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| May 22, 2006 @ 1:11 AM |
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richmondcowgirl83
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I recently have run into an old friend of mine from highschool. A friend that I happened to have the worlds biggest crush on. He's pretty much been missing off the face of the earth for about a year now. I come to find out he was in jail. He recently gotten out & we ended running into each other at a gas station. We talked & got caught up. I found out he was locked up for taking indecent liberties with a minor... appearently she was 14 but lied. He wants to see me again. Should I bother or just be really freaked out that he is a sex offender now.
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| May 22, 2006 @ 2:38 AM |
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willsmalto
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he was jailed for sexually offending a 14-year old...oh God! I just can't figure that out. too much of a thing to bear.
well, despite his vice, if you think you really like him, why not give it a shot. he might be the love of your life, who knows?
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| May 22, 2006 @ 7:38 AM |
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bryan2992
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well, if she lied to him then he doesnt necesserily (spell check) have a thing for minors. If he still seems like the same person you have always liked then I say go for it
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| May 22, 2006 @ 8:29 AM |
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CynCity
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Personally, I'd be a little freaked out. Maybe that's because I have a 14-year old, and his girl friends may look mature, but it's pretty obvious they aren't adults after 5 minutes of talking to them. Just kind of my take on things.
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| May 22, 2006 @ 8:39 AM |
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sweet_n_small1
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To be honest, it would probably freak me out a bit too. I have a boy that is 15, and I know alot of his girl "friends" look older I still think it would be difficult to be fooled by a 14 year old long enough to actually be messing around with her. Keep in mind, too, that no matter where he goes, he will most likely always have to register as a sex offender. That could be hard to deal with as well. JMHO
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| May 22, 2006 @ 8:47 AM |
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MotownManiax
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I found out he was locked up for taking indecent liberties with a minor... appearently she was 14 but lied. He wants to see me again. Should I bother or just be really freaked out that he is a sex offender now.
Just pretend you're 14. 
Seriously, I guess this is where both genders can get carried away with crushes. Quick question: are you looking for something strictly physical or long term with this guy? If it's short term I don't see the harm in at least going out a couple times, but I would strongly recommend against anything more. He sounds like a player.
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| May 22, 2006 @ 10:40 AM |
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jim9562
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i'm sure it was all a big mistake anyways,,,he must have thought she was at least 14 1/2
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| May 22, 2006 @ 12:29 PM |
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definitelydi
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Based on previous posts, this doesn't seem like it would be a huge quandry for you, as you seem very open minded. I agree with Mo, if you want something physical, then go for it!
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| May 22, 2006 @ 12:42 PM |
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richmondcowgirl83
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normally it wouldn't except for the fact that my duaghter's oldest sister has been coming to see me alot... she's 10 but look 20. Again yeah if you talk to her you will know she's 10. I just don't want to put her in a situtation that might end up bad & I don't want to end up killing an old friend. My maternal side is showing.
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| May 22, 2006 @ 12:58 PM |
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willsmalto
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she's 10 but look 20.
oh too bad for you lady! at first I said you could give it a shot but please I'm afraid i'm gonna have to take back my words. you'll likely share the same boyfriend with your daughter if you dare give this guy a chance. my mom always tells me " once a cheater, always a cheater". so take heed!
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| May 22, 2006 @ 1:13 PM |
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CynCity
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Because I have a younger daughter in the home, I know there would be no absolutely decision to be made on this...I wouldn't take any risks. But I do give credit to the guy for telling you up front and allowing you to make an informed decision.
just don't want to put her in a situtation that might end up bad
That's a pretty big variable in making your decision, and I would hope he would understand that a conviction makes for a larger risk factor. I do know of a woman in a similar situation, they ended up married and he avoided being alone with any of her grandchildren at all costs, so maybe the concern goes both ways.
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| May 22, 2006 @ 2:11 PM |
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ladyfae
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Well search the soul. He 'said' she lied. What if she didn't? What if he knew and to soften the blow of his convictions he told you that she lied?
My sister's now ex husband did something similar. He had sex with a 16 yr old and claimed she was 18, she supposedly lied. Well the police intercepted the emails they were exchanging and to our surprise, he was guilty and knew she was just 16. He was buying pot, and booze for sex.
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| May 22, 2006 @ 2:16 PM |
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sweet_n_small1
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That is something to think about. I mean, I doubt anyone is going to admit knowing she was 14, even if he DID know. I would have to say it would be better to err on the side of overcaution because of the young girl that is in the house.
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| May 22, 2006 @ 2:27 PM |
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MotownManiax
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....I didn't know about the older looking 10-yr-old. When it comes to kids take no chances. Break off contact with this guy, period. 
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| May 22, 2006 @ 5:32 PM |
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walkingman
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I don't care if the girl did lie. I am sure he had to have some idea that she was on the younger side. I would avoid him at all cost's.
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| May 22, 2006 @ 6:59 PM |
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Pete73052
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If the judge didn't buy his story, and the jury didn't buy his story, why in the world would YOU buy his story?  Of course he's going to tell you she lied. The only other explanation he could give you is "I'm a pedophile". Move along - nothing to see here... 
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| May 22, 2006 @ 7:04 PM |
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CynCity
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They don't call them predators for nothing. Predators prey on the weak, and they do so slowly and quiety, rarely wearing a big sign indicating what they're up to.
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| May 22, 2006 @ 7:21 PM |
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Say_Yes
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To paraphrase a friend of mine, felonies are not sexy. Move on.
I could not agree more. Well said.
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| May 23, 2006 @ 12:38 AM |
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WickedWench
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I just don't want to put her in a situtation that might end up bad
I find it interesting that you think this at all. Something bugging at you? Like maybe this guy really is a perv? You want to take that chance and possibly expose a child to this? And for what? You're the adult here so you have to make decisions that are going to be safe for everyone and even considering this is pretty scary
I also find it interesting that you're asking about whether you should be freaked out.
What I don't understand is why you would even consider giving this man the time of day. He's been convicted of something very heinous. Regardless of what he "tells you", you have to know in your heart of hearts this is just a bad plan waiting to be.
Lose him. Tell him you're boinking the town cop or whatever but lose him.
Just so you know? Sexual predators can NEVER BE HEALED. NEVER!!! They have THE highest recidivism rate which means the chances of his reoffending is VERY HIGH. And you want to expose children to this man unncessarily?
And this is the first time he's been CAUGHT.. Think on that.. CAUGHT. It's wrong all the way around RichmondGirl. I know you're open minded but this IS crossing the line to the "other side".
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| May 23, 2006 @ 1:35 AM |
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Always_Striving
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Try to use some intuition, don't let your fantasies rule out any possibilities. Take care.
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