| Apr 8, 2006 @ 10:44 PM |
Guys and Gals - Sexual Dysfunction - If it happened to you, would you be honest?
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academicgirl
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Some of us are at an age where our sexual appetites change (voluntarily or involuntarily). I've worked for a urologist whose sole specialty was restoring sexual function after prostate cancer surgery. Many men have lost their wives (or signficant others) because they could not make love any more. Guys: What would you do if a date turned into a relationship and you were experiencing trouble? Gals: Would you run out on a guy w/sexual dysfunction?
For the record - IMHO, we can't help what happens to our bodies as we age--at this point, I'm beginning to think there is no such thing as a hard penis (50ish)--but I do consider it a challenge of my abilities when someone I am with has trouble, and, if it is someone I care about--we'd just have to find other ways or settle for companionship and support. However, I believe the man should be honest about it.
Opinions?
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| Apr 8, 2006 @ 11:27 PM |
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painter007
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No one should ever be embarrassed if their is a problem. I would simply help him out....
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| Apr 9, 2006 @ 12:01 AM |
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willsmalto
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I think honesty is the best answer here cos I'd be more embarrassed if she found out by herself. On our very first date, I'll let the cat out of the bag. If she's ok with it, then the date could turn into a relationship. But if she walks out on me, itz no big deal cos itz certain that someone someday would be ok with it. "one man's meal is another man's poison". make sense?
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| Apr 9, 2006 @ 12:10 AM |
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richmondcowgirl83
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I dated a guy who couldn't get it up to save his life. I had more fun with him than I can remember. When we first started dating it blew me away that I could spend 8 hours with a guy & it wasn't sexual. We could sit & talk & have the worlds greatest conversations. To know that this man is here with you not for sex but cause he generally wants to spend time with you. When we were sexual he didn't care that he couldn't get it up he was pleased by pleasing me & boy could he.
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| Apr 9, 2006 @ 12:46 AM |
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Lotus35
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I wouldn't walk out on a guy because he couldn't get an erection. There are many many other ways of having very satisfying sex. I think it is just a matter of finding what works with and for him. I do agree with you that he needs to be up front and honest about it. Let's face it..if he doesn't and we are working and working and there isn't anything happening...I'd be a little concerned about my abilities and my attractiveness which would play into my own libido.
I think artist said it on another thread...sex is a total body experience.
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| Apr 9, 2006 @ 12:01 PM |
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academicgirl
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I actually had to stop working for this doctor because it broke my heart; I ended up being a listening post for several men who were just devastated that their wives left them because of their sexual dysfunction. However, I couldn't say to them, "Dude, if your marriage was only about sex, it really wasn't a marriage and it was probably doomed anyway, you're probably better off" even though I wanted to. It was not my place.
I'm glad to see others feel the way I do--be honest about it and we'll work together on it--we are all human and we can't help what happens during the aging process. Besides, kind've opens up the door for "exploring." 
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| Apr 9, 2006 @ 12:13 PM |
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spongebob777
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So far everything works as it should. However I'm not as "goal oriented" as I was when I was younger but that's OK.
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| Apr 9, 2006 @ 12:15 PM |
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mailorderannie
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I dated a guy that had ED...and believe it or not, we had some of the BEST sex I've every had. Very inventive, very passionate, a heck of a LOT of fun, just not intercourse and I came away more satisfied every time than I have with guys that could stay erect for hours. I never knew this, but just because a guy can't have an erection does not mean he can't climax.
there's a lot more to sex than "enter male body part in female body part" and I feel sorry for anyone who doesn't understand that. Man, you are missing a LOT!
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| Apr 9, 2006 @ 12:20 PM |
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Loreli
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there's a lot more to sex than "enter male body part in female body part" and I feel sorry for anyone who doesn't understand that. Man, you are missing a LOT!
Very good point, Annie.
It's fun working at making things happen, and there are so many fixes out there nowdays, that something will come up to make it better...  
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| Apr 9, 2006 @ 12:23 PM |
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stormyweather844
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Interesting thought. Appears more men "wear out" then women, wonder if its karma
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| Apr 9, 2006 @ 12:23 PM |
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spongebob777
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there are so many fixes out there nowdays
So you're saying you don't mind the sound of the air compressor running the pump?
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| Apr 9, 2006 @ 12:25 PM |
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mailorderannie
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Appears more men "wear out" then women
Oh, women wear out....some just lose their sex drive. NOT ME!
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| Apr 9, 2006 @ 1:05 PM |
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stormyweather844
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It only takes the right man, with the right keys to find that "ON" button again.
With the men....once its gone, doesn't matter who or what the ladies does, you cant prime a "shot rod". lol sorry guys, 
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| Apr 9, 2006 @ 1:58 PM |
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willsmalto
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With the men....once its gone, doesn't matter who or what the ladies does, you cant prime a "shot rod". lol sorry guys,
if dis is for real, then what the hell are the medical doctors doing? they should at least do sth b4 mine gets to dat stage.....cos I would like to continue doing it till the day I die even when I hit a 100 & sth 
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| Apr 9, 2006 @ 2:00 PM |
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Loreli
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So you're saying you don't mind the sound of the air compressor running the pump?
If that's what it takes....
You wouldn't need a pump, tho, Sponge.... 
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| Apr 9, 2006 @ 2:22 PM |
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chinabull2000
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If I was already in a relationship and then had a problem, I reckon it'd be quite easy to resolve. Of course I'd honest about it (it ain't something you can exactkly hide!!), and I (we) would get whatever help was needed.
However, if it was a new relationship and happened before we became intimate, I don't really know what I'd do. Ummmmm.... phew, dunno.. I guess I'd try and get it sorted before we became intimate, and if that didn't work, then I'd have to tell her and see what she wanted to do. As had already been said, there is far more to sex than a hard dick, plenty of other things we could do, and if it ever happens to me, I sure won't be giving up on intimacy, it just might be more difficult to find a woman.
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| Apr 9, 2006 @ 3:22 PM |
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stormyweather844
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Laughing one could always hire her a sub.......now that's true love...
Doctors can do wonders but they can't work miracles.  it just might be karma big girn
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| Apr 9, 2006 @ 3:44 PM |
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academicgirl
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I remember a vendor coming in with information about a vacuum pump. I was horrified. I would never do that to a man. Oh, and talk about "no spontaneity."
O.K., guys, this is your "second mother" speaking. If you wanna keep on doin' it, keep on checkin' it with a doc. Prostate health very important. If we women can bet our boobs squished in between two iron plates and a cold speculum put up our hee-haws every year, you can deal with a finger.
Public Service Message Ended. Sorry. Now you can see why I had to leave that job--got to emotional about it. 
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| Apr 9, 2006 @ 5:07 PM |
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sjpinatl
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There is more than one way to skin a cat. The only time I hear of it being a problem is when the guy will not even try to please, or even want to cuddle anymore. Selfish really. If they don't need physical companionship, who cares if the women does? That attitude is what really does it, from what I can see. Most of the women I know of who cheat have men with waning desire who don't care if the women are satisfied or get affection.
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| Apr 10, 2006 @ 11:06 PM |
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grumblebear
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I actually welcomed the dysfunction... because with no desire, it also cures most of the need to deal with people.... and the need I still feel I can mostly fill online chatting and posting...
in my case its a side effect of my blood pressure, and heart meds...
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