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| Dec 7, 2008 @ 9:12 PM |
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Fender
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So...This is bugging me.
Why do some women not allow their boyfriends to have best friends that are girls?
...I had a best friend. We grew up together. We drank beer and played video games together. Not once did we kiss, make out, have sex or anything. Then he started dating one of my other friends. I introduced them(Wish I could take it back too!!!) and not long after they got serious I was dumped. My best freaking friend dumped me.
Anyhoo...Not that long ago I saw him and he was like maybe I can sneak over some time and we can hang out(this was before I moved) and I'm like no way! I'm not the other woman. I'm your best friend and I started crying and haven't talked to him since. I understand some girls can get jealous when the guy they are dating has a female friend. I thought of him as a brother though. Freaking jerkwad.
...Has that ever happened to one of you? And I don't mean where your in a relationship and you say you have a friend but really your leaving the house to get laid. I'm not like that and I miss my Steven jerkoffcvckface! I can't believe he ditched me for a bitch. 
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| Dec 7, 2008 @ 9:19 PM |
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Merchitown
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Yep, and frankly, when that occurs, I dump the friend too. I don't have any use for friends who like to throw people over because a significant other tells them to. Tells me exactly what kind of people they are and also means that the relationship they're in is chockful of drama, drama I'd have to help them sort through once the relationship is done. So I end up telling them, suck it up buttercup!
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| Dec 7, 2008 @ 9:21 PM |
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KAOS2007
Posts: 8,201
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I would say "insecure". My best friend is male and we have never, ever crossed any line like that, he's like a brother to me and always will be. Guess I'm lucky though, his g/f's have never been like that towards me, yet if they did, he'd show them the door.
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| Dec 7, 2008 @ 9:29 PM |
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Fender
Posts: 8,489
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Your lucky K...I don't know why he chose her over me...That's what it feels like. We did so much stuff together...We hung out...Just as friends though. A few times our mutual friends said why don't you guy's hook up and we were both like ewwwww...We were like brother and sister...I guess some guy's will do anything to get laid. I didn't think he was like that though
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| Dec 7, 2008 @ 9:39 PM |
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Skydognc
Posts: 4,017
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most of my friends are female, and most of PP's friends are male........
we both are kewl with it....
why would someone be in a relationship, with such insecurities ?????
love-trust=lust
what he did was wrong...... he should have been up front with her and not allowed her to com between your friendship...
[Edited on 12/7/2008 9:43 PM]
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| Dec 7, 2008 @ 9:39 PM |
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KAOS2007
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It is choosing her over you, and it's just not right. I would never ever do that to one of my friends. Have you told him all this, how it makes you feel? I guess the P does rule over friendship huh? And that really sucks. Sorry this has happened to you. 
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| Dec 7, 2008 @ 9:45 PM |
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Fender
Posts: 8,489
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I told him how it made me feel...I was pretty much crying...I asked him why and he said she doesn't want him to be friends with me anymore.
I'm just leaving it go. He's not worth the hassle and she's not worth me getting upset over.
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| Dec 7, 2008 @ 9:51 PM |
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Skydognc
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I'm just leaving it go. He's not worth the hassle and she's not worth me getting upset over.
a true friend would never allow this!
I mean,
just look at the shit I put up with, and im still ya BFF!
I told muse the first time we talked that you are my BFF. I said......
look here bitch, if you have a problem with it........ let me know and I will toss her to the curb!
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| Dec 7, 2008 @ 9:53 PM |
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Aeromuse
Posts: 3,979
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look here bitch, if you have a problem with it........ let me know and I will toss her to the curb!
your dad's a peach of a guy Fen 
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| Dec 7, 2008 @ 9:55 PM |
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signme
Posts: 12,559
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I've always had male friends. If an SO can't handle it, he's not the one for me. I won't give up friends.
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| Dec 8, 2008 @ 1:52 AM |
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custis
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"Why do some women not allow their boyfriends to have best friends that are girls?"
Ok, here I go on one of my infamous long-winded rants. The fact of the matter is that it just plain never works. If you have a boyfriend or a husband and your best friend is a guy, you are just not ready to have a boyfriend or a husband. I am not just talking out of my hat, I have not only been involved in, but have observed this stuff for many years. It NEVER works. If a guy is your best friend, sooner or later he is going to want to get into your pants or you are going to want to get into his. If you love having trouble and drama in your relationship, just go ahead and have another guy for a best friend. You will get your wish. Sooner or later you will go have a few beers with him and you won't remember a thing when you wake up in the same bed with him, both of you buck naked. Your cellphone will be ringing like crazy because your BF is trying to figure out where the hell you are. If it does not happen that way, it will happen another way. Having a best friend that is the same sex as your significant other is a sure recipe for trouble and millions have already found that out. There is an inevitable rule of life. Men want to fukk women.
