, that would be stable relationship
Based on these comments, wouldn’t a 100/100 relationship be more of the homosexual concept......each partner giving what the other partner needs MOST - females giving love to females and men giving sex to men as their primary needs????????????? 
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| Oct 16, 2007 @ 7:52 AM |
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ISSUESWOPTIONS
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This is where I agree with Gallows at (wonders why time, the flow of water, and that humming noise the refrigerator makes just stopped ).
For a while now I have been ready to give 100% in a relationship to just one, where all women seem to know now is FWB and a hanging around old flame. I don't need the baggage carried over into something that I want to make last, I don't need the stupidity of someone who really is NOT clear on what she really wants. 100% means 100% because in 100% there are negatives that I am willing to work out with you for us to be and stay together. There are no other parties involved. It is stupid to tell someone "you are what I want" yet have to grow into your own words because you have never cleared yourself from the past. There isn't that much lonely in the world. When they say "learn yourself" it is really meant to "learn yourself" if not you are going to be wasting someone else's time. Me personally? I DON'T have time for that. If you haven't worked on your issues, whether communication or need, keep going...I DON'T NEED YOU in my life taking up space.
That is the meaning of being ready to give 100%
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| Oct 16, 2007 @ 7:55 AM |
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pamdemonium
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Sadian....that was beautiful. 
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| Oct 16, 2007 @ 9:26 AM |
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Pete73052
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LOL...it's good that our buddy pete knows what dictionary is about. When and if he learns how to actually use it, he might get definition of the word "friendship" there someday.
I'm willing to acknowledge that I might be wrong. Let's see what YOUR dictionary says:
The point is - using the word "friend" as an euphemism for sex partner is a homosexual concept .
Ummmm  Really, you have a dictionary that says this? Is it the "GAY Meanings of Everyday Words" dictionary? Why would you need a dictionary that explains GAYese to you? Are you coming out?
Sorry , pal, straight folks don't use their friends for sex.
Wait... what part of Friends With Benefits didn't you get? So are you saying YOUR friends don't use YOU for sex, or are you saying that all YOUR friends are GAY?
And, btw, pete, as for your question. Are you trying to say that you used to have MALE "WIFE" once? OMG .
Really? Is that what I'm trying to say - or do you read homosexual references into everything? Maybe you shouldn't rely so much on that dictionary.
I hate to disappoint you, but I don't think I'd ever find you attractive, so don't waste your time hitting on me ( no matter how much you think I remind you of your old flame )
This is really getting creepy. Why in the world are you looking at me as a potential partner? It makes me thank my lucky stars I'm not your type? Wait... you don't "think" you would ever find me attractive... so I guess you're leaving room for doubt.  And yes, you do kinda remind me of my old flame. She was ugly and pig-headed too. 
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| Oct 16, 2007 @ 9:51 AM |
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mrobvious444
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not my definition but funny
Sammy Kershaw, Third Rate Romance
git a room
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| Oct 16, 2007 @ 10:08 AM |
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SunBabe
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capital said:
The point is - using the word "friend" as an euphemism for sex partner is a homosexual concept . Sorry , pal, straight folks don't use their friends for sex.
OMG!!! I'll have to tell my "FRIEND" (former FWB fella) that he's a HOMO! His new girlfriend isn't going to like that one bit! 
And yes, he's still a friend and he calls me his friend to this day -- just no more "benefits" or that girlfriend/boyfriend stuff...I never condsidered myself to be his "girlfriend", in the traditional sort of way -- just his FRIEND (best friends, most of the time) -- a non-relationship kind of relationship which was ideal for both of us during those times.
(Where DOES that guy come up with that stuff? And if I have "looking for friends" on my profile, does that mean I'm a LESBIAN?  )
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| Oct 16, 2007 @ 10:24 AM |
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Pete73052
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I'm tempted to use the "T" word with this guy... He can't seriously be that screwed up can he? He's trying so hard to make me "wrong" he's willing to chew off his own arm...
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| Oct 16, 2007 @ 10:27 AM |
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Daviator
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capital, I'm having a bit of trouble understanding you. I can't tell if you're purposely baiting people or if you really don't understand the posts. You have your opinions obviously. And I, like Pete wonder why you read homosexual references into everything. Is it, as the Queen in Hamlet by William Shakespeare said: "The lady doth protest too much, methinks." (or as Matt my friend in third grade said, "He who smelt it, dealt it")?
