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| Jun 17, 2006 @ 11:24 PM |
Sexual deviancy: A gender bias?
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RareQuestor
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Maybe it is just the way that I was raised, but I tend to view sexual deviancy as strictly a male phenomenon. If I am chatting on Yahoo, for example, and a female asks to see me naked on webcam, I automatically assume that it is a male impersonating a female. If I get a raunchy e-mail from a women, I assume it is from a male impersonating a female. I am just wondering if I am being unfair to my own gender. Can women truly be as perverted as men? 
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| Jun 17, 2006 @ 11:28 PM |
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spongebob777
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Can women truly be as perverted as men?
It was a woman that made me the kink I am today. 
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| Jun 17, 2006 @ 11:54 PM |
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torees121
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I do think that some women can be perverted, but you are probably right with it really being men.
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| Jun 18, 2006 @ 12:38 AM |
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lacyvsq
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The connotations for deviancy, kinky and perverted are all different for me. Sexual deviancy connotes (for me) an individual preference that is out of the norm and maybe a bit injurious to self -- like self mutilation or certain piercings or implements which might cause pain or humiliation to one's self. Kinky connotes more of a playfulness that is also a little out of the norm like role playing and wearing costumes. Perverted for me connotes something illegal or bordering on illegal or injurious to another -- peeping tom, pedophilia, indecent exposure.
By my definitions, I would probably expect there to be more testosterone in perverted behavior, a balance of gender participation in kink and more women deviants -- tho maybe not terribly disproportionate. But those are just guesses on my part and there are always exceptions to any generalization.
I think a little kink can be healthy; I'm not so sure about deviancy or perversions.
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| Jun 18, 2006 @ 1:08 AM |
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painter007
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Duh! just look at me....lol
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| Jun 18, 2006 @ 1:19 AM |
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EvoPsych
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You bet they can....Its just not quite as common as it is in males.
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| Jun 18, 2006 @ 4:38 PM |
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WickedWench
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Can women truly be as perverted as men?
I dont think using the word perverted is the right adjective? Are women as sexually open and assertive? Course they are. Why wouldn't they be? That doesn't make them perverted or "bad" as the word perverted connotates. Part of the reason women might be more discreet about it is because of the ridiculous labelling that still goes on in society.
If I disclose to you that I love oral sex and I crave it, chances are some schmuk in the audience is going to say "slut" or "whore". (I personally don't care what you say or think though so it's irrelevant to me) I've seen men on here refer to sexually open women as "sluts". Double standards are alive and well.
And it's not perverted. It's healthy, normal sexual appetite. And it might just be women that are asking you to switch your webcam on Rare 
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| Jun 18, 2006 @ 8:02 PM |
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chinabull2000
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Deviancy and/or perversion is simply a matter of perspective. What some people may find perverted may be the norm to others.
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| Jun 18, 2006 @ 9:52 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
Posts: 10,952
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psssh, please.
i used to freak the hell out of every single one of my guy friends with how open i was about sex and the human body. my friends used to say when I'd arrive
"Look, it's Renae, and of course, she brought the gutter!"
If I had a dollar for every time I've mentioned something "dirty" since 6th grade I might be richer than Bill Gates.
Also, the new generation of woman is horny and proud of it. She's not afraid to let anyone know and doesn't see it as something to be ashamed of. Trust me, I am her.
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| Jun 18, 2006 @ 11:10 PM |
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momma24
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bravo girl!!    So when a woman tells you what she wants sexually in bed for instance...while you are in the moment...is that passion...knowledge...or dirty? That is a woman knowing what she likes, and wants. Some men like porn, some women like porn. I think women were not social about their desires because it was not socially accepted even a little while ago. But as they always do, things have changed. Women can voice their desires, and not feel "bad" about it, because that is what our society is...sex sex sex. And for the women who enjoy it....(safely).... 
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| Jun 18, 2006 @ 11:13 PM |
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WickedWench
Posts: 1,613
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^^^^^^^
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| Jun 20, 2006 @ 11:00 AM |
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SylvanDreams
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Not all of them are, but some women can be as raunchy or sexually "deviant" as men, they just don't usually show it because of the reasons mentioned above (double standard).
