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blueyes101
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I may not wish ( at the time ) to try to wake up and get myself to " feel " horny.
But once I'm there, I can spare a few precious moments of sleep to get it on and fall into a deeper sleep when I'm done. And the snuggling afterwards doesn't hurt any either.
I have a very deep fulfilling feeling after spontaneous sex, when you can just lay there and relax, and feel loved and happy to be so much in love.
A much better feeling than I had a few minutes before.( you know, when I didn't " feel " like it. ) 
I need only to think of the simple kiss before bed, and the passionate ones while the hormones are flying, and the long one afterwards, with a heartfelt thank you, then you hear a heavy sigh and feel her curl up in the covers, and spoon me as I fall back to sleep.  
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| Mar 29 @ 6:32 AM |
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Snappygoddess
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Mich......of course I agree...all relationships are different and fall apart or work for different reasons. It was that one statement from Dr Laura that irked me.
And I don't need a man picker.. I have a wonderful husband now 
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| Mar 29 @ 2:06 PM |
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michedkel
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Good for you, Snappy.  When I posted that thread I looked at it later and wondered if it came out right. Glad things are working out for you. Now, to work on my woman picker......
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| Mar 29 @ 10:25 PM |
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DwainP50
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I am currently withholding sex right now as we speak!!!!! 
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| Mar 30 @ 12:05 AM |
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Snappygoddess
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Is that voluntarily or involuntarily? 
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| Mar 30 @ 12:12 AM |
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DwainP50
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 involuntarily!  
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| Mar 30 @ 12:54 AM |
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SpiritEnergy
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 Me too, Dwain!
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| Mar 30 @ 10:12 AM |
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Snappygoddess
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Sorry Dwain..the imp in me just couldnt resist 
Trust me, I know being without is NO laughing matter(been there many times before)
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| Mar 30 @ 1:35 PM |
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DwainP50
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^^^both are sweethearts! 
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| Mar 30 @ 2:10 PM |
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Snappygoddess
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Awwww shucks
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| Mar 30 @ 4:14 PM |
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blueyes101
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Why is it, most married couples talk as if they do not have enough sex, and nearly all of the single people claim they are going without. It seems only the very young is having sex, I wonder if they will be online in 20 years complaining they are going without as well?
My gf was commenting the other day how she hears married women complain they had sex last night. She let them know since we are in a LDR our only complaint is we wish we could.
It is really not so surprising people look elsewhere to have their needs met. But, what a shame really, it looks like they are trading sex and love for sex and sneaking around.
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| Mar 30 @ 5:54 PM |
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NawtiKitty
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Silly thing to do.. If I'm with someone..part of that is I WANT sex.. 
Why would I hold out on it 
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| Mar 30 @ 5:58 PM |
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Snappygoddess
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blue.. that is a good point! I get so sick of hearing the standard joke when people get married ..."Now that you are married you will never get any sex".... says who? 
Sex is not about whether or not you are married or single..it's about who you are and who you are with and the chemistry you have together. If you aren't getting any.. you just aren't working at it hard enough or you just dont care to have it.(you, meaning anyone in general) .. that's my take on it anyway... 
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| Mar 30 @ 6:08 PM |
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SpiritEnergy
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It has been my experience with married friends that the reasons the women feel less like sex is because once they are married, the men think they own the women then treat them like a tool or a vehicle. Something that has no personality or feelings.
So, yes, in THOSE cases, men suddenly find themselves getting the cold shoulder. How can a woman's sex drive keep running when the door is slammed in the face of their emotional and mental needs? Suddenly their physical needs (sexually) diminish.
After all, the men wooed them and romanced them, the women fell in love with that fake personality until they were married then boom! All gone. Yep, those are the guys complain about not getting sex anymore.
Same with the women. They faked it thru the getting to know them stage until marraige then all bullshit ceased.
What man is still aroused by finding out they were tricked into marraige? The women often stop having sex with them because they know they don't have to do that now they think they have the ball and chain on them. Dishonesty and realization is a real sex drive KILLER! Sad to say but true. It makes it hard on the honest people because the liars are so good at faking it.
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| Mar 30 @ 6:18 PM |
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DwainP50
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When I wasnt on MD for a while, I found myself missing the forums. And the above opinions is the reason, you learn so much! Good people here on MD! 
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| Mar 30 @ 6:28 PM |
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SpiritEnergy
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We missed you too, Dwain! Hug!
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| Mar 30 @ 6:35 PM |
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blueyes101
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I heard a joke about hearing the words oral sex from the T.V. while watching with his 10 year old daughter, when she asked " daddy, what is oral sex " he knew they have always been completely honest with their child, and also knew this time would no different.
As he started to talk, he glanced at his wife working in the kitchen looked straight into his daughters eyes........ and said........... " Honey, I have no idea " 
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| Mar 30 @ 7:25 PM |
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| Mar 30 @ 7:26 PM |
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CathyCRN
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I also think that people just like to complain. I work with married people that brag about all the sex that they get...going home to get laid, whatever. Then, when they are upset about something, they complain about him "always wanting it"...I'm not really sure what that's all about but think it is all in one's perception or state of mind. JMO
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| Mar 30 @ 8:18 PM |
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blueyes101
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Thanks for pointing that out, "always wanting it" I was going to word my post in that direction, but my opinion as a man saying that always looks bad.
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