| Oct 14, 2006 @ 3:21 AM |
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Angel54214
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Jade Ferrando a 5 year old little girl is fighting to gain her life back. Her Mom had to leave her to serve the Army and station in Iraq. The Mom gave power of attorney to her boyfriend and had to leave Jade in is care. I cried when I read the story and seen the photos. He is in jail for neglect of Jade, he starved her almost to death while Mom was fighting this dreadful war.
Please be advised on posted sites cause they are graphic. Hope all who read this recent story will pray for Jade and her Mom:
 
http://www.ksl.com/?nid=148&sid=460317#
http://deseretnews.com/dn/view/0,1249,645200116,00.html
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| Oct 14, 2006 @ 3:33 AM |
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daniel_at_ipfw
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OH MY.... That is an awful story and is absolutely heartbreaking..... What kind of person could do something so awful to a child.
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| Oct 14, 2006 @ 8:27 AM |
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spongebob777
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Just a few months back we had a similar case only the father is serving in the Balkan quagmire. The idiot mother was seeing a crack addict while the father was overseas. She went to protest the Iraq war and the daughter with the crack addict who raped and murdered the 7 year old child.
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| Oct 14, 2006 @ 8:57 AM |
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Jankia
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On Thursday, Bowden missed his fourth roll-call hearing in the case, refusing to come out of his Salt Lake County Jail cell.
Leave that worthless sicko in his cell with no food,he'll come out when hes hungry enough. 
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| Oct 14, 2006 @ 9:33 AM |
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Always_Striving
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The mother could have been "chaptered out". The U.S. army has a provision that enables singles parents to receive an honorable discharge if they are unable to get a Family Care Plan together (transferring the power of attorney). It is sad to hear the results but it was irresponsible of the mother to be in the army while either becoming pregnant or being a single parent without giving her child up for adoption or finding a suitable caretaker. That is life as sad and unfortunate as it seems.
See this document for references
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| Oct 14, 2006 @ 11:26 AM |
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twotall911
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Its a sad sight when the young have to pay the price and if you try to correct what has been done, to the person that did it,youll go to jail on a felony charge
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| Oct 14, 2006 @ 12:57 PM |
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Angel54214
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From reading some of the website info., the mom was asking for an extention leave only due to her situation before this all happened, she chose this services to be able to support her child being a single mom and the child's needed medical attention on Cerabal Palsy. Haven't seen any updates for this month on confirming my guess here or what the results turned out to be.
I hope the SOB rots in jail for ever! 
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| Oct 14, 2006 @ 1:03 PM |
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Jankia
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if you try to correct what has been done, to the person that did it,youll go to jail on a felony charge
Not if youve got an angle.German Shepards are a good angle to have. 
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| Oct 14, 2006 @ 1:05 PM |
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Angel54214
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Or a breeding stock of Pit Bulls 
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| Oct 14, 2006 @ 3:35 PM |
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everrett
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If this was not a true story, I would think you were all crazy to believe it. You can usually point to some "reason" that people do something reprehensible, however this just does not make any sense.
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| Oct 14, 2006 @ 4:49 PM |
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SunBabe
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The mother could have been "chaptered out". The U.S. army has a provision that enables singles parents to receive an honorable discharge if they are unable to get a Family Care Plan together (transferring the power of attorney). It is sad to hear the results but it was irresponsible of the mother to be in the army while either becoming pregnant or being a single parent without giving her child up for adoption or finding a suitable caretaker. That is life as sad and unfortunate as it seems.
Good lord, she DID transfer "power of attorney" to someone she THOUGHT would be a good caretaker: her boyfriend, who I'm sure she thought she could trust. It looks like she'll be transferring power of attorney and caretaking to the grandfather now.
IRRESPONSIBLE? She's providing an income AND medical benefits to a disabled child. By WORKING. It was Uncle Sam's choice to send her overseas to Iraq. If every single parent (male OR female) chapters themself out, would YOU be willing to make up the difference to help maintain the size of our forces?  Would YOU be willing to pay for their welfare and medical care? Yeh, right.
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| Oct 14, 2006 @ 7:24 PM |
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Angel54214
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Good post "Sun".. 