Being in the anonymous world of the Internet frees women up to be themselves moreso than they might feel able to be in a face-to-face situation. The anonymity removes much of the "danger" of reaction she might get in person (shock, horror, disgust, name-calling, etc.). When putting herself "out there" online, all she will have to deal with is written words, which don't carry the sting of facial expressions and outraged voices. Rejection and scorn can be easier to deal with when they are only written words.
Also, if she is just playing around or "testing the waters," she can tease and torment online....then disappear without having any consequences (i.e., having to follow through, or getting verbally or physically abused when she didn't follow through--it's easy enough to delete a email message without reading it).
It seems that both sexes get bolder when online and protected by anonymity. Guys, as well as girls, flirt and carry on cybersexually, without intent of follow-through, something they might never consider doing in person.
It's not deviance, just sexuality....women can express themselves more freely in cyberspace than they have felt able to do when in person. (And not all of them are teasing flirts who will disappear.....)
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| Jun 20, 2006 @ 12:46 PM |
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WickedWench
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Being in the anonymous world of the Internet frees women up to be themselves moreso than they might feel able to be in a face-to-face situation.
Very well said Sylvan.
(And not all of them are teasing flirts who will disappear.....
I'm the exact same way in person that I am on here or on a messenger so if I am attracted or turned on enough by you to flirt or tease, you can bet your sweet little ass I'm gonna be all over you like a fly on honey in person.
Praise "middle aged old broads".....!!!!!!
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| Jun 20, 2006 @ 12:54 PM |
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chinabull2000
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It's not deviance, just sexuality....women can express themselves more freely in cyberspace than they have felt able to do when in person. (And not all of them are teasing flirts who will disappear.....) Very nicely put, and I must say that it is great to see women being more open about their sexuality these days, very refreshing!! 
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| Jun 21, 2006 @ 3:07 AM |
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painter007
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Ahem... I knew I wasnt deviant..............
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| Jun 21, 2006 @ 5:47 AM |
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chinabull2000
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Ahem... I knew I wasnt deviant.............. Well, only in a good way! 
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| Jun 21, 2006 @ 4:37 PM |
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SylvanDreams
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Praise "middle aged old broads".....!!!!!!
You go, Wench! I think being older and ....maybe wiser....also frees women up to be more open about their sexuality.
You're not deviant, Painter, just liberated and accepting of your sexuality. It's a good thing!
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| Jun 21, 2006 @ 11:55 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
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I think being older and ....maybe wiser....also frees women up to be more open about their sexuality.
I disagree. I do find some older women that are open about their sexuality, but with most of them it's a subject they're uncomfortable discussing. However, with me and my friends, we talk about it ALL THE TIME. Joke about it, share techniques, share stories, etc etc. Maybe that's because we're "young and our hormones are raging"....but we're done with puberty. I am telling you, and I mentioned this before, there is a whole new generation of woman who is not afraid of her sex drive and is not afraid of her sexuality or talking about any of it.
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| Jun 23, 2006 @ 1:37 PM |
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SylvanDreams
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LGQ, didn't you say in a different thread that you would not have sex with a partner until you were years into the relationship? And you're only 19?
I am confused between that statement, and what you said up above, which seems to indicate that you have major sexual experience.
(Note: please do not take this as a putdown in any way--I am simply confused as to where you're coming from.....maybe I am mistaken in thinking you made the statement I first mentioned....?)
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| Jun 23, 2006 @ 8:51 PM |
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LipGlossQueen9
Posts: 10,952
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LGQ, didn't you say in a different thread that you would not have sex with a partner until you were years into the relationship? And you're only 19?
1. I have been in a relationship that lasted three years...I didn't know that people who were young couldn't have long lasting serious relationships.
2. Since when does giving a blowjob or a handjob, or recieving oral sex or anything that counts as foreplay equal sex? Why would you assume that if I'm talking about sexuality I mean penetration? Being that you're older and wiser, I would think that you would know there are many facets to human sexuality.
3. This is the second time you've asked me to explain myself. Do you think I am a liar??? I can assure you, I'm not.
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