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| Oct 26, 2008 @ 12:20 PM |
Flirting with an older married woman?
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Jman
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Hello people,
I would like to present you with the facts and please try to answer my question without much judgment since you will understand that we all know what the right thing to do is concerning my situation.
Facts Part A: I am a 28 year old and I like a woman that is 15 years older than me, is married for 20 years, has children, she is a colleague and she has an unhappy marriage with her husband.
Facts Part B: She has grown fond of me since she comes to my office everyday 2-3 times a day and we talk about staff for an average of 1 hour per day. I really like her character and her looks a lot. We went out together with other colleagues, I tried to avoid her at work but it only lasted for a couple of days since she came and found me somewhere at work and talked me up again. The last week was pretty intensive as she came one day and took my hands so she can warm hers, she spent time with me at work more than usual, a colleague girl that used to hang out with her a lot came and told me that she is sure that she likes me a lot from the way she acts. Lastly we went out alone at a bar had a few drinks and went home. At the bar though this woman had shown no signs of any sexual attraction, it was plain and simple and it was like she was avoiding any touching, not that I have tried to pull anything like that on her but anyone could tell that she avoided this. She did not flirt at all, a couple of girl friends that I have called me during the night and maybe (I am not sure) that made her jealous since when a third girl called she asked “Is she one of the girls from before or do you have even more?” and to be honest these were just simple friends of mine.
The question: What does this woman want from me? Is she flirting or not? Does she want a new fling in her life or a new friend in her life? It's a bit difficult to keep up with such a mature beautiful woman and I don’t want to ruin any marriages but she has messed up even when I avoid her. What does it seem that she wants and how to I get either rid of her or give her what she wants?
Tanks in advance and sorry for the long post.
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| Oct 26, 2008 @ 12:54 PM |
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Loreli
Posts: 25,398
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She's still married
All marriages go through rough spots.
Let it be.
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| Oct 26, 2008 @ 1:01 PM |
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ISSUESWOPTIONS
Posts: 8,070
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She has no friends or life other than her home and work life. Just be her friend. Just follow her lead because if all hell breaks loose you DON'T want to be in the middle. If she is that unhappy she will take care of what ails her. you DON'T want an angry, upset, psycho hubby at your doorstep.
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| Oct 26, 2008 @ 1:05 PM |
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lj450
Posts: 9,550
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2-3 times a day and we talk about staff for an average of 1 hour per day
Uh-huh......talking about your "staff", are ya?
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| Oct 26, 2008 @ 1:08 PM |
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Silver1961
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You're playing with fire! There are too many potential problems with the situation you have described... I know from experience. My ex had some affairs, and now I know why people get shot over something that may seem innocent and exciting to you. When a husband or wife is initially hurt by affair, they are not the most rational people you'd meet.. They may lash out in many different ways, some could be devastating.
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| Oct 26, 2008 @ 2:10 PM |
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fromscratch
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Listen to comments above ^^... 
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| Oct 26, 2008 @ 3:14 PM |
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custis
Posts: 1,890
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Has your brain gone into deep-freeze? She is married and she is experiencing the forties hornies and wants some strange stuff. Unless she divorces, she is off limits. Besides, if she would step out on her hubby, what makes you think she won't step out on you? Yea yea yea, I know, her hubby is not making her happy and he is a nasty guy and blah blah blah. I have heard that story way too many times in my life. If you get involved with this woman, you need your skull opened and the turd replaced with a brain.
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| Oct 26, 2008 @ 4:18 PM |
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Jman
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Hehe you are so funny custis but yet so true!  I never said I was getting involved with this woman guys and I never will do that with a married woman! I am not in love with her at all and its a bit difficult for me to fall in love with her since I know her situation!
I am very provoladged to have found this forum to talk to you people with loads of experience! The thing is what happens if she doesn't want to be just a friend at work!
So I want to be prepared for anything that will come to me, I can't read the signs because I would never consider a married woman flirting with me and so I might be blinded with my ignorance! So what am I facing here? A midlife crisis? Friendship? A cougar? A hurt lady? A friend just at work? I don't know...  I have many female friends at work but have never been so confused cause with the other ladies its quite clear!
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| Oct 27, 2008 @ 1:43 AM |
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custis
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If she makes an attempt to latch onto your honker, just say "Sorry. Come back when you are divorced and living by yourself."
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| Oct 27, 2008 @ 2:00 AM |
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kywonder
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you can not mess with a married woman and someone not get hurt. Speaking from experience, even if she says she is miserable or just plain unhappy, it is not something you want to mess with. Someone will get hurt. Listen to the others and avoid this woman at all cost. I had a woman do it to me and I can tell you as unhappy as I was, it hurt like hell when he left with her and I realized that a little too late I had lost what I really loved.
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| Oct 27, 2008 @ 4:40 AM |
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sthnhylander
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Flirting with an older married woman? aah she's got to have money if she want ME to flirt....(don't take credit) 
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| Oct 27, 2008 @ 6:58 AM |
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drs297
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next time she takes your hands to "warm hers up", remove them and fondle her chest, if she doesn't pull back lock the door and go to town
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| Oct 27, 2008 @ 9:31 AM |
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home_nuff_alrdy
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 drs...
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| Oct 27, 2008 @ 9:56 AM |
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catman602
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 You never know her and him MAY get a divorce and you are there as freind right now BUT , when she gets a divorce . Your there for her .
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| Oct 27, 2008 @ 10:32 AM |
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willsmalto
Posts: 3,645
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she's MARRIED. run, dude! run!
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| Oct 27, 2008 @ 10:49 AM |
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willowy1
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she is experiencing the forties hornies  Woohoo something to look forward to!
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| Oct 27, 2008 @ 10:51 AM |
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Aeromuse
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It's the bestest Wills! 
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| Oct 27, 2008 @ 10:54 AM |
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willowy1
Posts: 9,181
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I think I might be PRE-ForHor I have all the symptoms?
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| Oct 27, 2008 @ 10:58 AM |
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SaintBacon
Posts: 2,130
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WIllow, you not only have all the symptoms...you've also got all the right equipment! 
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| Oct 27, 2008 @ 11:23 AM |
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willowy1
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aww SB you say the sweetest things 
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