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| Feb 28 @ 4:23 PM |
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Thor1960303
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I like to post similar threads on different sites to see what a difference demographics make on a given site.I use dating sites mainly because they see alot more traffic than other sites that have forums and blogs.Some of them see too much traffic and all you get are flamers and people with nothing intelligent to say.This is a variation on a thread on another site called "Are prostitutes the solution?"I didn't want to use the same title as I didn't want to get into yet another moral discussion about whether or not prostitution should be legal or whatever.This,I think is a valid question though.
In looking through dating sites,even the adult ones,you get the same old,tired argument.Guys are looking for casual,non committal,no strings sex and women get tired of this and complain about how all men are just horny pigs looking to get their rocks off.
OK fine,we've established the problem.So what are the options for a guy who wants NSA sex?The way I see it,he can 1) Be a player.Lead women on into thinking there is something more just to get sex and then bail when he's done.I think most will agree there are too many guys like that as it is.It's not fair,the guy's misrepresenting himself,yada,yada,yada...Bad idea.or 2)Stay home,look at porn and wank it.Not much fun when compared to the real thing.It gets real old,real fast.3)Hire a hooker.Not really a good idea,imo,chance of a criminal record if one gets caught.You can cover yourself on the disease bit with condoms and the higher priced escorts,but then you're dealing with a host of other potential troubles just dealing with an illegal activity,plus,is it really worth paying that much money?The average price I've seen for an hour with an escort is around 250 to 500 bucks.Hell with that as far as I'm concerned. or 4)Try the NSA and adult oriented sites....Ever visited one of those?They're great if you plan on hiring a cyber escort.You'll get lots of email from them,and most of them are scams.
Now I know many people reading this,especially women will say,"Who cares"?If they don't want a relationship,they don't deserve sex and just need to take what they get,it's the way the world is....Does it really have to be?Or is there an option I'm missing?I"M NOT INTERESTED IN THE MORALITY OF THE ISSUE,JUST THE LOGISTICS.What's the best way to resolve such an issue without shoving someone else's morality down another's throat,so that all can be satisfied and no one is complaining about being "played" or not getting any?Is there a solution that makes everyone happy?
And yes,I know there are women who want NSA sex just like the guys,but the social situation being what it is,these women must remain "underground" so to speak,so the guy who wants to hook up with one of these women must resort to the dreaded dating games,which is what he was trying to avoid in the first place.
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| Feb 28 @ 8:08 PM |
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capitalview
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It's no different from any other physiological need ,bro. You can buy food , you can cook for yourself, you can steal food , you can bully someone into cooking food for you , you can con someone into cooking for you or you can get food as a gift. That's all possible options you can get. ( the only difference between food and sex is - stealing food is illegal while stealing sex is not but it's the other way around when it comes to buying sex ( illegal) as opposed to buying food ( legal). As for high prices - it's quite natural for illegal services to be priced higher than legal ones ( I guess that's the real reason prostitution is kept illegal by legislators - i.e. to keep getting high pay-offs.  )
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| Feb 28 @ 9:23 PM |
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Thor1960303
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Very astute analogy Capital.
I especially like your comment here
( the only difference between food and sex is - stealing food is illegal while stealing sex is not but it's the other way around when it comes to buying sex ( illegal) as opposed to buying food ( legal).
Ironic,isn't it?
Another difference is,the social rules aren't quite as strict.Sure you have your basic manners and etiquette when dining,but there are no really strict rules,unless you get into the really formal social circles.There are no "alternate eating lifestyles",unless you consider vegetarians and vegans,but no one is going to ostracize a person from their social circle for not eating meat.I guess gluttons and over eaters could be considered "food sluts",while those who adhered to a dietary plan would be the "food monogamists"? 
[Edited on 2/28/2008 9:35 PM]
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| Feb 29 @ 8:14 AM |
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Automotor
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Hey dude, isn't stealing sex rape? That's illegal as far as I know.
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| Feb 29 @ 9:35 AM |
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Thor1960303
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Good point,Auto.