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| Dec 8, 2008 @ 1:54 AM |
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custis
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"My best freaking friend dumped me."
He was your best friend because ultimately, someday, some way, he wanted in your pants. I do not care if he was your friend since kindergarten. It does not mean that he did not care for you as a friend, but you are a woman and friend or no, you were potential sackage.
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| Dec 8, 2008 @ 2:17 AM |
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painter007
Posts: 17,853
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Custis.................thats why around my male buds...I have a padlock attached to my belt buckle... 
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| Dec 8, 2008 @ 2:38 AM |
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DisAsianGuy
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Ara ara, aren't we all the same here.
I have a friend, I knew her since she was twelve, now she's sixteen. No matter what the circumstances, taken or not, she has proven her friendship for me. I won't lie, if she offered, I'll jump in them pants any day (psh, i wish). She's like one of my homeboys, she told me when she lost her virginity, how where when she has sex. I don't feel jealous or anything but I'll be lying if I didn't say I never wondered "What if?" She's the only girl who I can say "I love you" and really mean it.
She may be my friend through the storm, but goddamnit she's the only asian I know who is 5'8 with legs to Canada, I'll tap that ass any day.
:[ Don't feel too bad topic starter, we're guys, 98% of the time we listen to our heads, but 2% of the times we can only hear the voice of our male genitals.
I'm sure he still loves you genuinely as a good friend. A moment of weakness perhaps? I'm not saying he was right in wanting to cheat on his girl, but such a strong friendship should be given a second chance (i think).
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| Dec 8, 2008 @ 6:20 AM |
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Skydognc
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If a guy is your best friend, sooner or later he is going to want to get into your pants or you are going to want to get into his.
I will assume you are like this........ not every guy sees a friendship in a sexual way! Please dont generalize here and speak of all men.
There are some of us who value friendships and would fking NEVER look at a friend in a sexual way.
If I desire sex with a woman, we would be in a relationship way deeoer than friendship! Not all men are in to meaningless empty casual sex!
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| Dec 8, 2008 @ 7:38 AM |
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Fender
Posts: 8,489
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Doggy is my good friend and we have no desire to sleep with each other. We have a father-daughter relationship.
...I loved him as a friend and I know he loved me the same way. It's just a shame that things happened that way and I'd rather let the friendship go without a fight then see him lose someone who he loves more than me...His girlfriend.
Isn't that how a true friend should be. Willing to walk away so another doesn't lose more than what you gave them?
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| Dec 8, 2008 @ 9:21 AM |
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eyesofastranger
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in my wife's reality and culture a friend of the opposite sex would be impossible but she has no insecurity so has accepted that my best friend and even former room mate is a female. we just attended her wedding in the summer. sex in my mind is reserved for a female i have a bond with and there is hope of a life together. as stated before in this thread if she had trouble with me having female friends then i'm looking for a world of drama later. insecurity will show up in more places as time goes by.
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| Dec 8, 2008 @ 9:48 AM |
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Kenn159
Posts: 4,402
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Many women believe that they can have a platonic friendship with a man, and since women ultimately are the final decider in whether the relationship moves to sex, it can work.
I have had many female friendships in my life that never resulted in sexual intercourse.
That being said, if I was single at the time and she was willing then they probably would have become sexual.
Point is, every man unless he is a Saint, has in the back of his head, the possibility of becoming intimate with his female friend.
Fender, when your friend said Eewww, I don’t believe him, he probably just said what he thought you wanted to hear.
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| Dec 8, 2008 @ 10:09 AM |
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Skydognc
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Point is, every man unless he is a Saint, has in the back of his head, the possibility of becoming intimate with his female friend.
I totally disagree.........!
substitute some men for every man , and yes, then I would agree...
not that my opinion means anything!
some men place an extremely high importance on friendship, and would never cross boundaries and jepordize the relationship. Not even to the point of thinking about it.
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| Dec 8, 2008 @ 10:13 AM |
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Aeromuse
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It IS possible to have a friendship with someone of opposite genitalia. Maybe not everyone can do this - but then they miss out on so much in life. My guys friends are precious to me.
Hi honey. I'm freezing to death
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