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SylvanDreams
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Good question, Loreli!
Mischief, would it make a difference to you if she IS in love with you, rather than just an occasional no-strings-attached hoop-it-up partner? Would that change your relationship with her?
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| Feb 21, 2006 @ 12:54 PM |
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father_heart
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it could
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| Feb 24, 2006 @ 12:16 AM |
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Say_Yes
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I have had a fwb relationship before that worked very well. Neither one of us was in a place for a real relationship, but we both had needs. We are still friends and while I have not seen her in over a year (she lives in FL now), we chat often.
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| Feb 24, 2006 @ 12:37 AM |
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vipervenom
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Snoop said it best
"You don't love me, you just love my doggystyle"
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| Aug 1, 2006 @ 2:49 PM |
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kinglouis2005
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FOB's rule!
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| Aug 1, 2006 @ 2:59 PM |
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SunBabe
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FOBs? "Friend of Bill, a follower of Alcoholics Anonymous and its founder, Bill W."?
Me, I'd prefer my FWB, but with the lacking thereof, I can be FOB (friend of b.o.b) 
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| Aug 1, 2006 @ 3:06 PM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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Me, I'd prefer my FWB, but with the lacking thereof, I can be FOB (friend of b.o.b)
 
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| Aug 1, 2006 @ 3:45 PM |
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sissycat411
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I prefer my Best Friend with benefits....my commented Friend and lover....Bob is just a stand in....and a good one.....no ones feelings get hurt, I'm gentle with him when I use him, always put him away safe and clean, dont share him with anyone else......and he wouldn't mind my finding a substitute nor would he feel used....
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| Aug 1, 2006 @ 4:18 PM |
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kinglouis2005
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oops I did mean FWB's...hehehehe 
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| Aug 1, 2006 @ 4:22 PM |
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SunBabe
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Kinda figgered ...but just too good to pass up. 
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| Aug 1, 2006 @ 9:34 PM |
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jamminjerry
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forgive me, but, i follow sunbabe to glean tiny bits of wisdom, of course they are scarce but, all the other fields are fallow. 
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| Aug 3, 2006 @ 6:22 AM |
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hotlips12095
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The man i see I've been friends with for over 10 yrs-we just crossed that line from friends to FWB- neither of us are in a position for a real relationship but we do know how to take care of the other WE do whatever we ever wanted to try but couldnt in our current relationship- I care about him but not in LOVE with him- Emotions just make a mess of things! I just want the FUN, oral and SEX! !!!!! 
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| Aug 3, 2006 @ 7:47 AM |
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bevrice
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Well, factually, women are said to equate sex with love, so sooner or later love is more than likely going to enter into it. Lol, UNLESS, you are just one of MANY of her friends with benefits. Sex so seldom might indicate that you are, and she is just using you for the sex. Then, and guys don't get mad, you will probably fall for her because men usually want what they CAN'T have, it is the nature of the beast.
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| Aug 3, 2006 @ 9:39 AM |
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jeanc200358
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FWB translates to SWC.
(Sex Without Commitment)
Which is fine, if that's all you've got at the time. And which I might even consider if the benefit for me is (while I'm sitting here looking at legs that look like they've been burned in a fire) he'll come over and weedeat my huge poison-ivy-laden yard every couple weeks.
But no one will agree to that. They just want to be FBs, not FWBs. It's so hard to find good help these days. Sigh.
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| Aug 3, 2006 @ 9:50 AM |
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HarleysB_WV
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My FWB comes around usually once a year (occasionally more than that). When he gets here he always checks to see if any repairs need to be made around my home or if any knives need sharpened. He's quite handy to have around(once a year).lol He's the best!! Neither of us wants a relationship beyond what we have. We've even had fights with our friends to keep them from sticking their noses into our business and trying to force things beyond where they are now. The usual "you look great together", "you should move in together", "when are you two getting married"....ugh....We've had this great FWB relationship going for 5 years now and neither of us see any signs of it changing.
He's a good friend and an excellent lover. We love it the way it is. We've discussed moving it to the next level, but both agreed we're extremely happy with it the way it is right now.
For the record, I have other opportunities for long term relationships and choose not to enter into them. For my own reasons I am remaining single at this time in my life and for once, actually enjoying MYSELF.
DISCLAIMER:
The statements made in this post are in no way a reflection of anything any other poster has stated and is not intended to be a "dig" or an effort to "insult" or "antagonize" another poster. It was written with respect and honesty. THANKS!
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| Aug 3, 2006 @ 4:57 PM |
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Jackeys
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This is a great discussion. I recently had a friend with benefits situation go wrong because emotions got involved and it ended our 2 1/2 year friendship.
I have a new friends with benefits situation going right now and the other night I went over to his place for sex and all he wanted to do was cuddle. I don't mind comforting my friend but I was against the cuddling. Romancing and cuddling can lead to someone feeling more than they should so I say keep it sexual and there should be no problems.
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| Aug 3, 2006 @ 6:14 PM |
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jeanc200358
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That's another thing...I don't see how you can be a true friend without emotions getting involved, much less adding to that the fact that you're having sex with them.
If they're your friend you already care about them, I would surmise. So again FWB is just another way of saying SWC.
Why are people so damned afraid of falling in love, being in love, and staying in love? I don't get it. I mean, I've been hurt a LOT, but it doesn't keep me from getting up and trying again - and it never will.
Love is, ultimately, the only thing that matters in life -- and having someone to share it with, of course.
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| Aug 3, 2006 @ 6:27 PM |
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kinglouis2005
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Why are people so damned afraid of falling in love, being in love, and staying in love? I don't get it. I mean, I've been hurt a LOT, but it doesn't keep me from getting up and trying again - and it never will.
not everyone is scared but we all hae differing sexual views and preferances.
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| Aug 5, 2006 @ 12:19 AM |
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jdtallfem
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Well in the last few years since I've been single I've been offered a FWB sort of thing a number of times, one recently that I have considered, but I do have this problem. I still want a real relationship, because I do know how wonderful it is to be in love with someone and how great the lovemaking is when there are stronger feelings involved than mere friendship. So what do I do? Have a FWB friend that I see to take care of the sexual feelings while I still look for that real relationship? Somehow that doesn't seem right or fair to me or the guy I'm really looking for. How would he feel, after I met him, that I'd just broken up with a FWB partner (which of course I would). Still, of course, the offer of FWB is tempting. But yes, the guys who've offered me FWB? I definitely don't see myself falling in love with them. So I'd have to say it's quite possible for women to separate the two, lol.
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| Aug 5, 2006 @ 12:37 AM |
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Silvertongue62
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After reading all of the post in this string I have a few questions of my own. I understand that everyone has their own way of dealing with their sexual needs and frustrations. I also understand that there is no guarantee that love will or will not find any of us. With all of that being said, are we to wait on the sidelines with the hope that love will come our way? What happens if it doesnt? Life will continue to grow short for us all. Or are we to live our lives making the best of what we have or can get until he/she comes along? Would we not take a job until the dream job came along? Would we not drive a car until the bentley was in our grasp? I think I would eat beans until I could get some steak. So while we wait for the right one, life continues to grow shorter for each and every one of us everyday.
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