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| Jun 12 @ 3:04 AM |
How can I have a long lasting marriage?
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LiquidByN8ure
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A relationship is built on 3 principles (this is all just my opinion btw).
Principle 1: Equality.
A relationship simply cannot prosper so long as one person believes that they either put more in, or believe their significant other does not put in enough effort. This goes for both sides. Each of you needs to believe that both are putting their hearts into each other, otherwise, there is no real emotional commitment.... and with out that? how can they love one another?
Principle 2: Compatibility.
This word is one of the least corrected misnomers in relationships. Compatibility is not something fickle like favorite color, or similarity of race, food and such. The real meaning of this principle is much closer and deeper, and is one of the biggest emotional let downs in present day relationships. Compatibility stems from a need to feed off of another persons energy or emotions with a similar effect; If you both see puppy in a pet store window, The highly "compatible" couple would both stop and look at the puppy, while you two may not have the same opinion, you will both understand why you both stopped....one of you finds the puppy adorable, or particularly cute, or some other word of adoration.. The other person will stop because they almost instinctively know what the other is thinking, they understand that the sight of this puppy would cause a unique reaction, and if nothing else, they wanted to share in this moment with the other person. Another example would be the unspoken word. Compatible people do not need to have "the talk". Since the compatible couple understands and appreciates the differences between the two of them, and have shown an utmost respect for their differing views, there is no conflict when the issue arises. On a more positive note, people who fit this principle, are happier long term, because they do not endure the stress involved with pursuing something with out at least the blessing of their significant other.
with me so far?
Principle 3: Desire.
Part of a successful relationship is in the will, or longing, to satisfy their mate. This is yet another two-way street. If you do not find your mate to be compelling enough to you mentally, emotionally, sexually what ever.. to warrant them being your priority, then you should not be with them. Plain and simple. in order for a couple to appreciate the depth of each others desires, the first two principles must be met. Equality comes into play because if you both desire each other equally, or equivocally then you will both be driven to please the other, this is nothing but GOOD, for both people. When two people find themselves willing, and wanting to follow their desire together, they find a common love, or perhaps, unique, but shared moment that they can frequent.. this lends to compatibility, since as both people "equally" share a strong emotional connection which is reciprocating to each other, they are more likely, willing, and able to find something that they both enjoy and can build upon with out any shortfalls from either.
Suffice to say, all three are inter-connected. There are surely more principles that could come into play, but I think you understand what I was illustrating. These are neither open to interpretation, nor are they merely subjective. They apply to all positive relationships.
think about your mate, and assign these three principles, and see what you get. (this got me a B+ in psych 212)
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| Jun 13 @ 11:57 AM |
How can I have a long lasting marriage? |
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newlife2006
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That's simple : be there when the partner needs you - and learn when to let her/him have personal time and space . Stay in touch the rest of the time.
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| Nov 12 @ 3:51 AM |
How can I have a long lasting marriage?
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essenceoflove777
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to me it would have to be understanding first thast Love is a choice not a feeling per say there r times when you might not feel like you love the person and it means you then have to make a conscious decision to love them despite that. love is not a four letter word its a complex meaning based on building factors to keep it alive such as communication,trust,loyalty,putting the person you love above yourself,realizing you have to agree to disagree,and that you should always strive to keep the physical side fresh and new for men they have to makelove in order to show love and woman must love in order to physically love. marriage has to be bult on a foundation of committement and sometimes it means both people have to become one in there thoughts,actions and that Love takes work and from nothing always comes nothing and you have to love yourself before you can even begin to love another. never go to bed angry because tomorrow isnt promised you and treat eachday with that person like a gift ..and that makinglove happens even with holdings hands or holding that person ..marriage to me means the ultimate blessing in my life....unfortunately im not married lol ok im done
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