Or that you're the type of person who has the need to be an expert in everything as an over compensating defense mechanism? It does strikes me odd that a person of your intelligence doesn't appear to have the capacity to understand that others have equally valid points of view, and to acknowledge them as such. Given that, I'm guessing that you're purposely baiting us and as one who has just fallen for it, I've got to admit that you have opened the doors to some stimulating conversation in much the same way that Carol O'Connor did as Archie Bunker in "All In The Family." Though I also have to admit your writing is not nearly as insightful and/or comedic.
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| Oct 16, 2007 @ 10:29 AM |
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Pete73052
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I'm guessing that you're purposely baiting
I guess that's a new twist... Switch and Bait...
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| Oct 16, 2007 @ 11:19 AM |
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Sunbabie
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DAVE WROTE: Or that you're the type of person who has the need to be an expert in everything as an over compensating defense mechanism? It does strikes me odd that a person of your intelligence doesn't appear to have the capacity to understand that others have equally valid points of view, and to acknowledge them as such. Given that, I'm guessing that you're purposely baiting us and as one who has just fallen for it, I've got to admit that you have opened the doors to some stimulating conversation in much the same way that Carol O'Connor did as Archie Bunker in "All In The Family." Though I also have to admit your writing is not nearly as insightful and/or comedic.
 Dave , very well said!!!
Sadian, your words ring VERY true!
CAPITAL WROTE: Sorry , pal, straight folks don't use their friends for sex.
I have never been a "friend with benefits" simply because I choose not to be. But I do have 2 friends who each have a "friend" that benefits them when they so choose . The friends happen to be of the opposite sex. All 4 are "straight" so I think you should get out in the world a little capital .
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| Oct 16, 2007 @ 11:39 AM |
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dt3d2001
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Is it just me, or is this CapitalV guy making no sense what's so ever??
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| Oct 16, 2007 @ 12:58 PM |
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baldy855
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I want no part of a romantic 50/50 relationship. For one to give less than 100% would focus on the agreement instead of the goal. To do the best one can requires all.
If one makes an agreement to give this and this in exchange for that and that, I guess that's okay, but it isn't what most people seem to be saying they want. 
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| Oct 16, 2007 @ 2:08 PM |
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Pete73052
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Why stop there - go the extra mile... 110%/110%
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| Oct 16, 2007 @ 2:15 PM |
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sensuouswoman
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I am aiming to find love.........good sex?.....well if it ain't happening......guess I'm gonna have fun teaching!  
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| Oct 16, 2007 @ 2:44 PM |
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baldy855
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That's what I'm saying, Pete. If one is giving less than all, aren't both individuals receiving less than what there is? It is easy to to receive part of a person because you get to choose which part you want to receive. To receive all of them is to take the real them. The scars and wounds and unattractive parts. 100%.
In the same way to give 100% is to allow the person to see our vulnerabilities. Our Achilles heel. The parts we try to hide. This is the part that takes trust. If someone isn't giving 100% it is hard to trust 100%.
If someone is holding back 50%, how do you trust them? I think that's why real love seldom happens fast. 50/50 allows love (a type of love I would call shallow) to happen fast and then disappear when certain 'feelings' are no longer identifiable.
This is just my way of thinking.....not trying to push it on anyone.
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| Oct 16, 2007 @ 4:08 PM |
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Pete73052
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I think the 50/50 thing is more representative of "balance" rather than giving half of your potential. 50/50 is different than 60/40 or 70/30. That's what's being presented here - really (despite some people's misinterpretation, whether intentional or otherwise). When a romantic relationship is balanced, both partners are satisfied. When it's unbalanced, it's no longer a romantic relationship - it's a controlling relationship... or one of those kinky sex relationships.
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| Oct 16, 2007 @ 4:19 PM |
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Loreli
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Yep, I agree, Pete.
It's more of an "age old" statement than a defining one.
Everyone should give 100%, but the 50/50 is each half of a couple giving their all to a relationship.
You can't mathematically have more than 100%!
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| Oct 16, 2007 @ 4:47 PM |
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baldy855
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"kinky sex relationships" 
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| Oct 16, 2007 @ 6:10 PM |
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GiggleAddiction
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The point is - using the word "friend" as an euphemism for sex partner is a homosexual concept . Sorry , pal, straight folks don't use their friends for sex.
WTH???????????? 
Guess I'd better call my former friend and inform him that one of us has homosexual tendencies. 6 years ago we did the FWB thing ~ dear me, wonder how he'll process this new information?
(HA...that was hilarious from this angle, however.)
~OT~ Today, there is no sex without love for me. I require the love first. I guess I've gone from Courtney Love to June Cleaver. Sigh. 
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