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| Dec 31, 2008 @ 1:26 AM |
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theshygirl
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ok so i met this guy...though he was nice ....gave him my number and then we started hanging out a bit....but i tried to explain to him that i needed to move slow...and although he just calls us friends with benefits.....he seems to be getting really really serious wayyyyyy to fast. he wants to spend all his time with me and i'm going nuts. he's a nice guy...but i really dont see a future. i do enjoy spending time with him......sometimes...but he wants all my time. The downside is that my kids like him a lot....what do i do?
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| Dec 31, 2008 @ 3:45 AM |
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custis
Posts: 1,890
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If he is just a friend with benefits, there is no need to expose him to your kids. And you need to talk to him and make damned sure he knows you mean it when you say you are only friends with benefits. If he does not accept that, then dump him. Plain and simple.
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| Dec 31, 2008 @ 6:54 AM |
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DesertRock
Posts: 220
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~ Boil'd Down,
- what I'm 'hearing here' is:
-He's a 'decisive' guy;
&, you 'like boinking him, - add-in:
-Your kids get along famously W/ him, &:
- You = "The Standard", `Goofy chick`, - W/ CommitMENt phobia.!.
~ What to do.?.
~ *Get Real,
- *Quit this slutty behavior,
-*& Suck(*includes *Swallowing
-You No longer 'have a life', - other-than:
Being `part-of him`!
-What part of GOD's Plan do u kNot understand, or;
'Get Along With'.?. 
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| Dec 31, 2008 @ 7:22 AM |
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Nightowl001
Posts: 7,496
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I don't know what to tell you to do about your friend, ShyGirl. But I might have a suggestion or two about what to do about the previous post. I can't say most of them here, though. 
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| Dec 31, 2008 @ 11:46 AM |
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blueyes101
Posts: 12,080
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This one of the pitfalls of FWB...... The whole thing about not looking and finding it right in front of you type thing. ( well, at least he did ).
If one of you has more feelings than the other, it is time call it quits. Or one of you will soon become a stalker, and things can and usually will get ugly.
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| Dec 31, 2008 @ 5:16 PM |
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thor22
Posts: 3,350
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time to head out, time to leave, time to say...see ya! 
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| Dec 31, 2008 @ 5:20 PM |
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willowy1
Posts: 9,184
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how will we ever recognize you when you come back?
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| Dec 31, 2008 @ 5:23 PM |
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thor22
Posts: 3,350
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don't know, first time, jhey!
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| Dec 31, 2008 @ 8:59 PM |
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Kenn159
Posts: 4,402
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~ Boil'd Down,
- what I'm 'hearing here' is:
-He's a 'decisive' guy;
&, you 'like boinking him, - add-in:
-Your kids get along famously W/ him, &:
- You = "The Standard", `Goofy chick`, - W/ CommitMENt phobia.!.
~ What to do.?.
~ *Get Real,
- *Quit this slutty behavior,
-*& Suck(*includes *Swallowing
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| Dec 31, 2008 @ 9:25 PM |
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burnslikethesun
Posts: 13,027
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when friends with benefits go bad see we trick ourselves with this term. Friends with benefits. Its really friends with limits. And it goes bad as fast as one decides that friends with benefits is a good thing or acceptable. Nothing ever good comes from settling for less then what you are worth. Limits will do that to you every time.
There is nothing good that come from this one side relationship. Its a selfish relationship. Might as well be alone and wait til there doesn't have to be any limits. The selfish ones are the only ones that will ever come out ahead.
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| Jan 1 @ 12:33 AM |
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signme
Posts: 12,578
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It sounds like if this relationship continues, someone will get really hurt. I think you should move on. That will hurt too, but not as much in the long run.
Good luck, hon.
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| Jan 1 @ 12:53 AM |
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missliss78
Posts: 5,189
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boogie nights
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| Jan 1 @ 2:10 AM |
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pamdemonium
Posts: 17,347
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I have to agree with Kenn. That advice was n/g.
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| Jan 1 @ 9:08 AM |
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thor22
Posts: 3,350
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well I agree with Kenn, too....*& Suck does include *Swallowing! 
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| Jan 1 @ 11:14 AM |
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Thor1960303
Posts: 3,345
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see we trick ourselves with this term. Friends with benefits. Its really friends with limits.
I don't completely agree with that, but I don't completely disagree with it either. I've had the FWB thing several times in life with absolutely no bad repurcussions on either side. Others, however, report different experiences and I think the main problem is that people aren't being honest with themselves and/or their respective partners. It's not for everybody, but then niether is monagamy.
Many couples I know say they're just FWB's but are in reality practicing a form of monagamy in that they are sexually exclusive to each other. They just give lip service to their liberal viewpoints and fall back on the excuse that they're just being safe by limiting themselves to one sexual partner. In reality they may have very deep emotional bonds with their FWB, but are loathe to admit it for whatever reason. Then there are those that are sexually compatible, but not life compatible, so they get together for sex, but can't stand to be around each other longer than a few hours at a time.
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| Jan 1 @ 1:13 PM |
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SpiritOrnery
Posts: 24,138
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Sounds to me it is not that the friend's with benefits thing is the problem. It was the part where you and he are not equally interested. I know how the sexual thing can get going and screw up your perspective. I have had that problem in the past. I shall do my best to not make decisions on relationships when horny again.
Because it does nothing but blow up in your face. The GOOD results of friend's with benefits happen when you have two truly compatible friends that eventually become sexual. Then there IS someplace ELSE for it to go other than just a sex partner.
Sounds more like it was a fk buddy thing instead of friend's with benefits. There IS a huge difference. If the two of you were not truly good friends when you became sexually engaged, and you are not interested in committing to him, then YOU are the responsible party here needing to put your big girl panties on, own up to the mistake and break it off.
One GOOD thing is, you may learn how distasteful (and maybe even difficult) it is breaking it up and resist committing the same mistake in the future. I hope for your and the kids' sake, this is true.
Of course, you could sit down with him and discuss his neediness, if that is the only problem you have. Ya never know, it may work out better.
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| Jan 1 @ 1:19 PM |
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thor22
Posts: 3,350
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I just hate it when you womens have to make a good thing so complicated 
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| Jan 1 @ 1:35 PM |
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willowy1
Posts: 9,184
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Willow has a hang over so this might not be very nice 
STOP playing with this mans heart! He has feelings for you. You don't need me to tell you, what you are doing is wrong!  Be an adult and talk to him!
And what the hell are doing dragging men in and out of your children's lives?
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| Jan 1 @ 1:38 PM |
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Loreli
Posts: 25,398
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I personally would never introduce a fwb to my children-what in heck is the purpose....the 2 dont plan a future and kids get attached.
sounds like his feelings arent reciprocated....move on before the kids get hurt...
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| Jan 1 @ 2:15 PM |
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Thor1960303
Posts: 3,345
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Sounds more like it was a fk buddy thing instead of friend's with benefits. There IS a huge difference
So, is there a difference among these terms?
F**K Buddy
FWB
Booty Call
Someone define these terms please and explain their differences.
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