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Many complain about lack of sex in a relationship. Why?
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painter007
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When I wasnt thinking about making love to him anymore.....it was time to leave the relationship. Other then that, I am never really at a loss when Im diggin a man. 
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| Jul 30, 2008 @ 10:08 PM |
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Silver1961
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Since being single I have heard many women mention how they felt sorry for this or that guy because their ex wives or GF never had sex with them..   ... Being a man I know how the male brain works and reasons especially when sexual desires are flooding out reasoning abilities... A horny man reasons that if he whines about how he hasn't had sex forever because his bitchy wife or GF is withholding sex to some gal, she will feel sorry for him... And possibly give him a mercy missionary  ...
When I hear this BS, I always clue them in that they're just trying to get into their knickers...  I say perhaps those withholding fridgets have good cause for keeping their legs tight together 
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| Jul 31, 2008 @ 3:35 PM |
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marylou
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yeah and mine are tight right now.........hehe........ 
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| Jul 31, 2008 @ 3:51 PM |
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SpiritOrnery
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 Ok, Silver, I GET the message, You know, dude, they are gonna drum ya out of the brotherhood for that!!!!!
 Yes, you have to realize, if they would not give the guy sex, then he was as much the problem as she if not more. I shall keep that in mind next potential lover I look at. 
[Edited on 7/31/2008 3:53 PM]
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| Jul 31, 2008 @ 3:52 PM |
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michedkel
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Because they're not getting any? 
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| Jul 31, 2008 @ 3:58 PM |
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SpiritOrnery
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Makes a hell of a lot of sense...if she was just not into sex, then the male had poor judgment in his choices if he was real sexual.
But I really do not think that really relates to people that were into real long time relationships because way back then...having sex early on was just not usually done.
So, those I would say are more just unfortunate. They can make a difference if they try. I seriously believe some men are not the problem in anything other than a mistake made at a very young age. Most grow past that. And those men that chose for love and not looks, then they were choosing correctly. But those that did it for sexual comfort, feeling sorry for her or looks, well, that was a poor choice.
Same with women that chose for security/money or pity or other nonlove choices.
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| Jul 31, 2008 @ 4:05 PM |
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painter007
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Good point Silver.......but no one gets into these Knickers.....unless I have some heart for him. 
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| Jul 31, 2008 @ 5:50 PM |
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SpiritOrnery
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Great picture, Painter! Real peaceful.
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| Jul 31, 2008 @ 5:53 PM |
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katydid438
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I don't believe in lack of sex in a relationship 
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| Jul 31, 2008 @ 7:38 PM |
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SpiritOrnery
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| Jul 31, 2008 @ 9:55 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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Because it is 8 hours away?
Or 13 by plane 
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| Jul 31, 2008 @ 10:25 PM |
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SpiritOrnery
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Awwwwwwwwww....  
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| Jul 31, 2008 @ 10:52 PM |
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blueyes101
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There have only been a very few times my sexual drive was lower than usual. and each time it was due to stress, not the everyday stuff, but something major. Once the problem was resolved, or worked itself out, I was back to normal.
 
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| Jul 31, 2008 @ 11:25 PM |
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painter007
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Im sorry but I dont complain..........if I am crazy about him......Its gonna be something thats gonna be happening , alot.. 
Spirit...it is peaceful...its my fishing spot.....and floating in a raft at midnight spot.
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| Aug 1, 2008 @ 12:58 AM |
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SpiritOrnery
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Awww, cool! I bought a raft!
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| Aug 9, 2008 @ 1:51 PM |
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teddybearagain
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It's not my way to complain about something. It only pushes the issue at hand in a negative manner all the more. On topic though, I do believe that when two people have lost the communication that's when sex can become a "chore". People, ya gotta talk, tell your SO what you need, what you want. I mean, face it, if you're in a relationship for a long time, and it's getting to feel like an old shoe, then the sex probably isn't there as often either, just a hunch? In my own past experience it was his drinking that turned me off. I didn't want him near me, let alone touching me. I also believe if the feelings are someone are deteoriating then you gotta tell them. Why allow both of you to be miserable in life thinking you have to stay together? Sex will certainly lag if the emotional connection isn't there, IMO.
Now, I've heard a couple of you say that there's a difference between sex and making love. I totally agree.
You can "make love" with someone with your eyes, your words, your touch, your heart. Initimacy/making love doesn't only happen behind closed doors.
I would venture to say that when that happens, that the sex in that relationship will and can be there. Let me explain that a bit more for you who just don't get that; .. It's my belief that a good healthy sexual relationship starts with the heart. We all can "have sex" to "get off", or self satisfaction is always an option. But, when we engage in matters of the heart and we "make love" with someone, then the sex falls into place.
Slow, romantic, passionate "love making" mingled with laughter, playfullness, animalistic "sex" is the BEST! Get it? Good ...... now, go have some fun!
ok, I know, a long response, ... it seems I've cornered myself in to the computer area with a mop n bucket, and I'm waiting for the floor to dry
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| Aug 9, 2008 @ 1:58 PM |
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scorpiogirl36
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^^^ What Tb said...couldn't have said it better. 
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| Aug 9, 2008 @ 3:19 PM |
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lizardlicks
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hey you get what you pay for 
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| Aug 9, 2008 @ 7:15 PM |
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Bamadreamer
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My experience has been that if I am generally happy in a relationship the sex is ON..treat me like shit, say mean things and disprespect me and the desire dwindles away..ya can't expect to be mean and nasty to someone and then want them to open their soul to you which is what making love is about..jmo
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| Aug 10, 2008 @ 6:23 AM |
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marylou
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.....its not just men who complain either.........mainly maybe.....but there are many men who arent interested either.......and make the wives feel.....like they are invisible. What makes it worse.......is that they dont want to even talk about it. After a time of this........I would say love can easily die......and they just live in a state of existing until one or the other leaves.
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