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| Feb 29 @ 4:54 PM |
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DipityDoo
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wow, i think you need some other hobbies.
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| Feb 29 @ 7:26 PM |
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Kenn159
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I've never heard the term NSA,what does it stand for?
I'm guessing your best options would be swinger clubs or find a women that as you mentioned are into the same thing ,casual sex.
I've heard they have web sites for casual sex partners too.
I don't see a problem if that is what you are into and are straight up front and don't mislead anyone.
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| Feb 29 @ 7:32 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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"No strings attached" Ken.
Hey, whatever works for two people is fine with me too, just make sure you're on the same page. That can be no strings, some strings, handcuffs and ropes if you want. Although I think I'd prefer silk scarves...
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| Feb 29 @ 8:04 PM |
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kattsmeow
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Nylons heaven,,,
I think if there are sex clubs that might be an option. ( hey, I lived near San Fransisco,,,) 
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| Mar 1 @ 1:26 AM |
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capitalview
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Actually, there's several options which are legal ( at least nowadays and in this country ) , reasonably cheap and don't require any emotional investment :
a/ male partner ( i.e. the one with matching need so you'd be able to exchange favors)
b/ inflatable girlfriend ( the bonus here is 100% std-risk free , unless you are into "gruppensex" , sharing it with your buddies)
3/ pet partner (this option has long history , Ancient Greeks are known to have herds of sheep following their troops - for sexual purposes as well as for food ).
Have fun 
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| Mar 1 @ 10:23 AM |
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Kenn159
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I posted this in another thread but I realize it is very relevant with this thread also.
Statistically, having frequent sex in a monogamous relationship with one person extends your life span.
Having frequent sex with multiple partners does not.
Maybe they are factoring in the increased chance of communicable diseases with multiple partners, I'm not sure.
One of the downsides to sleeping around,it ages you faster and shortens your life.
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| Mar 1 @ 10:35 AM |
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Timber52
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I should live a long life then.. but it sure gets lonely..  
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| Mar 1 @ 10:48 AM |
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burnslikethesun
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What problem did you establish? Its pretty general. The only one that snaps out an hits me in the forehead is the same ole, woman mature faster then men. Them are boys that complain about not geting the no strings and sex pisted off. One of the measure of man that dont complain about not finding casual sex. Ya got to consider the sourse. And their angel of vison ya know.
Without the morality of this issue, ITS JUNVINILE. So grow up.
You want the logistics? Where the f*** you been? Head in the dirt?
Look arround youll see it all arround you. If you want me to be a tour guilde, to your left you have the hookers,
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| Mar 1 @ 11:41 AM |
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Kenn159
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I should live a long life then.. but it sure gets lonely..
I think you are missing the point.
Recent scientific data suggest that having regular even frequent sex actually "Extends" longevity and life span when in a monogamous relationship, but sleeping around with multiple partners does not.
And this is equally true for either sex.
I hope you find someone nice for you. 
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| Mar 1 @ 12:04 PM |
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burnslikethesun
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monogamous relationship 
Smerts man, now I see our friends attraction.
There for it can not be just the sex, or sex alone. The reason for longivity in our older years is simple. You are happy. You want to live long. Theres REASON.
Youre with your bestest of friend.
Now sex alone will kill ya. One way or another. Fincally, Emotionally, Physically, Ethically, and any other llys ya got. Hookers and devorces aint cheap, the more you use the " dark side" of lifes chooses, the darker you feel about yourself. STDs and other nasties, a jealous ex husband, step fathers ect ect., one bad choose leads straight to another. And all this can and will be yours all because you cant make up were you want to keep your pecker? Its a hard choice, I get that.. Lots of fear issues and other bullsit has to get all jumbled in the mix.
You're to lazy to make one really work. It takes alot of self learning and self tuning to make a car read for the race. Why not humans too? The funny thing with that is that is the one you got to make work is your ownself.
