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SpiritEnergy
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| Mar 24 @ 12:10 AM |
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capitalview
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Basically , bro , you are asking : how dares a woman not to get sexually attracted to you for no more reason than the fact that you didn't outlive your erectile abilities just yet  Pssst, it takes much more than that to attract women.
BTW, you are not getting sexually aroused around just any woman , or are you?
If not, then those you don't find attractive might as well accuse you of "withdrawing sex" . The point is - men are attracted to women who LOOK sexy, while women are attracted to men who ACT sexy. You might have better luck if you try to romance your lady , then there won't be need to bitch about her "withholding sex" from you.
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| Mar 24 @ 12:22 AM |
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SpiritEnergy
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An attractive mind turns me on the MAX! 
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| Mar 24 @ 8:34 PM |
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DwainP50
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A nice long rub on the small of her back works too!!!  
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| Mar 26 @ 4:57 PM |
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Bluebonnet72
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Have you ever withheld sex from your husband/wife, or lover? yes I have  
I'm not an on-off switch
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| Mar 26 @ 7:04 PM |
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DwainP50
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If you were an off-on switch....  well never mind!
I can honestly say yes, more than a couple of times, you meet some ladies that just dont turn you on so you try to avoid the subject, her advances and just enjoy the date. 
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| Mar 26 @ 7:34 PM |
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SpiritEnergy
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That is not really withholding sex. I am pretty sure it was meant as a means to manipulate or control the other person. There is a difference between controlling people with sex and not having desire for sex and not wanting to participate. Wouldn't you say?
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| Mar 26 @ 7:36 PM |
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sweetsongs17
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I would agree with you Spirit..
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| Mar 26 @ 7:46 PM |
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michedkel
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Everyone should read Dr. Laura's recent book The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands. (you go girl!) She made the point that a wife (or SO, take your pick) should give it up whenever the male wants it. The point being that the man does so many other things in the relationship, spending time with your relatives, mowing the lawn, earning an income, etc. If a man is full, he'll never eat away from home.
[Edited on 3/26/2008 8:59 PM]
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| Mar 26 @ 8:04 PM |
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painter007
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I hate it when he does that 
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| Mar 26 @ 8:16 PM |
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SpiritEnergy
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I would agree if the man actually did all that and perhaps when they are married or full time living together. Committed relationship, ya know. But what if he is a financial drain most of the time, does little to nothing and if he does do anything, does it so poorly, it has to be done over again?
This is when the woman's sex drive goes out the window. Sort of a...'and I have to have sex with him, TOO?' number. The romance is GONE, baby.
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| Mar 26 @ 8:58 PM |
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michedkel
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Yeah, there are other issues at play in any relationship. I also read somewhere (men are from mars, women are from venus?) that a man who helps clean the house gets laid alot more often, so I gave that a try. We had the cleanest apartment in Manhattan and I still wasn't getting any. But I must say that the cessation of intimacy led directly to the break-up of the marriage. I got tired of cleaning that damned apartment with an erection that could push the elevator buttons.
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| Mar 26 @ 9:10 PM |
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sweetsongs17
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I got tired of cleaning that damned apartment with an erection that could push the elevator buttons.
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| Mar 26 @ 9:24 PM |
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SpiritEnergy
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Wheeeeeeeeee! Heh, I would LOVE to have a male house keeper!
Gee! Who knew that was sexy?
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| Mar 26 @ 9:34 PM |
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sweetsongs17
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Oh my!!
SpiritEnergy, you are a Queen! 
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| Mar 26 @ 9:39 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Dressed up in a masculine version of a French maid outfit? Hmmm...let's see, a Chippendale's outfit would work, right?
BTW, my profile says that if the sex is good, anything else can be worked out...cuz if I turn cold fish, something's very, very wrong. It would never be withheld for a powerplay, it would always be a symptom of a problem somewhere else, and he and I'd better talk (or type) about it...email's such a nice 'defusing' way to discuss things!
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| Mar 26 @ 9:45 PM |
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SpiritEnergy
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YES! I agree Heaven, with most posts you have made. (maybe all of them) Hey, if you cannot discuss it, something is wrong. Refusal to talk means something is being hidden. That is rarely a good thing. Usually it is misperceptions. People that LIKE to talk it out are the keepers, even if they argue, IF it is constructive argument.
Oh, and no costumes, please. Just a wonderful helpmate would do the trick. 
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| Mar 26 @ 9:57 PM |
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painter007
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If Im diggin him...hes getting it...and lots of it
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| Mar 26 @ 10:02 PM |
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michedkel
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You mean I don't have to clean your house? Call off the search.
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| Mar 27 @ 6:52 AM |
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DipityDoo
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Everyone should read Dr. Laura's recent book The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands. (you go girl!) She made the point that a wife (or SO, take your pick) should give it up whenever the male wants it. The point being that the man does so many other things in the relationship, spending time with your relatives, mowing the lawn, earning an income, etc. If a man is full, he'll never eat away from home
Funny, I do all those things in a relationship and I don't expect that my SO give it up whenever I demand it.
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