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Dec 26, 2005 @ 9:19 PM How many lovers have you had via the internet?

B4Barbie

Posts: 24 I doubt anyone is going to tell all or tell the truth but I am curious. I don't mind telling you that I have only been with one man willingly my whole life. I never ever thought divorce was in the picture. A friend told me about these forums and since reading and contributing just a little bit I find myself being a tad more liberal than usual.

I am weary of and inexperienced when it comes to dating or "playing the field" so I don't know if I'll find that one special partner to share life with or venture out and um, gosh how do I say this? ...date many men til I find the one I'm comfortable with or fall in-love. I wonder how many men will I date to find him and what men expect of me. I don't want to be a notch on some man's bedpost and then he disappears.

So to everyone...how many lovers have you had til you found the one that matters?

Dec 26, 2005 @ 9:21 PM How many lovers have you had via the internet?

Pete73052

Posts: 19,368 I've had one lover that I met on the internet. I don't remember her name - only her handle.

Dec 26, 2005 @ 9:23 PM How many lovers have you had via the internet?

spongebob777

Posts: 7,904 From the internet none. In the real world 4 and all mattered.

Dec 26, 2005 @ 9:29 PM How many lovers have you had via the internet?

Pete73052

Posts: 19,368 It was a long time ago - I was young and foolish and seducable... (pay attention Barbie). It was a mistake... one that I regret.

Dec 26, 2005 @ 9:30 PM How many lovers have you had via the internet?

chinabull2000

Posts: 7,012 Via the internet I have had....ummmm..... 2 lovers, although I've dated many more.

Dec 26, 2005 @ 10:46 PM How many lovers have you had via the internet?

Angel54214

Posts: 14,063 Barbie...I haven't found the one that matters as yet, that's why i am here. As far as internet dating, there is a difference in finding that special ever after and having sex with the ones you choose to meet. These days, one must clearify why they are searching by internet and what they are searching for. State strongly your morals and show your education in the dating arena. Sexuality is so easy! Its a very strong human desire and a fact within our life realm.

If one person has 20 lovers, and still on date site and really searching for the one and only, one must stop and re-evaluate their methods and criteria. My point of view on this is its a good thing to shop, but once you buy, its yours. If its not broken, don't fix it. If it breaks, then it weren't a valuable to begin with because value was not what caught the eye in the first place. Numbers are just that, numbers. There's always lessons to be learned, and some learn sooner than others.

We have choices and we make them weither they are right, wrong or nuetral. I hope I helped in some way....Angel

Dec 26, 2005 @ 11:06 PM How many lovers have you had via the internet?

DipityDoo

Posts: 376
doubt anyone is going to tell all or tell the truth but I am curious. I don't mind telling you that I have only been with one man willingly my whole life. I never ever thought divorce was in the picture. A friend told me about these forums and since reading and contributing just a little bit I find myself being a tad more liberal than usual.

I am weary of and inexperienced when it comes to dating or "playing the field" so I don't know if I'll find that one special partner to share life with or venture out and um, gosh how do I say this? ...date many men til I find the one I'm comfortable with or fall in-love. I wonder how many men will I date to find him and what men expect of me. I don't want to be a notch on some man's bedpost and then he disappears.

So to everyone...how many lovers have you had til you found the one that matters?

Honest answer for me.....two. Of course, it could have been and could still be much, much more. I think...if you want sex, this is the place to be. If you want a relationship....this is not the place to be. Not that you'll be a "notch on some man's bedpost"...I think most people will honestly state what they want.

As for what men expect of you...does it even matter? What matters is what you expect of yourself and for yourself. If that's clear to yourself, and you remain true to it, then you'll end up with the men whose expectations are better aligned with yours.

So, by the word "willingly" in your post, am I correct in assuming there have been some non-consenual experiences? If that's the case...and I know it has been for me....one thing I'd think carefully about is your attitude towards sex. For me....I have a hard time realizing it's not something to just be taken from me. Perhaps if it's wanted, I give it , even if I don't want it. Sure, I may enjoy it...but I'll regret it later. Or, when a man crosses boundaries again, I don't feel the outrage I should.

Anyway, your last paragraph gives me the feeling that to you, sex is something that will be required for you to "go through" to find your Mr. Wonderful. It shouldn't be a chore, or something that you have to give and not enjoy, and, of course, it should be enjoyable, pleasurable, and something that you actually want and will actually enhance your relationship. If I'm totally off track....just disregard this! It just struck a chord with me, so to speak.

But, if I am correct....I'm sure there are a zillion different ways of processing that kind of thing and a zillion different reactions towards new and possible relationships, but I'd certainly recommend sorting out how it has impacted your thoughts, feelings, sexuality and relationships.

[Edited on 12/26/2005 11:09 PM]

Dec 26, 2005 @ 11:49 PM How many lovers have you had via the internet?

torees121

Posts: 739 I have had 2, but none from this site. I have been divorced for 6 years and been internet dating for 4 1/2 years.