The choice of a singlehood life style is on the raise. Growing fast then single parenting, fast then marrage of any genders and cross genders. It is the "wild fire" of of relationship issues. Right or wrong, it is not natural. It goes against our instinctive natures. To die alone is considered despire, while the view of sourrounded by your love ones and spouse. Spouse. What every you call them, lets use spouse. The funny thing is, the only thing that is out growing the choice of singlehood is proscription of prozac and vigiara. Fortionatly, I have a need for neither.
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| Mar 1 @ 1:04 PM |
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Timber52
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I think I'm doomed.. 
thanks Kenn, I wish the same for all that truely seek their s/o on MD..
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| Mar 1 @ 5:19 PM |
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swingpup
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One of the downsides to sleeping around, it ages you faster and shortens your life.
I don't think it's as much the chasing a.k.a. sleeping round that will shorten a life. The influence of booze, illegal drug usage and/or a possible hard life, etc., that some indulge in, now that may shorten a life.
What some men don't understand is that there are in fact women that are seeking NSA sex as well. When one sets up a profile one must make a decision to post as looking for a relationship profile or post a profile per NSA sex. Doing a posting seeking NSA is like voting, no one will know who is responding to your profile.
Your profile may not be the most popular profile however you will in fact receive responses. It is then of course up to you on how to handle those responses.
What I have discovered over the past 15 years of "playing" online is that there are many beautiful, well educated, successful women that do desire sex with little or no strings attached. They simply don't blatantly post that possibility within their profiles. Hell, if they did they would have every red neck within a 1000 mile radius e-mailing.....LOL.
There certainly are many phases one may place within a profile discreetly indicating one is seeking a NSA situation, once again it need not be blatant.
LOL, in fact, many do not really read profiles in there entirety anyway. Guys get off your butts and out to actually meet women. When you meet women always be polite, respectful, listen to what they are saying, dress your best, brush you're teeth, take a shower and keep you're hands to yourself. Be honest, if you're married or simply seeking an occasional playmate indicate that.
Honesty when dealing with all individuals makes life easier and much more enjoyable for all concerned, it also keeps broken hearts to a minimum. 
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| Mar 1 @ 6:12 PM |
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capitalview
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Automotor
... isn't stealing sex rape?
Rape involves violence , pal, that would amount to "robbery", not "stealth" ( which means taking things/using services without paying/compensating/taking responsibiltiy
for this.)
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| Mar 3 @ 3:36 PM |
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Thor1960303
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Good posts about the morality of the issue,Brightasthesun,cute comment about the blow up dolls and pets there,Cap.I might actually agree with you there,being that I am married and practicing monogamy,but that's not where I was hoping to go with the thread.The morality of NSA sex has been discussed to death here as well as on other sites.Not really interested in right and wrong on this issue or what each individual might prefer.
What some men don't understand is that there are in fact women that are seeking NSA sex as well. When one sets up a profile one must make a decision to post as looking for a relationship profile or post a profile per NSA sex. Doing a posting seeking NSA is like voting, no one will know who is responding to your profile. My question,I suppose is partly rhetorical,but being there are folks who insist that there are plenty of women who are also looking for NSA,one would think that hookups with these folks would be easy.However,if you put a profile up on one of these sites and honestly state what you want,you'll get your email box crammed full of solicitors.It's common knowledge that the number of men wanting NSA hookups is much greater than the number of women(or so most women say anyhow).Yet there are "NSA" sites all over the place willing to take some poor schmuck's money just so he can get an email box full of spam.One born every minute.
Sex clubs might be an option if one has plenty of money for the dues they charge AND lives in the right city.
Since the sexual revolution of the 70's died,the issue goes back to square one.Prostitutes are the best solution for the guy who just wants sex and doesn't want a relationship,games or drama.But then since prostitution is illegal and has a stigma attached to it, searching for a professional brings it's own games and drama.
No easy way for these guys.
I liked the original reply from Cap about the food need.Most accurate analogy,except I've never experienced drama or had to be in danger of going to jail looking for food.
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| Mar 11 @ 6:48 PM |
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LOUISE872
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look me up
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