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| May 4, 2006 @ 2:26 PM |
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Kimmaranclh
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If you invite a guy over for dinner on the second date...is that like code speak to men for "I want to have sex with you"? Meanwhile...on the first date....you talked about taking it slow...building a friendship...getting to know each other....blah blah blah...and it seemed that you were both on the same page...
but then on date # 2 he freaks when he tries to get a little too frisky too fast and you put on the brakes...and very nicely explain that you are very attracted to him but just not ready to go there...so he sulks and gets pissed and no matter how you try to make it not seem so...he thinks he's rejected..so he leaves and no phone call...(btw..I wouldn't want him to call anyway after that scene)
This happened to me and well...after meeting someone in person for like...oh..I don't know...a total of about 6 hours, I'm just not going to jump into bed with you and get busy....lol
So did I lead him on...unintentionally?
Oh..and the whole reason that Date #2 was at my place was because I work from home a few nights a week and it was the only day our scheduled worked for us to get together...so it wasn't even as if I set it up as a "no..lets not go out...let's stay in" scenerio...
Thanks for all your comments...good or bad...LOL
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| May 4, 2006 @ 4:06 PM |
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paperchase417
Posts: 101
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I dunno, cause as a guy if I invited a girl to my house for dinner on a second date, it wouldn't really be for sex, it would definately be to impress her with my culinary prowess. I'm a pretty good cook, and I like to show it off, especially for the ladies. Ofcourse I'd try to get to bed, but I don't believe in behaving like a child if it doesn't happen. There is always tomorrow.
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| May 5, 2006 @ 7:53 AM |
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LanceVarden
Posts: 330
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Guys are actually a little more penned in.
If a guy wants to sleep with the girl and she refuses, that is maybe not so much fun, but is pretty common.
If a girl want to sleep with a guy and he refuses, look out. A woman scorned and all that.
Likewise, if a woman puts out the signals (or he thinks she is putting them out) he feels obligated to make the attempt to spare the other person the embarrassment.
It is a strange game and the rules don't make much sense.
My advice is;
1. Make your signals clear, or just come right out and say what is on your mind.
2. Act on what you feel up for, not what they want.
3. Respect what the other person decides to do
4. If they don't respect what you decide, tell them to pi$$ off
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| May 5, 2006 @ 8:48 AM |
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willsmalto
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If you invite a guy over for dinner on the second date...is that like code speak to men for "I want to have sex with you"?
If I were in that same atmosphere, I might think in the same way as that guy but wouldn't act as he did. I'd have that same thought...about sex...cos inviting a guy over for dinner on the SECOND DATE is somehow different from inviting him out to dinner on date #2. I think that was a lil too soon.
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| May 5, 2006 @ 1:58 PM |
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mac6287
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well invite a guy to ur house seems like code to me..........
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| May 5, 2006 @ 4:01 PM |
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Say_Yes
Posts: 2,226
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There is no hard and fast answer to that. Some guys will see it as so, while others won't. Heck, some guys will think you want to have sex with them no matter what you do.
My advice, don't worry about it. This guy obviously thought that was what you meant (or at least he wanted to make you think that), but don't think that every guy would.
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| May 5, 2006 @ 7:07 PM |
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kinglouis2005
Posts: 856
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EEK what a loser....Sure you are nvited to the house and as a guy may "think" thats an invite..So go ahead and try!
if she passes why verbalize it or sulk?
Thats stoopid.
You start with subtle hints then maybe a carress or kiss if things get heated move on. If not then stop..big deal..
Drop him like a bad habit please.
thanks
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| May 5, 2006 @ 7:58 PM |
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LSU79
Posts: 323
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No, it's not a code, and even if he got that impression he should have handled the "no" with alot more grace.
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| May 5, 2006 @ 11:53 PM |
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AngelLight
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| May 8, 2006 @ 12:48 PM |
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father_heart
Posts: 1,110
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thats the difference ya get of dating men verses boys
better luck next time?
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| May 8, 2006 @ 1:35 PM |
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HARDNTX
Posts: 125
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I would not think that if you invited me over for dinner at your place for the 2nd date that that was a "signal" to have sex.And if I WAS "sorta expecting" sex and you expained to me (after I made a advance) that you are VERY ATTRACTED to me but just not ready to "go there" that would make me....well....fell very special.
He handled it very "childish" and you should move on...if it had been me...trust me I would waiting for the next invite.....sex or no sex....
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| May 8, 2006 @ 1:46 PM |
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Lee_Danger
Posts: 4,517
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If you invite a guy over for dinner on the second date...is that like code speak to men for "I want to have sex with you"?
uh... yeah.
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| May 8, 2006 @ 1:50 PM |
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ChgoSingleDad
Posts: 292
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No, it's not "code speak" for "I want to have sex with you"......
I think that is a big assumption on his part. I have been invited over plenty of times, on the 2nd or 3rd date, and NEVER do I assume I am going to "get some"
And then for the guy to get pissed off???? What a joke.... someone needs to grow up......
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| May 8, 2006 @ 1:59 PM |
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Atone74
Posts: 335
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OP:
Look this man had other ideas for this romantic evening you prepared. Sex shold be mutual. If he got upset, that is an instant RED FLAG... I personally??? Would move on and not think twice about it.. It's ot meant to be..
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| May 8, 2006 @ 1:59 PM |
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Atone74
Posts: 335
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OP:
Look this man had other ideas for this romantic evening you prepared. Sex shold be mutual. If he got upset, that is an instant RED FLAG... I personally??? Would move on and not think twice about it.. It's ot meant to be..
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| May 8, 2006 @ 3:33 PM |
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Michael2972
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If you invite a guy over for dinner on the second date...is that like code speak to men for "I want to have sex with you"?
No. Not all men are horn dogs. If he was really interested in you it wouldn't be a big deal to wait.
So did I lead him on...unintentionally?
I don't think you did. I've invited women over for dinner and never went on the assumption that anything was going to happen.
thats the difference ya get of dating men verses boys
You said it father heart. 
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| May 8, 2006 @ 4:56 PM |
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grumblebear
Posts: 10,559
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Dating is a strange game...
The Media has pushed all types of strange rules and standards on us...
what was acceptable 40 years ago is Barbaric... (in the movie the quiet man, the neighbor woman gives John Wayne a tree branch to beat Maureen O'Hara) and people chuckle over it...
"When she says no, she means Yes"... where did this come from? or the old playing hard to get... come on...
so many mixed signals and messages, no one knows what to think...
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| May 9, 2006 @ 11:13 AM |
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father_heart
Posts: 1,110
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LEE!!!! We had diner once already, remember? when you gona come for Dinner number 2?!?!?!?!?! 
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| May 10, 2006 @ 4:41 AM |
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tendermister
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Uh... NO.... misunderstandings can be avoided by clearly stating what one's intentions are or are not. A 2nd date, with or without dinner ought to never be grounds for an assumptive position that sex shall ensue.
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| May 10, 2006 @ 9:29 PM |
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AutumnSilk
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Only and I mean only,If I invite you to my house for dinner on our second date and I show up at the door naked you can ASSume that it's a sexual invitation.
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