Dec 27, 2005 @ 2:12 AM How many lovers have you had via the internet?

Graystar

Posts: 282 About 10...all met through Yahoo chat rooms. The raunchy sex is nice once in a while for a release, but, having nothing in common, the soul is still left high and dry. A cappuccino at the local café with my bestest bud is more fulfilling.

Dec 27, 2005 @ 8:52 AM How many lovers have you had via the internet?

msdodie835

Posts: 84 graystar, you hit the nail on the head....we need more from sex than just the act itself..the feeling of completeness when you know that your partner really has feelings for you....it is just the best. without attraction and love...it is just a non fulfilling, empty, meaniless act...

Dec 27, 2005 @ 10:07 AM How many lovers have you had via the internet?

Mischief484

Posts: 645
About 10...all met through Yahoo chat rooms. The raunchy sex is nice once in a while for a release, but, having nothing in common, the soul is still left high and dry. A cappuccino at the local café with my bestest bud is more fulfilling.

I met a few through Yahoo chat rooms, too. But from 2001 through 2003 (which I think is when Matchdoctor came online), my most productive site was matchmaker. I used to call it meatmarket.com.

The best locations were metro areas, like DC, Atlanta, Miami and Jacksonville. Good God, I'd never seen such a huge community of horny women. All ages, all races, all creeds. From blue collar to socialite. On one trip to Atlanta, I got laid three times in one week, and it would have been four if my date on Friday hadn't come down with the flu. One of those encounters developed into a lasting friendship, and I see her regularly.

That site changed their policies towards free accounts, and the place has pretty much died out. So, it's MD or nothing for me, from now on.

I would have to sit down and think them through before I could answer the question accurately. It's been a bunch, though.

If I ever have the pleasure of meeting Al Gore, I am going to thank him richly for inventing this internet thing...

Dec 27, 2005 @ 11:35 AM How many lovers have you had via the internet?

kaden69

Posts: 529 zip zilch zero

Dec 27, 2005 @ 2:17 PM How many lovers have you had via the internet?

kinglouis2005

Posts: 856 Been on 5 dates from Internet dating. 1 purely sexual anothr the female lived too far but we hung out for a while and saw each other time and again and eventually stopped. Dated one for 4 months before I broke up w/her and 2 one time dates that just didnt work out.

Dec 27, 2005 @ 5:20 PM How many lovers have you had via the internet?

justwannabeme

Posts: 21 Lets see how many have I met here on the Internet just for sex? 2
How many have I met that have become good freinds? A lot more then two and those are the better ones.

Not that the sex was not good, it was. But I think we are all looking for more then just sex.

Dec 27, 2005 @ 5:37 PM How many lovers have you had via the internet?

richmondcowgirl83

Posts: 1,062 I met 3 of my 4 ex-fiances off the internet.

Dec 27, 2005 @ 5:40 PM How many lovers have you had via the internet?

chinabull2000

Posts: 7,012 it's gonna be number 3 for me on NYE!

Dec 27, 2005 @ 5:54 PM How many lovers have you had via the internet?

littleross

Posts: 249 One other thing to consider: How far from civilization you are! Seriously, I'm 2 hours from the nearest mall - might less avaiable, attractive men. But even with that, I've met 3 (soon to be 4) off the net. One was yuckky and I'd never consider sleeping with him, one I married! (then divorced last year), another flew here from Baghdad last month, and the 4th is coming in from Dallas for New Years.

Don't sacrifice your principles. Only one of those men did I have sex with, and I shared his last name for 5 years. If the guys know what you are all about from the beginning, it's not awkward at all, just "normal" dating. Then see where it goes. Even if it doesn't work out, you have put your foot back in the water and that's a really good thing.

And that's my two cents!

Dec 27, 2005 @ 6:01 PM How many lovers have you had via the internet?

chinabull2000

Posts: 7,012 You're absolutelty right littleross.. its all about getting your feet wet again, which is what i'm doing right now, on a dating frenzy! lol It doesnt matter whether or not sex is involved (tho of course that'd be nice), but its great to know that people still find you attractive and wanna be with you...

Dec 28, 2005 @ 8:36 PM How many lovers have you had via the internet?

grumblebear

Posts: 10,494 I've met many folks from the net, I've kept quite a few as friends, but none were lovers...

I may not look it, but I'm a conservative christian believing man.

Dec 29, 2005 @ 5:06 PM How many lovers have you had via the internet?

herecomesblondey_69

Posts: 11 Wow, I hearya w/ lng distance relationships! in PA and I had a GR8T man come all the way fom WV. :) It was the best I ever felt. He made me feel WONERFUL! Not out Just for SEX! But evenditually Sex came into the pic, and IT WAS WOW! I am not out LOOKING 4 SEX! It has to happen Naturally. But Not from afar! I fell in love w/ this man.!:( I saw him 5 months and it got to be too FAR! :( we still talk the phone. So I do hear ya when you say, about he distance. Good Luck in the future:)

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