The Mother wasn't "becoming pregnant". The child is 5 years old! The Mother did not go into the army until spring of '06. She was originally stationed in Texas, the governement shipped her off to Iraq.
Her boyfriend, who she loved and trusted should not have accepted power of attorney if he could not continue to be resposible for the child and in knowing the Mother was in the service, that alone is a long haul.
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| Oct 16, 2006 @ 1:52 AM |
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WickedWench
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it was irresponsible of the mother to be in the army while either becoming pregnant or being a single parent without giving her child up for adoption or finding a suitable caretaker. That is life as sad and unfortunate as it seems
Who do you think is going to populate your damn army Striving? This mother was NOT on Welfare...she's over fighting a WAR for YOUR sorry ASS!!!! Protecting YOUR SORRY ASS while you criticize her? And earning a living while she's at it!!! You want to talk about role modelling?
Irresponsible? When you grow a set of BALLS and become a parent and THEN your relationship does NOT work out, THEN talk about being responsible. You don't just DITCH A KID because the relationship went south. THAT is irresponsible!!! Your THINKING is irresponsible!!
Nice of you to comment on something you know nothing about
You've just insulted every damn female on THIS SITE and every woman who ever picked up a weapon to defend YOUR SORRY ASS.
You should be ashamed of yourself.
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| Oct 16, 2006 @ 3:08 AM |
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Always_Striving
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^
[Edited on 10/16/2006 3:45 AM]
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| Oct 16, 2006 @ 5:47 AM |
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jamminjerry
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i will continue to volunteer to replace any person who does not want to endure the ineptitude of our military! oh, just in case, i did 4 in the A F and 2 in the Army. so, i am very qualified! a few months of physical training and bingo! first class soldier! 
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| Oct 16, 2006 @ 12:21 PM |
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ravensday
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It is sad to hear the results but it was irresponsible of the mother to be in the army while either becoming pregnant or being a single parent without giving her child up for adoption or finding a suitable caretaker. That is life as sad and unfortunate as it seems.
And let me see, irresponsible? Your an idiot. The mother was doing what she felt was best for herself and her child. If it were not for her sacrifice then who do you think they would have sent, do you have a daughter you would care to send? A son maybe? And yes, they do have a Family Care Plan, and it sounds as if she had one. Duh that is why she was deployed. And just why the hell should she have given her child up for adoption? Are you of the mindset that unless the Army issues you a family, then you shouldnt have one? And I also belive that this soldier felt that the person she left her child with was a SUITABLE caretaker. And this happens all the time. Husband deploy and the wife is unable to deal with the stress of the deployment, her work, the kids, she takes on all the duties and responsbilites of both parents and is unable to cope. Wives deploy and the same is true of husbands.
There is help within the Army if it is requested. However, I think that the Army needs to do more for the families of its deployed soliders. Make the FRG (family readiness groups) mandatory for attendance, have Social Work Services visit the family mid-tour and see how things are going IN THE HOME. You will never know how many families on FT. Stewart needed this! Make the Rear Detachment Soldiers more knowing of child abuse and what to watch for. Have Chaplin Services call or visit to check up on the families, and have the FRG leaders, Co-leaders and POC's to do the same!
Well thankfully the Army does not belive the way you do. They do have all sorts of programs in place for family members these days. It is sad that this mother was sent to Iraq, however, that is her job. She knew when she enlisted that the possbility exsisted. The Army will help her now and will most probably either assist her with finding someone to take care of her child (within her FRG) if there is no family to help or let her get out if she wants out of the Army.
I hope all works out for this mother. And that her child gets the help and care that she needs if the mother re-deployes.
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| Oct 16, 2006 @ 7:12 PM |
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Always_Striving
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Another ^
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| Oct 16, 2006 @ 9:14 PM |
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twotall911
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the military does help with any crisis at home, and they are expedited to make sure its done, anyone that was in the military knows that its called emergancy leave
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| Oct 16, 2006 @ 9:27 PM |
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Angel54214
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I just curious regarding what you said "twotall", does that include both active duty and non-active duty?
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| Oct 16, 2006 @ 9:58 PM |
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Always_Striving
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I just wanted to add more information on how the situation with deployed soldiers should be handled in addition to the link I provided above.
