| Sep 24 @ 8:55 AM |
Personal Preference or 'Religious Superiority'??
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oct_cat
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Which is it . . .
A person is a member of a particular faith and is comfortable with the teachings they have come to know. That person feels strongly enough that if ever entering into a long-term relationship which could possibly lead to marriage, they want it to be with someone who is an active member of the same faith.
But this person has friends & family of various other religious & non-religious backgrounds.
Does this person automatically get labeled as someone who thinks their religion is superior, or is it a valid personal preference?? 
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| Sep 24 @ 9:18 AM |
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yashaenka
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Only if this hypothetical person goes around expounding on it. What is anathema to people who are reality based is anyone who expounds on something that is mystical which never can be proved then they tell you if you do believe as I do your next like will be hell.
There are billions of people who every day exist with some belief system who do not go around preaching to others about some Blind Faith concept.
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| Sep 24 @ 9:21 AM |
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hammertime
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I think it might be hard for a Democrat and a Republican to be married, or even date.
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| Sep 24 @ 9:25 AM |
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oct_cat
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LOL hammer . . . no doubt!
yash . . . this person does not go around 'preaching', or 'expounding'. This person is friends & even best friends with those of other faiths & there is no "conversion" expected. But for ltr and/or marriage, they want to be with someone who understands what they understand, someone they acan share those understandings with . . . not to mention active involvement in their church.
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| Sep 24 @ 9:29 AM |
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Thor1960303
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Does this person automatically get labeled as someone who thinks their religion is superior, or is it a valid personal preference??
Depends on the person and the religion. If it's the matter of just joining say, the Catholic church or the Baptist church, at least in my family, no one questions it, it's just a prefference.
If it's a cult typre religion that demands a polarization between members and non members, then the rest of the family will view it as a problem and may seek to de program that person.
I have a cousin who has been a member of the Full Gospel Assembly for almost 30 years which has been listed as a dangerous cult that seeks to take full control over a member's life, up to and including their finances, love life and property. Occasionally he surfaces and visits, but his visits are brief and conversation always gets steered toward religion, where ALL family members, religious and non religious alike get bored and irritated with him. He's seen as the oddball of the family, which is a title he's always had even before he became a member of the cult.
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| Sep 24 @ 9:32 AM |
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oct_cat
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plain old christian religion . . . nothing exotic or cult-like (tho some maye label most religions as cults, lol).
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| Sep 24 @ 9:42 AM |
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sail_dancer
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Marriage is for the living, not the dead. It is sharing the experiences of life to the fullest with a mate of your choice. Having the same belief is important but not the only ingredient necessary for a marriage to work. Jesus tells us that there is no marriage in heaven, so why would anyone consider belief or disbelief in a hereafter a requirement for marriage?
People tend to base there beliefs on life experiences. As people age and acquire more wisdom, their beliefs may change along the way. If you were in a happy and sound relationship or marriage and your better half's beliefs underwent change, would you terminate that relationship or marriage because of this change?
Good topic by the way.
Peace
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| Sep 24 @ 9:49 AM |
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lazareth
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I think it might be hard for a Democrat and a Republican to be married, or even date.
funny Hammer, I'm a democrat, hubby is a republican.... 
we don't discuss politics
OT....Does this person automatically get labeled as someone who thinks their religion is superior, or is it a valid personal preference
IMO.... what other people think shouldn't matter. If the others not in the relationship make a deal out of it, then they have issues they need to come to grips with.
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| Sep 24 @ 9:51 AM |
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yashaenka
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A problem can always exist when two people even of the same faith diverge over a period of time. Where one gets more religious and the other starts pulling away from that belief system. Many a divorce happened because of this.
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| Sep 24 @ 9:59 AM |
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Heaveninawildflower
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As always, it will depend on the people and how they think. If they think that their partner's affiliation with a religion other than theirs is a rejection of them, as well as their choice in religion, it will be a problem. If they're secure in their faith that their partner loves them in spite of their differences, it won't be a problem.
I think that's basically true for politics too...look at Carville and Matalin! 
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| Sep 24 @ 10:00 AM |
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beckyiv42000
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I would think as long as the religion was not harmful to others as in cultish then how or what they believe is up to the individual person... only if they were made to attend the others church would I see a a problem... I know a lot of folks whose beliefs is so strong in their faith they would rather choose it over being married...then there are others I know that altho their faith is strong they can understand and accept if another does not share their belief and live contented happy lives with that person. i have always thought that religion is like loyalty.. you cannot FORCE someone to be loyal it has to come from within and if you try to force them you run the risk of dealing with a traitor... with religion you cannot force someone to believe they might go thru the motions but will prolly resent being made to do so..whereas if you show by example and they follow of their OWN volition you have a true believer...
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| Sep 24 @ 10:12 AM |
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Cynbaby
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I have always embraced different beliefs and it has never been an issue in my family when anyone has had a "mixed" religious marriage.
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| Sep 24 @ 10:13 AM |
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16knots
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Depends on the persons personality in every aspect and the type of religion.
If there is a "religious" partner, there are always invariably problems and difficulties to overcome. Usually it is the other partner having to relent or pay "respect" what ever way you wish to take that.
Personally as particular type of Buddhist it has been almost impossible to practice therefore had to take the practice into the marriage. The marriage became the practice, that is taking the experience to develop love, compassion and wisdom.
Buddhism has no bounds with respect to partnerships, creed, race, education or anything therefore the Buddhist shouldn't have a problem with the partner practicing whatever they wish or do. In my personal experiences of knowing so many Buddhists , it has in every case been the partner that has caused the problems. Buddhism is usually an outsider to social acceptability for family, friends, relatives, etc. Usually get the same old tosh... Buddha is God, pray to Gods, its heathen, its depressing, its this, or its that, and in almost every case this information is absolute nonsense.
In all seriousness Christians are the biggest problem. Another religion is totally against their own beliefs and scripture. I dont mean good Christians that bend the rules 
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| Sep 24 @ 10:26 AM |
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yashaenka
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As far as religions go is it not the Catholics and Jewish faiths institutions that require both members to adopt their religion before they will perform a ceremony. In the case of Christians some churches do this and others don't.
Islam may or may not require this also, I am not sure.
Rules and laws is it not funny that the 10 Commandments are only rules, not laws.
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| Sep 24 @ 10:42 AM |
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oct_cat
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It can vary . . . I married in the catholic church . . . he was agnostic, never batized, etc. It was still allowed. He was not required to adopt the beliefs.
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| Sep 24 @ 10:44 AM |
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yashaenka
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You mean to say the Catholic church has gone against it's own teachings in our modern day society?
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| Sep 24 @ 10:50 AM |
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oct_cat
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well, that was 20 yrs ago . . . but we were allowed to marry in my church . . . he later (about 12 trs later) became catholic, tho for the wrong reasons.
We were required to take the "pre cana" or pre-marriage thing before getting married. I think they possible had to get "permission" for it to happen, I don't remember anymore.
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| Sep 24 @ 10:53 AM |
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yashaenka
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He probably had to study Catechism.
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| Sep 24 @ 10:57 AM |
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oct_cat
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No, he didn't until he decided to join the church.
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| Sep 24 @ 11:01 AM |
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yashaenka
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Yes I know that typically a Priest interviews the both of you if you wish to be married in the church and the study of Catechism a minimum requirement.
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