Family Care Plans
The requirement for Family Care Plan is covered in paragraph 5-5, Army Regulation 600-20 Army Command Policy. The Army requires a Family Care Plan to ensure that a Soldier’s family members have adequate care when the Soldier is deployed on Temporary Duty, or otherwise not available due to military requirements.
IAW paragraph 5-5 of the above reference, commanders will conduct family care counseling and require all Soldiers who fall into one of the below categories, regardless of rank, to complete a Family Care Plan.
Pregnant Soldier who has no spouse; is divorced, widowed, or separated; or is residing without her spouse.
Pregnant Soldier who is married to another service member of an Active or Reserve Component of any service.
A Soldier who has no spouse; is divorced, widowed or separated or is residing apart from his or her spouse; who has joint or full legal and physical custody of one or more family members under the age of 19 or who has adult family member(s) incapable of self-care regardless of age.
A Soldier who is divorced (not remarried) and who has liberal or extended visitation rights by court decree which would allow family members to be solely in the Soldier’s care in excess of 30 consecutive days.
A Soldier whose spouse is incapable of self-care or is otherwise physically, mentally, or emotionally disabled so as to require special care or assistance.
A Soldier categorized as half of a dual-military couple of the Active Army or Reserve Component of any service who has joint or full legal custody of one or more family members under age 19 or who has adult family member(s) incapable of self-care regardless of age.
Your completed family care plan consists of the following documents:
a. DA Form 5304-R, Family Care Counseling Checklist, dtd APR 99. (MANDATORY).
b. DA Form 5305-R, Family Care Plan, dtd APR 99. (MANDATORY)
c. DA Form 5841-R, Power of Attorney, dtd APR 99, or equivalent delegation of legal control. (MANDATORY)
d. DA Form 5840-R, Certificate of Acceptance as Guardian or Escort, dtd APR 99. (MANDATORY)
e. DD Form 1172, Application for Uniformed Services Identification Card DEERS enrollment, dtd JUL 02. (MANDATORY ONE PER DEPENDENT)
f. DD Form 2558, Authorization to start, stop or change an allotment, dtd SEP 02, or other proof of financial support. (MANDATORY)
g. Letter of instruction from you to the guardian/escort. (MANDATORY)
h. It is strongly recommended that you also attach a copy of your current will. (OPTIONAL)
Family care plan submission suspense’s will be IAW AR 600-20 and are outlined below.
a. Pregnant Soldiers will be counseled as soon as the pregnancy is identified but NLT 90 days prior to childbirth. NLT 60 days prior to childbirth, the family care plan (DA Form 5305-R) must be completed showing the Soldier’s intention to have a completed plan. The entire family care plan with all required forms will be completed and recertified by the commander NLT 45 days after childbirth.
b. Other personnel must complete family care plans NLT 30 days after completion of DA Form 5304-R (Family Care Counseling Checklist). Commanders may authorize an additional 30 days (for a total of 60 days) after that date when circumstances warrant an exception. You must request this extension in writing, stating the specific reason, and it must be approved by the commander.
Commanders or their designated
representative must counsel all Soldiers that require a Family Care Plan, regardless of grade. Commanders must stress the Soldier’s obligation to both the military and to his/her family members and ensure the Soldier understands he/she will not receive special consideration because responsibilities to family members (except for family members enrolled in Exceptional Family Member Program). The Soldier must also be aware of the consequences for not having a Family Care Plan.
The Commander has several options when a Soldier fails to maintain an adequate Family Care Plan:
a. The Commander can consider initiating a bar to reenlistment against Soldiers who fail to properly manage personal, marital, or family affairs, or who fail to provide or maintain adequate Family Care Plans.
b. The Commander can consider initiating involuntary separation proceedings against Soldiers who fail to provide and maintain adequate Family Care Plans.
The Commander must do the following if a family Care Plan is found inadequate.
a. The Commander will provide a 30 day extension in order for the Soldier to develop an adequate Family Care Plan.
b. The Commander will provide the Soldier a reasonable period of time to attempt to rework a Family Care Plan found to be deficient at time of mobilization, processing for overseas movement, or deployment. Ordinarily, a Soldier will be afforded at least 30 days to correct deficiencies in a plan unless a shorter period is specified by the unit commander due to the urgency and/or nature of the deployment, or due to the nature of the deficiencies.
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